Q&A for How to Be a Good Husband

Try planning surprise dates every so often. It could be something as simple as popping in while she's at work to have lunch.

Commitment not only to each other but to the longevity of your relationship is a key part of a successful relationship. Keeping the love alive, being affectionate, communicating well and having each other's backs are also key elements of a successful marriage. For helpful ideas on keeping you marriage a successful one, check out the wikiHow: How to Have a Great Marriage.

All marriages require work and from time to time, reigniting the spark is an essential part of reviving the joy and interest for both parties to the marriage. There are everyday actions you can take to make improvements, along with better communications and being more affectionate. For help with these approaches and much more, check out the wikiHow: How to Improve Your Marriage.

The qualities of a good wife are the same as those of a good husband, including: Being respectful, understanding and kind; being supportive during hard times; being considerate and a good listener; and being willing to share the journey of life together.

Care for your wife as you care for yourself. Be interested in her interests, be supportive of her when she needs to be lifted up and be kind. Respect her at all times. Be emotionally present and practice active listening. If she goes through hard times, be a source of comfort. For more helpful tips, check out the wikiHow: How to Make Your Wife Happy, as well as reading the suggestions in the steps above.

Being nice is a normal thing in a healthy relationship and should not be strange or suspicious. If you weren't very nice before, she might wonder why you're suddenly changing your behavior, but you should be able to make that clear by communicating. Explain that you want to be a good husband and have realized that some of your previous behavior was not adequate.

Most likely yes. Nobody is perfect. You can still be a good person or good husband if you occasionally do something wrong, but acknowledge it, apologize for it, and avoid doing it again.

Maybe the two of you haven't spent enough time communicating and are therefore uncomfortable with the idea of an extended conversation. Try spending more time together and talking about your interests, opinions, etc. The conversations may feel awkward or even forced at first, but they should improve over time.

Once trust has been broken, it can be difficult to regain it. Start by spending more time with your partner and focusing on their wants and needs. Engage in long discussions about how both of you are currently feeling and what you think you need in order to heal. Lastly, consider counseling if you are unable to regain trust for each other on your own.

Ask her what turns her on, if there is anything she'd like to try that you don't already do, etc. Remember that women respond to romance. Also, it's tough to get in the mood if you've been running around cooking, washing dishes, and chasing kids all night - make sure you're doing your share around the house.

You know by how she acts not by what she says. Do you feel you can trust her? Does she make you happy? Does she know you on a personal level?

Wash the dishes, do chores, send her to the spa, watch the kids if you have any, tell her you love her and make her feel special. You could also take her out to dinner or shopping, or go somewhere both of you love to visit and spend time at.

In a relationship, we give and we take. He is who he is, feels what he feels, and does what he does. But regardless of who he is, he has also agreed to love you, to give you what you need. In an ideal situation, one partner provides us with all the things we need, such as affection, love, security. If you need your boyfriend to give you affection, either get him to give it to you or find another boyfriend.

If your parents need help, you should discuss with your husband and see how both of you as a couple could help. Unless your financial situation doesn't allow any help, your husband shouldn't stop you from helping your parents. You are responsible for your people, just as he is responsible for his, and that is just something you both bring to your relationship.

Financial decisions, like all decisions, must be taken by mutual agreement. Any agreement is fine, as long as both partners are satisfied.

Maybe you should get a child minder or friends/family to look after your child once every two weeks so you can spend time with your partner and get a break. Also, if there are things your child is doing to ruin your marriage you should have an open conversation with your child if he/she is old enough to understand and change or stop this specific behavior. If you are not getting on with your child, maybe you should see a therapist together as you will be in each other's lives forever and it's better to work things out.

Stop focusing on yourself and focus on the needs of your wife. I spent so much time self-absorbed in my own issues that my relationship slipped away. If you can show her through your actions that she is the most important part of your life, the love and eventually physical relationship have a chance to return.

You should both seek counseling to discuss why she is so aggressive. Hopefully she will change her ways with help from a therapist.

Does he have any right to sell your house, since it's yours? It sounds more like a gambling addiction than a midlife crisis. Don't let him make any serious decisions, his mind isn't clear. Try to get him in to see a therapist.

Have an honest conversation with him about his reasons and your reasons. Explain to him how it makes you feel with I statements. If he's still unwilling, you need to decide if you're willing to have that be the case for the rest of your relationship. If he's willing, you could seek couples counseling.

Sit down and have a conversation with your spouse. Explain to your spouse that you need to spend more personal time together.

Absolutely.

Your husband shouldn't shame or get angry with you for doing something he knew about that you were doing before you met. If he's upset, try to talk about it with him calmly and rationally. If he doesn't respond to that, you may need to seek counseling.

Yes, masturbation can be an effective way of avoiding cheating. I might also recommend seeing a sex therapist with your spouse as well, which may improve your sex life with her.

Try to be nice to your wife and send her gifts whenever it's her birthday. That'll surely make her happy.

This is going to vary from couple to couple as everyone has different sexual drives. Some couples have sex several times a week while others are satisfied with having sex once or twice per month.

You clearly do not love this lady; it seems you love the fact that you can have her and she doesn't know about the others you're cheating with. If you did love her, you'd not cheat. How you say you can't trust her when really it's she who can't trust you? You're the cheater here, and she doesn't even know yet what pain lies ahead for her. Honestly, I would bow out gracefully, end the relationship, set her free to look for someone who doesn't cheat on her.

Start by telling your spouse everything. Give them proof that you are sorry. Show them that they can trust you again. Then it is up to them on how they react. Be understanding of their reaction and think about how you would feel in their situation. It may take years to get back to a full marital relationship but you have to be willing to take that time and effort to make the relationship work. Depending on how you and your spouse feel about outside help, it may be good to get marriage counseling or just talk to friends or family about the situation.

You must choose between being your parents or your partner. It is hard to make both a priority. And remember you live with your partner much longer. If you choose to continue making your parents a priority over your partner, you will likely either lose your partner or experience major resentment. It's not like times of old when your spouse or partner had to put up with such alienating behavior. They can now choose to up and leave. It really would be best to choose to make your partner a priority and to tell your parents to stop intervening in your marriage. Ask them how they'd like it if it happened to them; if they say it once did, remind them that it wasn't a good thing that happened to them and that society has moved on now. Tell them you will discuss with them only when you need them and they should leave you to make your decisions on your own. You could let them know if they won't stop, you'll both move somewhere far away from them.