Q&A for How to Tell a Friend You Don't Want To Make Plans with Them

Ask your parents to speak to his parents. If he won't take no for an answer, it's best to get the adults involved.

Say that you're extremely sorry, but that you completely forgot about this other engagement. Ask if there's any way you can make it up to her.

Tell her that you are unable/uninterested in doing what she wants to do. Tell her it's nothing personal, you like hanging out with her, but this activity is just not your thing. If she's a good friend, she'll understand and agree to do something else with you. If not, she might not be a very good friend. A real friend will be willing to compromise and won't pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

If you had a legitimate reason for not making plans, then your friend may be too demanding or sensitive. However, friends ought to compromise on what they do together. If you find yourself often avoiding making plans with your friend or cancelling, you should ask yourself why. Being a good friend requires effort.

That's way easier than bailing on a friend. With a friend, you don't want to ruin your relationship by being mean so sometimes you're forced to make plans with someone just to be nice. However, don't be too rude just because the person doesn't matter to you, just make up an excuse and if they continue to ask you, tell them you're not interested and apologize.

Keep in mind that any way you go about this is likely to cause hurt feelings, so if possible, you should really just let her come along. If you absolutely cannot do this, just tell her that you've decided you'd rather do the thing alone instead, or that you decided you're not going to do whatever it is after all. But again, if she finds out you're lying, she's going to be really hurt.

You have to find a way to offer her a graceful exit, without causing anger, bitterness or loss of face. It will take some tact on your part. I would simply accept the current plans and hang out as a trio, because it's hard to push someone out of an arrangement already made. However, I would mention to both of them that you absolutely do look forward to seeing your old friend alone soon.

You do just that. Thank them for wanting to include you, express your appreciation of their dedication and skills, but explain that it's just not for you.

You are going to have to make a choice; either start actually going at least one of each 3 times you get invited somewhere, or understand that you will stop being asked at all and may lose a friend.

Just tell her you don't want to share. You should just be straight up and tell her that she is pushy and she needs to not be pushy if she wants to share the hotel room.

It would be best to have an honest chat about this. Next time she does this, just say, "It seems like anytime you come over, you just want to use my computer. I feel like I'm being used." Maybe she has a valid reason for this behavior. If you don't want to confront her, just tell her you already have plans, or make an excuse for why you can't hang out at your house. Stick to your guns and don't let her talk you into anything.

You need to compromise, so if you want to do something on Wednesday, maybe your friend could choose the activity on Friday.

Tell her you just want a girls night.

Blame your parents and say that they`re forcing you to study or something....Then shut your phone off.

Be honest and let him know you're not available to talk on the phone so frequently. If you want to maintain this friendship, make plans where you don't have to talk the whole time, like bowling or the movies. It sounds as though he may be depressed, so encourage him to find a hobby or a new career.

Tell them that something came up, or be honest and tell them you no longer wish to see them.

Being an introvert has nothing to do with having the energy to hang out. Make sure to sleep well, drink water, eat fruits and veggies, and do light workouts. You'll get more energy. But that doesn't mean you have to stop being an introvert; you're fine being who you are, no matter what that is. And your friends are very much wrong to be mean to you. Sure, they like you and want to spend time with you, and it can be frustrating to never see your friend. But they can't be mean; be sure to let them know this behavior is unacceptable. Try to accept every fifth invitation. Make your own plans and invite them, too.

Give them as much notice as you can - it's never good to cancel on anyone last minute. If they're really your friends, they will understand if you're doing something that's important for your career. Also, suggest alternatives for what you can do to reschedule another time during days you know you will be available.

Suggest doing something at your house, in a public place, or at another friend's house. If you just don't feel comfortable with a sleepover, tell them that. If they're a good friend, they should understand.

Calmly and firmly tell her that you have said "no" too many times and it's getting a bit annoying. Be polite, but direct.

Blame yourself rather than saying you felt forced into it. Say something like, "I'm really sorry, I never should've agreed to help you with [whatever it is], I have a lot of other commitments right now and I'm really stressed out. I'm sorry, I just don't think I have the time." They should be relatively understanding about this.

You could pretend to be sick, or just try to explain to your parents that you don't want to see the person they invited over. If that doesn't work, just deal with it. You can be nice to them for one day.

Be honest and say you don't enjoy long car rides or that it would be exhausting for you to sit in the car that long and then still have to do something. And to make it easier to say no, try suggesting something else you can do closer to home, something you fell like doing. If they really want to do it though, then ask them why and see if you can find out more. It might persuade you to do it!