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While assessing whether or not a girl likes you can be hard, there are many signs that you can watch for in your interactions with her that can indicate she's into you. Once you learn to recognize these general signs, pay careful attention the next time you're around her and see if she shows any of them. Even though it's not a definite answer if you notice a lot of positive physical signs and pick up on little hints she gives, you can more confidently decide whether or not she likes you so you can start to plan your next move.
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Watch for eye contact. If a girl likes you, she's likely to give you a lot of her attention. One way to tell if she's paying attention to you during conversation is eye contact. A girl who likes you will attempt to make eye contact throughout the conversation.[1]
- If you feel the girl hold your eye contact longer than most people do, she may like you.
- You may also notice the girl holds your gaze for a moment and then glances downward towards your chest before gazing up again. This is a more intimate means of eye contact that could indicate attraction.
- Also, try to see if she looks at you when you're not interacting with her. For example, maybe you see her glancing at you occasionally while you're on your lunch break or between classes.
- Reader Poll: We asked 1543 wikiHow readers to tell us what the clearest indicator was that a girl liked them, and 50% said prolonged eye contact. [Take Poll] Every girl is different (and you shouldn’t assume she likes you unless she says so), but this could be a strong sign that she’s interested!
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See if she initiates touch. If someone finds you attractive, they will want to touch you.[2] You may find the girl makes excuses to get physically close to you.[3]
- For example, the girl may sit closer to you when you talk so your legs brush. She may hug you when greeting you and after saying goodbye.
- She may also make excuses to touch you. For example, she may say she wants to brush a dust bunny out of your hair.
- You may also notice her leaning in during conversation.
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Note if she mirrors your gestures. People tend to mimic the body language and gestures of people they're attracted to. Watch the girl when you interact and see if she imitates your body language.[4]
- Compare your own posture to hers. If you're leaning back and crossing your legs, she may be doing something similar if she likes you.
- Watch to see if she's mimicking any of your mannerisms. If you tend to gesticulate more when you talk, you may notice her doing the same.
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Listen to her voice and tone. If a woman likes you, she will generally sound happy and excited when she sees and talk to you. You may also notice changes in her voice. Women often talk in a higher pitched tone if they're interested in someone. Listen to see if her voice seems slightly higher when she's talking to you.[5]
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Look for an open posture. An open posture may indicate attraction. People often use an open posture to look welcoming to those they're attracted to. An open posture is marked by arms that are spread out somewhat and not crossed, legs parallel or stretched out slightly, and relaxed eye contact. This means the girl will generally hold your gaze, but her eyes may wander on occasion.[6]
- If her whole body is angled towards you slightly, this also indicates attraction.
- However, some people get nervous talking to someone they like, which could prevent them feeling comfortable with an open posture. If the girl crosses her arms or leans back, watch for other signs, like the tone of her voice. No one sign will indicate for sure if someone likes you.
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Pay attention to whether she compliments you. If a girl likes you, she's likely to lavish you with a little praise.[7] You tend to put people you like on a pedestal. You see someone's positive qualities more intensely if you like them. If the girl likes you, she may compliment you more frequently if she's interested in you romantically.[8]
- She may comment on things like your clothing, your tastes, and your personality.
- Compliments may be worked into conversation. If you, say, mention you have hockey practice that night, she may pay you a compliment about your athletic ability.
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Consider the questions she asks you. If a girl is interested in you, she will want to get to know you better. During conversation, listen to the questions she asks you to gauge her interest.[9]
- If a girl likes you, she will ask more deep questions instead of sticking to conventional scripts.
- For example, instead of saying, "Do you have any siblings?" she may say something like, "Are you close to your family?"
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See if she's attentive to you. If someone likes you, they will pay attention to your needs. A girl may offer you her coat or scarf if it's cold outside, for example. She may also frequently ask you how you're doing or feeling.
- She will also be very attentive in conversation. A girl who likes you is unlikely to have her phone out while the two of you are talking. She will pay close attention to everything you do and say.
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Listen for laughter. If a girl likes you, all your good qualities will be magnified to her. Therefore, she's more likely to laugh at your jokes. Even if you're not sure if a joke is particularly funny, a girl who likes you will laugh loudly at it. If she laughs a lot in conversation, she may like you.[10]
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Note social media interactions. How often does the girl interact with you on sites like Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram? If she likes you, she's likely to be very attentive to you through these outlets.[11]
- Does she comment a lot on your posts? Does she like a lot of Facebook or Instagram posts or favorite and re-tweet a lot of your tweets?
- Look at the context of the comments. Does it seem like she's trying to impress you a little? Are her comments more detailed than most? Does she try to make you laugh? If so, she may like you.
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Look for frequent text messages. If a girl likes you, she will probably text you more than most people. You may get texts throughout the day asking how you're doing and updating you on her day-to-day life.[12]
- A lot of pictures may indicate a girl likes you. She may text you pictures of herself and of what she's doing.
- How quickly does she reply to you? A girl who likes you a lot will reply quickly.
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Pay attention to communication at night. Someone who texts you at night, especially just before bed, is probably thinking about you a lot. For example, she may text you something like, "Good night" each night before she goes to sleep.[13]
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Watch for emojis. If a girl uses a lot of emojis, pay attention to them. Flirtatious emojis, like winking faces, hearts, and smiley faces, may indicate attraction.[14]
- However, pay attention to context. Not all emojis are flirtatious, so take note of the message attached when reviewing emojis.
How Do You Tell If Someone Likes You?
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QuestionWhat does it mean if a girl says she likes you because you don't flirt?Community AnswerShe may have had a bad experience with someone flirting too aggressively in the past. If you like her back, continue to take things slow and be respectful.
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- ↑ https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/know-woman-likes/
- ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201603/4-ways-to-tell-whether-someone-is-into-you
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickhobson/2017/12/11/3-nonverbal-behaviors-from-others-that-signal-they-like-you/?sh=b0962113a1bd
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/homo-consumericus/201106/women-s-voice-pitch-changes-depending-their-attraction-man
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickhobson/2017/12/11/3-nonverbal-behaviors-from-others-that-signal-they-like-you/
- ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
- ↑ http://stylecaster.com/10-ways-girls-flirt-that-men-dont-notice/
- ↑ Imad Jbara. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
- ↑ https://www.artofmanliness.com/people/relationships/know-woman-likes/
- ↑ https://signsyouare.com/signs-an-online-friend-has-a-crush-on-you/
- ↑ https://psych2go.net/signs-your-online-friend-likes-you-back/
- ↑ https://signsyouare.com/signs-an-online-friend-has-a-crush-on-you/
- ↑ https://psych2go.net/signs-your-online-friend-likes-you-back/
About This Article
You can easily recognize hints that a girl likes you if you pay attention to her eye contact, body language, and the way she talks to you. For example, if she holds your gaze for longer than most people and looks at you a lot, she probably likes you. Notice if her body faces you when you hang out, which is a sign she’s interested in you. She’ll also probably touch your arm or chest when she laughs at your jokes. As well as watching her body language, recognize if she seems happy and excited to talk to you. Additionally, if she compliments you a lot, she probably wants you to know she likes you. For more tips, including how tell if a girl likes you from how she talks to you online, read on!
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