When it comes to a romantic partner, how do you know what your type is?
Whether you’re looking to date a woman as a woman for the first time or you’ve been out of the closet for a while, knowing the types of personalities and physical traits you are attracted to can help you find the perfect match. So, are you ready to find out what type of girl you’re into?
Questions Overview
- Long hair with soft curls.
- Any hairdo, as long as it’s pulled back.
- Dyed hair is where it’s at.
- Braids, curls, long, short—I don’t have a preference!
- Curious, relaxed, and inquisitive.
- Competitive, energetic, and charismatic.
- Imaginative, compassionate, and bold.
- Understanding, adaptable, and persuasive.
- Settle down with a good book and autumnal candle.
- Catch the latest game—I’ve got to stay on top of the stats!
- Doodle, write, dance? I’ll do whatever feels best in the moment.
- Attend a rally or tweet about the latest political absurdities.
- Their intelligence. You can learn so much from others.
- Their strength. Humans are powerful!
- Their creativity. There’s no limit to what we can make.
- Their resilience. Even when we’ve been knocked down, we can stand back up.
- Introvert 100%. I like my alone time.
- Extrovert—I need people in my life!
- Eh? I’d say I’m somewhere in between. With enough gas in the tank I can make it out for something fun!
- I’m not sure, but I’m not afraid to speak my mind.
- Conversation. If you can’t talk to each other, what’s the point?
- Companionship. My partner and I should be a team.
- Empathy. We should be able to see the world through each other’s eyes.
- Respect. I want us both to feel safe to share our stories.
- Uh, I’m not really sure that’s my thing…
- No way! Let me grab my jersey!
- Cool! But I’m only going for the halftime show.
- How fun! I wonder who we’ll be sitting next to.
- When I’m not in class, I’m usually at the library.
- The gym. It’s my happy place.
- At home. I’ve created the perfect safe space.
- Anywhere! I like exploring new spaces and places.
- An off-the-shoulder purse that matches her outfit.
- Bag? Pssh! She can stuff everything in her pockets.
- An extra-large tote with a funky print on the side.
- A sensible and practical backpack, preferably black.
- Muted earth tones and a plethora of plaid.
- Sports bras in every color of the rainbow.
- A cyclone of wild patterns and bright colors.
- Blazers for every occasion.
- Turtlenecks. They’re comfortable, cute, and practical.
- Ankle-high socks and sneakers. The way they show off those calves!
- Piercings and tattoos. They can be edgy or cute—what’s not to love?
- Anyone willing to smash the patriarchy.
- The book she’s holding. I wonder if I’ve read it before…
- The other people she’s hanging out with. She seems like an awesome friend.
- Her uniqueness. There’s something different about her.
- Her confidence. She knows how to hold the attention of a room.
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Lesbian Types and Stereotypes
What is a type? In the dating world, types are specific personality and physical traits that categorize someone. Some people may say they have a “type,” meaning they are drawn to particular quirks, appearances, or attitudes. If you’re a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, specifically in a WLW (woman-loving-woman) relationship, you’ll probably come across a number of types while dating.
Before we dive in, it’s important to acknowledge that these types, terms, and phrases are inappropriate for anyone but lesbians to use. Types and labels help individuals identify themselves within a community, but they don’t explain all facets of a personality. Sexuality and identity are fluid spectrums, and labeling an individual with a stereotype without their permission could be offensive, inaccurate, and harmful.
Many of these terms stem from hurtful and derogatory language the LGBTQIA+ community has positively recoined. Consider avoiding these terms if you’re not a lesbian to respect the community’s history and struggle to define identity. The labels we’re sharing are specific to the lesbian community, but the traits, habits, and appearances of these types can be used to describe a variety of different queer women. None of these labels are absolute!
Now that you understand the technicalities, let’s dive into the different types of lesbians!
The Femme Lesbian: If someone’s classified as “femme,” they’re most likely stereotypically feminine. They enjoy dressing up, wearing makeup and dresses, typically have longer hair, and enjoy the frills of life.[1]
The Butch Lesbian: When someone’s called a “butch,” they’re probably a bit more masculine. They have a swagger to their step, enjoy sports, keep their hair short, and might have a muscular physique.[2]
The Chapstick Lesbian: The term “chapstick lesbian” is often used within the community to describe someone who’s neither “femme” nor “butch”—they’re a bit of both! Some days they like dressing up, while other days they enjoy keeping it casual.[3]
The Alpha Lesbian: If someone’s deemed an “alpha lesbian,” they’re most likely at the top of everyone’s list. They have everything a girl could ask for—sex appeal, empathy, and confidence. They know how to own a room and wear flannel.[4]
The Activist Lesbian: The “activist lesbian” is probably on the front lines of any political movement, especially when it comes to protecting their community. Their courage, bravery, and persuasive attitude immediately draw people to them, and they’re not afraid to start a friendly debate with whoever they see.
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