Do you often have anxiety about your relationships or struggle with setting boundaries/establishing acceptable behaviors because you are afraid to lose your partner? You’re not alone. Codependency is a type of dysfunctional relationship in which the codependent person feels like they need their partner to function, often accompanied by feelings of low self-esteem and guilt.
Codependency can be overcome with a combination of awareness, mindful thinking, and therapy. We’ve put together a comprehensive quiz to help you identify possible codependent patterns so that you can work through them and enjoy happy, healthy relationships in the future!
Questions Overview
- No. My partner and I are equally responsible for our relationship.
- Occasionally, but I can usually talk it through with my partner.
- Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one trying to maintain the relationship.
- Yes. I worry about this all the time and feel like I mess up often.
- All the time. Boundaries are important, so I stick to them.
- Sometimes. I set boundaries, but I often end up letting them slide.
- Rarely. I don’t like setting boundaries, and I have trouble maintaining them.
- Never. I don’t want boundaries, I’m afraid my partner won’t like them.
- I feel for them, but I understand if they need to deal with it on their own.
- I’m a little uneasy if they won’t accept my help. It doesn’t sit well with me.
- I feel like an unreliable partner if I can’t help them with their problem.
- I feel anxious and guilty. If they’re struggling, it’s my job to fix everything.
- It’s nice to see them happy! I love them, so I’ll gladly help if they need it.
- It makes me feel a little better about myself when I can help them.
- Helping my partner makes me feel like I’m worthy of their love and needed.
- I feel less afraid that they’re going to leave me…for a little while, anyway.
- No. I believe that people love me for exactly who I am.
- I sometimes worry about that, even though I know it’s unhealthy.
- Yes, I do have that fear more often than not.
- Definitely. It’s happened before, and I think it’ll happen again.
- I’d take a walk to get some air, but I’m not afraid to talk things out.
- I’ll try to negotiate, but I’ll cave and apologize if that doesn’t work.
- I try to say how I feel, but mostly end up doing things their way.
- I’ll do what they want and never mention that I feel differently. I may also hide my feelings.
- Fine. I have needs just like anyone, and I deserve to have them met.
- I feel mostly okay, but sometimes I worry about what others think of me.
- I do things for myself occasionally but usually feel guilty afterward.
- Even the thought of it makes me feel guilty. How will my partner feel?
- I don’t think so. I think they’re amazing, of course, but nobody’s perfect.
- Occasionally. They’re really great, and I worry about measuring up.
- Sometimes it feels like they really are perfect, and I’m definitely not.
- Yes. I don’t know what someone that wonderful sees in me.
- Nobody likes rejection, but I’m not scared of it either.
- I can take it, but emotionally it leaves a scar.
- Rejection crushes me, and it’s hard for me to get over it.
- Rejection is one of the scariest things to me, and I’ll do anything to avoid it.
- I’ll apologize if I’ve genuinely done something to hurt them.
- Sometimes I apologize too much, but I’m working on it.
- I apologize instinctively, even when it’s probably not necessary.
- I apologize all the time because I feel unworthy compared to others.
- Actually, I kind of enjoy it. I don't need a partner to be happy!
- I definitely don't like being single, but I know I shouldn't settle either.
- I think so. I usually end up dating again immediately after a breakup.
- Yes. I’m afraid of being alone, so I never let relationships end if I can help it.
- No. I’m responsible for myself and can’t control other people’s actions.
- I’ve caught myself doing it a few times, but I try not to.
- Sometimes, I just can’t help it. I worry about what will happen if I don’t.
- All the time. I feel responsible for everyone else’s actions.
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