Are you worried that your relationship may not be going as well as it used to, or that you aren’t as close to your partner anymore?
If you want to know whether you’ve fallen out of love with your partner, we’ve got the quiz for you. Answer our questions, and we’ll evaluate how you seem to feel about your partner—and we’ll also give you tips for addressing any problems you might be dealing with.
Questions Overview
- Often! We make sure to set aside quality time for one another.
- Sometimes, although we haven’t been on as many dates lately.
- Rarely. We probably go on dates a few times each year.
- Never. We’ve stopped going on dates altogether.
- Yes, we do that all the time. We can talk for hours on end!
- Sometimes, but I want to start talking to them more.
- Not very often. Occasionally we’ll talk, but most days, I don’t feel like we really connect.
- No, we don’t talk at all anymore.
- They're wonderful inside and out, and they feel like the perfect partner for me.
- They have minor flaws like anyone else, but overall, they’re a great partner.
- They have some traits that I struggle to deal with, but I still care for them.
- I don’t think they’re a good partner for me, and I don’t enjoy being around them.
- Yes, all the time. And I make sure to tell them so.
- Sometimes, but not always.
- I used to miss them when we were apart, but lately, I’ve been missing them less.
- No, I don’t really think about them when they’re not with me.
- Not really. We try our best to stay calm and listen to one another.
- It depends on our moods. Sometimes we’re okay, but other times we end up fighting.
- We usually just avoid dealing with conflicts altogether.
- Yes, it feels like we fight over every little disagreement nowadays.
- Yes, I can tell them anything and I know they’ll support me.
- Usually, although sometimes I struggle to be vulnerable with them.
- Not always. I try, but I wish I felt more comfortable with them.
- No, I don’t. I usually keep things to myself to avoid fighting.
- Joyful! I love seeing them.
- At ease. It’s nice to be around them.
- Confused. Part of me wants to be alone, but I also feel bad about that.
- Annoyed. I was happier without them around.
- Not at all. By talking things out, we’re always able to forgive each other.
- A little, but I’m ready to address it and work toward forgiveness.
- Some, but I’m not sure it’s worth ending a relationship over.
- Yes, I am, and I think about it every time I see them.
- No, nothing! I’m happy with the way things are.
- I want us to spend more quality time together.
- I want a little more alone time than I get right now.
- I can’t stop thinking about breaking up with them. I feel like I might be happier if we ended the relationship.
- All the time! I make sure they know how much I love and appreciate them.
- Not as often as I’d like, but the gratitude is there. I want to be more open about it.
- Only when I’m feeling truly grateful for something, which isn’t often.
- Never. I just don’t feel like there’s anything to be grateful for.
- No, I don’t like that idea. I want to be with my partner.
- Occasionally, but I don’t want to follow through with it.
- Sometimes, but I don’t do it. I guess a part of me does miss getting to be single and open to new experiences.
- Yes—and sometimes, I do flirt with other people. I would never cross a line, though.
- I see us happily together in the future, committed or married to one another!
- I want us to stay together in the future, but I’m worried about what will happen.
- I’m not thinking about the future right now, just taking the days as they come.
- Honestly, I see us splitting up in the future.
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Factors That Can Negatively Impact Relationships
Lack of quality time. It’s super important to strike a balance between togetherness and independence in relationships. You should always have hobbies and interests that you can enjoy alone, but you should also try to find common ground with your partner in the form of shared interests and activities you can do together! Having fun together will make you feel more connected to one another, and content with the relationship overall.
Beyond that, making time for dates and romance is also important. When quality time isn’t prioritized, you may start feeling like your partner isn’t making an effort for you (or the relationship) anymore, and the romance may start to fizzle. So, keep the connection strong by consistently spending time together and finding new ways to spark the love and attraction between you.
Differing priorities. It can be tough to maintain a relationship if you and your partner have different priorities. For instance, if one of you is prioritizing the relationship but the other is more interested in their career or spending time with their friends, this can cause friction and lead you to grow apart.
Sexual interest in other people. If you’re not feeling satisfied in your relationship for any of the reasons mentioned here, you may also find yourself becoming interested in other people besides your partner. You might be attracted to a specific person, or simply feel the desire to flirt with other people and maybe even find someone new to be with.
Character issues. In some cases, you may realize your partner’s behavior is somehow problematic—even if you couldn’t see it at first. You may even ignore the warning signs at the beginning of a relationship, only to find the problems get more intense as the relationship continues. This can include behavioral issues like narcissism, paranoia, anger issues, controlling behavior, or having chronic affairs. Regardless, big issues and personality flaws are likely to end relationships—whereas smaller flaws (like being messy or disorganized) can usually be worked through.
Conflict avoidance. Even if you and your partner care for one another and generally get along, you might avoid talking about things that bother you to prevent arguments—which can cause negative feelings to get bottled up. In reality, it’s important to address issues that come up, even if it leads to an argument. If you and your partner are both aware of an issue, you can work through it—but if you aren’t, it’ll remain a problem indefinitely.
Lingering resentment. Even if you’re not trying to, couples end up making mistakes or having communication issues from time to time, which can lead to hurt feelings. If you can address the hurt and forgive your partner, you won’t harbor any resentment toward them. On the other hand, if you hang onto the hurt and let it build over time, the resentment can drive a wedge between you and your partner.
Focusing on the negatives. If you’re always focused on the little things you don’t like about your partner or relationship, it can be difficult to work through things and keep the love between you alive. On the other hand, if you make a point to focus on the positives and the things you love about them, you’ll likely feel more affectionate toward them overall.
Want to learn more?
To learn more about relationships and how to navigate difficult patches, relationship issues, and breakups, check out the following sources:
- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/emotional-intelligence-love-relationships.htm
- https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/how-to-know-when-its-time-to-break-up/
- https://health.clevelandclinic.org/signs-of-a-healthy-relationship
- https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
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