PDF download Download Article PDF download Download Article

FLAME is a game named after the acronym: Friends, Lovers, Affectionate, Marriage, Enemies.[1] It is a popular game among young girls at sleepovers, especially with pre-teens and teens who are beginning to explore the world of crushes. This game does not accurately predict whether or not an individual is right for you, but it can be fun to play with your friends.

Method 1
Method 1 of 3:

Playing FLAME

PDF download Download Article
  1. This simple game only really requires a pen or pencil and a piece of paper. However, you may have even more fun when playing with friends. Sharing your potential flame with a close friend can help you bond while you investigate your feelings for a certain someone.
  2. On your sheet of paper, write your first name and that of the person you are interested in. You should use your proper name instead of a nickname. You will be looking at the letters shared between your names to measure just what sort of relationship you and this other person might have.[2]
    Advertisement
  3. Any letters shared by both names should be crossed off or X'ed out. You should do the same for all repeated letters as well. For example, since the names Samantha and Alexander both have the letter A, you should cross out all A's in both names. Do this with all letters until there are no matching letters remaining.[3]
  4. Advertisement
Method 2
Method 2 of 3:

Analyzing Your FLAME

PDF download Download Article
  1. The letters that have survived your crossing out will help form your prediction about your relationship with this person. In the example of Samantha and Alexander, there are 10 remaining letters.
  2. You may want to write down the word FLAME to help ensure your prediction is accurate. Move through the letters in the word "FLAME" one at a time until your count reaches the total number of leftover letters that you found previously.
    • After you have counted the 5 letters of "FLAME," you can continue counting from 6 to 10 starting again at "F" and ending at "E," if needed. If you have more than 10 leftover letters, repeat the process a third time, starting with "F."
  3. Whichever letter you end on will provide you the answer for the kind of relationship you can look forward to with the person whose name you are using. In the example of Samantha and Alexander, 10 letters remained after crossing out shared letters. Counting through the letters of "FLAME" twice makes the 10th letter "E."
  4. You can now use the acronym "FLAME" to figure out just what the future holds for your and this other person. Match the letter you ended on with the following meaning of each letter of the word "FLAME":[4]
  5. Advertisement
Method 3
Method 3 of 3:

Playing a FLAME Alternative

PDF download Download Article
  1. This game is much like FLAME. It is also random but can be played with friends for fun or to explore your true feelings for someone. The romantic twinge you feel deep down when you select that certain someone could mean your feelings for that person as more than a friend. To play this game you'll need a blank piece of paper and a pen or pencil.
  2. On one side of your paper, you should write two lists of people: one male and the other female. These lists should have an equal number of people and can even include famous people if you want to have fun!
  3. On the back of your paper, write a list of simple actions. You can include as many or as few actions as you wish, some examples of actions include a hug, shaking hands, poking, and waving.
  4. You can do this in many different ways, but you'll want to fold your paper so that your lists are hidden from view. Try folding your paper in half three times - depending on where you've written your list, this kind of fold might work for you.
  5. Now that your paper is folded so that your lists can't be seen, blank parts of your paper should be all that are visible. On the side that is face-up, draw a button and label it "Button", "The Button", or "Push."
  6. Ask a friend who is willing to play to "push the button" and, when she does, open your paper to the side with your lists of people. Be careful that you do not show your friend any of your lists. You should keep your lists of people and actions secret.
  7. You should ask your friend what gender she wants to choose for this round of "Push the Button." When she has chosen either "Boy" or "Girl," you should ask her to choose a number. This is the subject or the person you will be acting to/on.
  8. Now that you know the "who" you and your friend need to find out what will happen to that person. Turn to your action list and ask your friend to choose a number. Once she does, you will tell her what she is going to do and who she will do it to!
    • For example, if your friend chose the name "Alex" and the action "shake hands," Once these decisions have been made you would tell her, "You are going to... shake hands with Alex!"
  9. Advertisement


Community Q&A

Search
Add New Question
  • Question
    How should I feel if we ended up being enemies on Flame?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Remember that it is just for fun and you aren't really enemies.
  • Question
    Do we write first names only, or surnames also?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    It doesn't really matter, you can have more fun with your complete name. It is up to you!
  • Question
    Can I play it my own way?
    Community Answer
    Community Answer
    Yes, you can. Just be sure the rules make sense!
See more answers
Ask a Question
200 characters left
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
Submit
Advertisement

