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Relationships are hard, and contrary to what Disney movies told us growing up, “happily ever after” doesn’t always mean perfect bliss. This makes it hard to know if our dissatisfaction in a relationship is just a little rough patch—or if it’s a sign we should break things off. If you’re considering ending things with your partner and aren’t sure if your reason is valid, keep reading. We’ve made a list of reasons you might break things off with your partner.
This article is based on an interview with our professional dating coach and matchmaker, Laura Bilotta. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Think about how your life would be different if you weren't in this relationship. Would it be better? This may be a sign it's not meant to be.
- It might be worth it to take time away from your partner if you feel like you're losing your identity in the relationship.
- Consider breaking up if your partner doesn't seem as invested in the relationship as you are or makes you feel less-than.
- Ask yourself if you're in the relationship out of fear of being alone. There's nothing wrong with being lonely, but it isn't a good reason to be with someone.
Steps
wikiHow Quiz: Should We Break Up?
Expert Q&A
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QuestionWhat are common excuses people use to break up?Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSWKelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
PsychotherapistSome common excuses include statements like I have a lot going on right now, I have to focus on work, or I don't want to date right now.
Tips
Expert Interview
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References
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201601/when-your-partner-wants-non-monogamy-and-you-don-t
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202201/how-partners-past-trauma-can-disrupt-relationship
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sliding-vs-deciding/201611/what-happens-when-partners-arent-equally-committed