How to Love a Virgo Man

Co-authored by Stina Garbis and Amber Crain

Last Updated: August 16, 2024 Fact Checked

Do you want to win the heart of a special Virgo man? We have tons of tips! Men born under this sign are loyal and dependable, so they make great partners. That said, Virgos can be introverted and hard to read, especially at first, and it takes a little work to create an emotional bond with them. In this article, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about loving a Virgo. We'll also include some telltale signs that a Virgo man is head over heels in love.

Loving a Virgo Man

Keep your space organized and tidy.
Be loyal, attentive, honest, and patient.
Let him take charge sometimes.
Compliment him and support his dreams.
Give him space when he needs it.
Engage in witty banter and intellectual conversations.
Be calm and supportive in challenging times.

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Be organized and neat.

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Messy habits can actually be a deal breaker for this sign. Virgo men are extremely organized and have an intense need for cleanliness and order. They aren't going to budge on this, so it’s crucial that you accept this core personality trait as soon as you can.^{[1]
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- Put your dirty dishes in the dishwasher, don’t leave damp towels on his bathroom floor, and don’t mess with his color-coded closet system. Yes, your man is a bit anal—but it’s cute, right?
- Let him follow his daily schedule without interrupting his flow. His routine helps him feel grounded.

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Focus all of your attention on him.

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Complete loyalty is an absolute must. Virgos are very loyal and they expect their devotion to be returned. Your man is very observant and prone to jealousy, so keep that in mind when you’re interacting with other guys around him. And even though Virgos tend to be pretty flirtatious themselves, they don’t cheat on their partners. They are loyal through and through—you can count on that.^{[2]
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- Deep down, their jealousy streak stems from a fear of being hurt or abandoned.^{[3]
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Let him take the lead.

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Virgo men can be control freaks. They just can’t help it—they're shrewd perfectionists who insist on doing things their way. Since everything has to be just so, Virgos prefer to take the reins in most situations. Your man loves that you’re headstrong and outspoken, but at the end of the day, he's uncomfortable unless he's in the driver’s seat.^{[4]
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- For example, if you’re planning a vacation together, let him handle the itinerary. He’s probably already created a PowerPoint presentation with a color-coded list of his preferred activities.
- On the flip side, if your man loosens up and lets you take the lead sometimes, that means he trusts you. This is a big deal for Virgos.

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Boost his confidence with compliments.

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Virgos are prone to insecurity and self-doubt. This sign is known for being critical of everything, but most of all, they’re critical of themselves. Deep down, Virgos worry that they’re hopelessly flawed and frequently worry that they’re not good enough. Compliments will give your man a much-needed ego boost, especially when the chips are down. Your kind words will stick with him.^{[5]
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- You might say something like, "Your dedication to your work impresses me every single day, Darren. You inspire me to work harder at my own job."
- "Robert, this meal you cooked looks amazing! Seriously, I feel like I'm at a gourmet restaurant right now."

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Be open and honest with him.

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Observant Virgos can spot a lie a mile away and they're slow to forgive. This sign has a tendency to be distrustful; because of this, they scrutinize every detail. If there’s even a tiny discrepancy in your story, your man will point it out and demand answers. It’s best to just be transparent with him from the get-go.^{[6]
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- Even little white lies will upset a Virgo! For example, if he gives you a gift and you don't like it, he'll probably know just by looking at your facial expression. Just say "thank you" and tell him how much you appreciate the gesture.
- Reader Poll: We asked 15 readers who have dated a Virgo, and 86% of them agreed that open and honest communication is the best way to build a strong, trusting foundation with him. _{Take Poll.}

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Encourage him to pursue his goals.

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Virgo men are serious and goal-oriented folks. Virgos are hard-working individuals and their accomplishments are important to them. In fact, your man probably has a list of short term and long-term goals somewhere in his desk. That’s just how he rolls! Support him every step of the way and he’ll love you for it.^{[7]
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- Get him thinking about you when you're not around by encouraging him to explore his interests and hobbies.
- If your man tells you all about his goals and dreams, that's a really good sign. Virgos are slow to open up, so it's a big deal if he readily shares his private thoughts.

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Be patient with him.

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Virgos are cautious, so slow and steady is the best approach. This sign approaches everything in life, including relationships, in a methodical way. Their reserved natures can even make them seem a bit cold and aloof. Don’t be deterred! It takes a while for a Virgo to open up, but once they do, they’re all yours.^{[8]
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- Pushing a Virgo to open up when he isn't quite ready to do so can be a recipe for disaster. Just hang in there and let him open up in his own time.

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Give him plenty of personal space.

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Virgos can be social, but mostly they crave peace and quiet. Your man can be a bit of a hermit. He likes the comfort of home and he definitely needs regular intervals of alone time to recharge. As long as you give him the space he needs, he’ll always be there for you.^{[9]
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- Virgos love their private little worlds and fill their time by learning and exploring new things. If he invites you to share this time with him, your relationship is rock-solid.

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Strike up great conversations with him.

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Your man thinks your brain is just as sexy as your body. He values intelligence, witty banter, and good conversation.^{[10]
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Expert Interview. 14 February 2022.} Connecting mentally is really important to him, so don’t shy away from debates and interesting topics. And while Virgos are reserved in a lot of ways, they’re quite open-minded. They love dissecting things and looking at issues from all angles.^{[11]
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- Virgos aren’t big on small talk or gossip, but they’re down to dive deep when it comes to philosophical and political topics.

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Comfort him if he's feeling anxious.

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This sign needs an emotionally supportive partner. Virgos can be anxious and insecure, especially if things aren’t going their way and they feel like they don’t have control over things. Being vulnerable in front of other people is hard on him, so create a safe emotional space for him behind closed doors.^{[12]
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- If you can hold your man close at night and convince him everything will look brighter tomorrow, he’ll feel like the luckiest guy in the world.

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Control your emotions around him.

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Virgos are calm, cool, and collected. This sign doesn't like to be involved with chaos of any kind and will run for the hills if they have to navigate emotional turmoil. Try to remember that your man is reserved and craves stability. He just can’t handle sudden outbursts, constant bickering, or negative vibes.^{[13]
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- Virgos especially hate dealing with drama in public places. They find it super stressful and embarrassing. Avoid picking a fight with him in public at all costs.^{[14]
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Stina Garbis
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Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary.

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Listen to them and let them talk when they need to talk. Also, let them complain without stepping in! Try not to give too much advice to a Virgo man, as they like to think they know it all.

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