How to Make a Virgo Man Chase You

Written by Stina Garbis | Edited by Amber Crain

Last Updated: June 12, 2024 Fact Checked

Virgo men are loyal and dependable, but they can also be bit shy when it comes to romance. If you're interested in making a Virgo guy chase you, you'll need to catch his eye and appeal to some of his key personality traits. Once he's hooked, slow and steady wins the race, so be patient with him! In this article, we'll walk you through everything you need to know about attracting a Virgo man and getting him to chase you.

This article is based on an interview with our psychic astrologer, Stina Garbis, owner of Psychic Stina. Check out the full interview here.

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Look your best when you’re around him.

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Virgos appreciate well-groomed partners with a great sense of style. This sign is attracted to people who dress well, look neat, and take self-care seriously. Virgos have an all-seeing eye when it comes to little details, so pay special attention to your hair, nails, and shoes. Sophisticated clothing will catch his eye—avoid anything too wild or outlandish.^{[1]
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- Stick with basic clothing colors like cream, black, and brown. Virgos also appreciate nice materials like silk, leather, and suede.
- For example, if you’re going on a date, try a cream-colored silk top, black trousers, and a simple black leather belt.
- Virgos love clean, fresh scents. Stick with light, natural perfumes; avoid heavy florals and synthetic fragrances.

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Ask him to help you with something.

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Virgo men are helpers by nature and love to feel useful. Virgo males love to fix things and provide assistance in any way then can.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} Since your man is a natural problem solver, he’ll love it if you ask him for some practical advice or help with a project that you’re working on. Be sure to cater to his particular skills and interests, though—Virgos want to help people with things they’re actually good at.
- This sign is great with organizational projects, cleaning, and fixing things around the house. If you need help whipping your messy garage into shape, he'll jump at the chance to help bring order to your chaos.^{[3]
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- Reader Poll: We asked 434 wikiHow readers who've dated Virgo men, and 78% of them agreed that the best way to get them to take interest in you is by asking for help with a project. [Take Poll]

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Boost his confidence with compliments.

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People born under this sign can be prone to insecurity and self-doubt. This sign has a tough exterior, but deep down they’re hypercritical of themselves and tend to be their own worst enemies. Dropping a few sincere compliments will boost his ego and make him feel appreciated. Avoid heavy-handed compliments, though; Virgos can see right through them.^{[4]
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- For example, you might say something like, “You're so good at picking fabulous places to eat! I love that you know where all the best restaurants are.”
- You could say, “I really appreciate how well-read you are. I’m a bookworm myself and it’s refreshing to talk to someone about my favorite novels. If you have any book recommendations for me, I’m all ears.”

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Be clean, tidy, and organized.

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Virgos are perfectionists who value cleanliness and order. Virgos are the neat freaks of the zodiac! If you have a messy home or appearance, a Virgo will notice right away and it will likely be a deal breaker for him.^{[5]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} If you know he’s going to be around, make sure your living space, clothes, and car interior are spotless.^{[6]
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- Little things, like dirty dishes piled up in the sink, will drive this guy nuts.

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Impress him with your intelligence.

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Virgos are diehard intellectuals who live for stimulating conversation. Virgos value intelligence in others and often think a partner’s brain is just as sexy (if not sexier) than their body. This man loves witty banter and good conversation, so try chatting with him about interesting topics. If you can hold your own in a lively debate or philosophical discussion, he’ll be super impressed.^{[7]
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- On the flip side, Virgos aren’t big on meaningless small talk or celebrity gossip, so avoid frivolous conversation topics.

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Speak with class and dignity.

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Crude jokes and profanity are real turn-offs for Virgos. This sign tends to be conservative and they prefer partners who have a calm, tasteful, and dignified presence. And while Virgos have a great sense of humor, they don’t appreciate dirty jokes or vulgarity of any kind. Keep it classy and this guy will take notice!
- Virgos also don’t appreciate being the butt of jokes. It’s fine to tease him a little as long as you’re being lighthearted and sweet, but he’s likely to get offended if you pick on him or use heavy sarcasm.

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Be confident and independent.

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Virgos are serious about life and love it when their partner can match that vibe. Don’t hesitate to tell your man all about your goals and plans for the future—he’ll appreciate your ambition and commitment. And since Virgos are slow to open up, you might just inspire him to share some of his personal goals with you, too.

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Invite him to volunteer or do charity work.

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Virgo men are drawn to kindness and love to help those less fortunate. Appeal to his charitable nature by mentioning any causes that are close to your heart. He’ll be impressed if you mention volunteer work you’ve done or charities you’ve supported in the past. If you really want to intrigue him, invite him to take part in an upcoming charity function or community-based project.
- For example, you might say, “I’m doing some fundraising for a local women’s shelter. Would you be interested in sponsoring me or making a donation?”

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Be open and honest with him.

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This sign is attracted to honesty and hates mind games. Be direct and upfront when you’re talking to a Virgo man and he’ll notice your authenticity right away.^{[8]
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Expert Interview. 10 December 2021.} He’s a little distrustful by nature and doesn’t forgive easily. He’ll be drawn to you if you’re transparent with him from the get-go.
- Since your guy is very observant and intuitive, he can spot lies and insincerity a mile away.

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Encourage him to pursue his goals.

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In their minds, if they aren’t out there achieving goals, they’re wasting time! He won’t be satisfied unless he’s actively working toward his goals and will appreciate anyone who understands this. Supporting his projects and endeavors will help you win his heart.^{[9]
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Be patient with him.

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Virgos do things in their own time and hate to be rushed. Virgos prefer to move slowly in relationships. Don’t try to rush things with this guy or take your relationship to the next level until he’s ready. Give him plenty of time and space to open up on his own terms and he’ll feel understood and safe with you.^{[10]
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- Don’t mistake a Virgo’s shyness and reserved nature for lack of interest.
- If you try to push a Virgo, he’ll panic and feel trapped. For example, if you insist on spending every night together, your man will likely feel smothered. Be sure to give him plenty of space and let your relationship unfold organically.

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How do I win the heart of a Virgo man?

Stina Garbis
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Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary.

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It is very hard to get a Virgo to open up and to pursue you: you have to really intrigue them in a particular way. Virgo’s like honesty, availability and cleanliness, and they love to pitch in to help.

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How do you tell if a Virgo man secretly likes you?

Stina Garbis
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Reverend Stina Garbis is a Psychic Astrologer and the Owner of Psychic Stina. With over 30 years of experience, she specializes in providing personal and professional advice through astrology and tarot card readings. Reverend Stina has experience working with high-profile celebrities, sports figures, politicians, and CEOs. She has been featured in many publications, including Bustle, Vice, The New York Post, and Readers’ Digest and she also has a 200k+ following on TikTok. Stina holds an Ordained Minister License from The International Metaphysical Ministry University Seminary.

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A Virgo will stare at you from afar, and will follow you somehow without you knowing for some time if they are into you. If you make yourself open and not a hard target, that might get a shy and receptive sign like Virgo to approach.

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