Tips

Tips from our Readers

  • For alternative flame games, tailor your male/female name lists to the players' relationship status. Having significant others mixed in could spark jealousy if certain combos keep getting drawn!
  • Have fun but don't take FLAME predictions too seriously or let them damage real relationships! These games randomly match names and actions. Base connections on true feelings, not just letters.
  • When playing flame games, openly communicate to ensure all players are comfortable with the suggested actions and name combinations. Don't pressure anyone into uncomfortable matches.
  • When tallying leftover letters, remember to stop counting on the letter you land on in FLAME, don't continue crossing out all duplicates. The first match predicts your relationship.
  • To include last names in FLAME, stack both first and surnames vertically, then cross out duplicate letters top to bottom. Using full names provides more letters to count from.
Submit a Tip
All tip submissions are carefully reviewed before being published
Name
Please provide your name and last initial
Thanks for submitting a tip for review!
Advertisement

Warnings

  • Don't take the results of this game too seriously. Though thinking about a potential relationship with someone can help you understand your feelings for that person, this is only a game.[5]
Advertisement

Things You'll Need

  • Paper
  • Pen/pencil

You Might Also Like

Make a Cootie Catcher (Origami Fortune Teller)
Play M.A.S.HM.A.S.H: A Silly Prediction Game for All Ages
Use a Ouija Board Play a Ouija Board So You Can Talk to Spirits (Ghost Not Included)
Cat Scratch Game Play the Cat Scratch Game
Games to Play with Family Without AnythingNo Supplies Needed: Easy Classic Games to Play With Your Family
Play The Cat's Cradle Game Do Cat’s Cradle and Similar String Designs
Win at Tic Tac ToeWin at Tic Tac Toe
Play PoolPlay Pool
Write Words With a CalculatorWrite Words With a Calculator
Drinking Games for CouplesThe 25 Best (and Spiciest) Drinking Games to Play as a Couple
Play SnapsPlay Snaps
Beat Impossible Tic Tac ToeIs It Possible to Beat Google’s Impossible Tic Tac Toe?
Play Shut the BoxShut the Box Official Rules
Play Jenga Setup and Play a Game of Jenga
Advertisement

About This Article

Ashton Wu
Reviewed by:
Board Game Expert
This article was reviewed by Ashton Wu. Ashton Wu is a Board Game expert at Shelfside. After delving into the Yugioh tournament community while growing up, Ashton launched himself into the board gaming community in 2014 and went into reviewing board games as a career full-time in 2019. His YouTube channel Shelfside has over 35K subscribers and over 4 million views, assisted by written reviews on the Shelfside website and BoardGameGeek.com. He also consults with gaming companies to build high-quality gaming products. Ashton is a tournament commentator, board game playthrough director, and host of the Shelfside Podcast, where he talks about board games with his business partner, Daniel. He received a Bachelor of Arts in Economics at the University of California, Santa Barbara, in addition to the Technology Management Certificate. This article has been viewed 1,771,146 times.
446 votes - 83%
Co-authors: 62
Updated: October 8, 2024
Views: 1,771,146
Categories: Games
Article SummaryX

FLAMES is a fun game you can play with your friends to predict whether your crush is right for you. The acronym FLAMES stands for Friends, Lovers, Affectionate, Marriage, Enemies, and Siblings. To play the game, first write your name and your crush’s name on a piece of paper. Then, cross off any letters that your names share. Total the number of leftover letters between each of your names. Now, write down “FLAMES” on the piece of paper. Starting with F, count through the letters until your count reaches the total number of leftover letters you tallied up. Whatever letter you land on is the type of relationship you and your crush will have in the future. For example, if you had 7 leftover letters, you would stop counting on “F.” That means you and your crush will be friends! For more on interpreting your Flame results, read on!

Did this summary help you?

Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 1,771,146 times.

Reader Success Stories

  • Daniya Shamsi

    Daniya Shamsi

    Oct 26, 2017

    "This article was really helpful. I really loved the game, had a lot of fun with my buddies."
Share your story

Did this article help you?

Advertisement