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Fighting with your boyfriend is the worst, and you may be feeling angry, frustrated, or sad right now. Making him miss you is a good way to open his eyes and get him to realize that he could actually lose you. Plus, missing you shows that he really cares about you and your relationship. In this article, we'll tell you exactly how to get your boyfriend to miss you so you two can kiss and make up after a fight.

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Give him space for a couple of days.

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  1. It’s hard to give someone space, and it might feel like the exact opposite of what you want to do. However, a little distance now could help you grow closer later.[1] Stop calling and texting him for a few days, and don’t hang out with him. While you’re gone, he’ll realize how much he wants you in his life.
    • Space also gives you both time to calm down from the fight so you can have a healthy discussion when you talk again.
    • In general, you might give his space for up to 3 days after a fight.[2]
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Wait for him to text you first.

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  1. [3] Not only that, but waiting for him to text you first makes him work to get you back. Hopefully, he’ll realize that he really hurt you and will decide to make it better.
    • How do you get him to text you? Be active on social media and with your friends. Drop hints to mutual friends that you’re keeping busy. Word will get back to him, and he’ll realize you’re pulling away.
    • How long should you go without talking? It really depends on why you fought. In general, it’s normal to go quiet for 3 days to work through your hurt feelings. If you haven’t talked for a week, it might be a sign you’re rethinking the relationship.[4]
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Delay your responses to his texts.

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  1. You don’t need to wait forever.[5] Just let the text sit for 15 to 30 minutes to show him you aren’t waiting by the phone. From there, match your response times to his.
    • If he responds right away, you can, too. But if he’s waiting hours to respond, copy his long delays.
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Post a photo from a happy memory together.

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  1. At the same time, it can make him feel lonely, which will hopefully make him miss you.[8] To trigger his memories, post a photo from a happy moment you shared. You could also talk or write about how much you enjoyed an experience with him. Say:
    • “Thinking about the time Leo and I watched the sunset from the dunes.”
    • “Remembering nights riding down backroads in his truck.”
    • “Love this picture of the snow flurries while we looked at holiday lights.”
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Apologize for your part in the fight.

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  1. You’ll both need to apologize if you want to make up. If you can, ask to talk to him in person so you can have a heart-to-heart. Tell him you feel bad about what happened and that things will be better in the future.[11] Then, listen to how he feels about the situation.[12] Say:
    • “I’m so sorry that I yelled at you. In the future, I’ll try harder to speak to you respectfully.”
    • “I’m sorry I got mad that you needed time with your friends. I felt lonely, but next time I’ll call my friends instead of asking you to cancel plans.”
    • “I really apologize for storming off. I should have told you I needed space.”
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  1. https://psychcentral.com/lib/become-a-better-listener-active-listening#active-listening-steps
  2. Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
  3. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/friendship-20/201906/how-apologize-8-tips-keep-in-mind
  4. https://psychcentral.com/lib/stonewalling-in-couples-when-you-or-your-partner-shuts-down#next-steps
  5. Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.

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This article was co-authored by Patti Novak Williams and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. Patti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.” This article has been viewed 263,831 times.
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