This article was co-authored by Amy Chan and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Amy Chan is a Relationship Coach based in New York, New York. She is the Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a retreat that takes a scientific and spiritual approach to healing after the end of a relationship. She has over 12 years of experience helping clients work on their relationships with strategies rooted in the psychology and science of relationships and personal development. Her team of psychologists and coaches at Renew Breakup Bootcamp has helped hundreds of individuals, and the Bootcamp has been featured on CNN, Vogue, the New York Times, and Fortune. Her book based on her work, Breakup Bootcamp, was published in 2020 and was featured by the New York Times.
There are 14 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.
This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources.
This article has been viewed 509,180 times.
If you've recently gone through a breakup and are struggling to move on, you're not alone. And while it isn't always easy, anyone can do it with a bit of perseverance and patience. There are no hard and fast rules for moving on, but if you need a little help, you've come to the right place. Treat yourself with kindness, take your time to heal, and use the following guide to move on for good.
Tips to Move on from a Relationship
Reflect on your relationship, and talk to a trusted friend or family member to process your emotions. Get closure by cutting contact with your ex and discarding any mementos that remind you of them. Stay busy to help you move forward—journal, mediate, go out with friends, take a walk, or start a creative project.
Steps
How Do You Cope With a Breakup?
Expert Q&A
Video
Tips
Tips from our Readers
- Reading motivational quotes every day helped me build confidence in myself and move forward!
References
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-the-past-and-hurt
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-let-go-of-the-past-and-hurt
- ↑ https://positivepsychology.com/how-to-practice-self-compassion/
- ↑ https://headspace.org.au/explore-topics/for-young-people/relationship-breakup/
- ↑ https://www.unh.edu/pacs/break-ups-how-help-yourself-move
- ↑ https://www.youngminds.org.uk/young-person/blog/how-to-look-after-your-mental-health-during-a-breakup/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201603/is-your-brain-breakup
- ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/the-psychology-of-closure-and-why-some-need-it-more-than-others.html
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/6-ways-to-maintain-your-mental-health-during-a-break-up/
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_keys_to_forgiveness
- ↑ https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/how-to-deal-with-a-breakup
- ↑ https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/2022/03/how-and-why-to-practice-self-care/
- ↑ https://www.relationshipsnsw.org.au/blog/signs-your-relationship-is-over/
- ↑ https://www.theline.org.au/new-step-by-step-guide-to-meeting-people/
About This Article
To move on after your breakup, keep yourself busy so you're not dwelling on your ex. You can spend extra time with friends and family, pick up a new hobby, and do relaxing activities at home, like reading a good book or taking a bubble bath. Take some time to hide or get rid of anything that reminds you of your ex too, since that will make it easier to not think about them. For example, if you have any photos of the two of you or special mementos lying around, tuck them away in a box or throw them in the trash. While keeping your mind off your ex can be helpful, make sure you're not bottling up your feelings, since that will only make you feel worse in the long-term. By letting yourself cry and talking about your feelings with someone you trust, you can release your emotions and start feeling better faster. For advice from our Relationship co-author, like how to be independent and start dating again after a breakup, keep reading!
Reader Success Stories
-
"Every bit of information really helps not only me, but I'm pretty sure that everyone who has the same experience will get a lot of information that can help them as well because it's really informative. I hope that you guys can come up with some other strategies not only for this particular scenario, but also other things in life. I hope for your success, thank you so much! "..." more