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You’ve gotten through all the first date jitters, and you know you and your date have a connection. A second date is a great way to strengthen your bond and figure out if you two actually have potential together as a couple. In this article, we’ll tell you everything you need to know before your second date to make sure it goes smoothly (and to help you land date number three).

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Plan a date activity that gets you both moving.

  1. Do something totally different than what you did on the first date. Hiking, walking through a park, swimming, or even lightly jogging are great second date activities. You can fill any awkward pauses by focusing on the activity at-hand, and if you want to end the date early, you can say that you’re too tired out to continue.[1]
    • You could also try mini golfing, bowling, having a picnic, walking along the beach, or visiting a rooftop bar.
    • Just avoid anything that would prevent you two from chatting, like a crowded bar or a movie theater.
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Wear something cute and casual.

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Show them you're a great listener.

  1. As you two chat, make eye contact and nod along to show your date that you’re listening.[6] Try to get a good back-and-forth going—you ask your date a question, then your date asks you a question. Avoid dominating the conversation, since that can make your date feel overwhelmed.[7]
    • You can also ask your date follow-up questions, like, “Interesting, can you tell me more?” and, “What do you mean?”
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End the date with a kiss, if you want to.

  1. If you and your date have had a blast together, they’re probably okay with a light smooch.[13] When you say goodbye, lean in slightly and give your date a kiss on the lips, but keep it short. Tell them you had a great time.
    • “This was so much fun. Thanks for taking me out tonight. I’d love to do it again soon.”
    • “I had a great time with you! Let’s set something up for next week.”
    • For most people on a second date, a kiss is as far as they’ll want to go in terms of intimacy. There aren’t any rules about when you two should have sex, but don’t worry about doing anything you don’t want to do.
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Text them later about how much fun you had.

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So. Recently went on a first date and we clicked super well. We said we have to get together again soon, and now I'm suddenly at a loss for ideas... Read More
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So the best date ideas are always ones that involve movements, I'm a huge fan of walks—walks around rivers, walks through places you enjoy, exp... Read More
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I've had success with mall dates as a second date! I think these work well because as you're walking around the mall, you'll run into things that... Read More

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    How do you date a shy person?
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    Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms.
    Laura Bilotta
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    A shy person usually needs to build trust with someone to open up. Do an activity rather than a sitting down one on one date with them. It will allow you to do something you both enjoy and get to know each other.
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    How can you impress a girl on a date?
    Laura Bilotta
    Laura Bilotta
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    Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms.
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    Be on time. Be a gentleman, open the door for her, pull out her seat, and let her order first. All this can be very charming.
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This article was co-authored by Laura Bilotta and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Laura Bilotta is a Dating Coach, Matchmaker, and the Founder of Single in the City, her dating and relationship coaching service based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. With over 18 years of experience, she focuses on helping singles date more intentionally, encouraging them to let go of negative patterns so that they can attract the love that they deserve. Her experience, skills, and insights have led to thousands of successfully united over 65,000 singles through events and one-on-one matchmaking coaching sessions. She has been the host of The Dating and Relationship Show on Global News Radio 640 Toronto (AM640) for 6 years and is known as The Hookup Queen of Clubhouse; her popular singles club, Single in the City, has over 95.5K members who regularly join in weekly dating and relationship-focused rooms. This article has been viewed 27,478 times.
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