Who/what was your gay awakening?
What was the moment things clicked for you and you realized you were 💅? Who was it that made you feel feelings? I'm so curious to hear people's stories!
My friends and I randomly watched Van Wilder back in high school (any national lampoon fans here?), which led to Ryan Reynolds being my first gay crush. I think it took me a while to know that I was gay because I'm attracted to people of all genders, so it was easier for me to "default" to liking girls and fitting in with the heteronormative "boys like girls" thing for most of my childhood.
It took a lot of soul searching and exploration for me to figure out my sexuality. At different points in my life, I've thought I was straight, gay, bi, and pan, and eventually I realized that trying to figure out the exact specific term wasn't working out for me. Queer is an umbrella term that feels most comfortable to me
It took a lot of soul searching and exploration for me to figure out my sexuality. At different points in my life, I've thought I was straight, gay, bi, and pan, and eventually I realized that trying to figure out the exact specific term wasn't working out for me. Queer is an umbrella term that feels most comfortable to me
“Big ol queer mess” IS ANYONE ELSE A PJO FAN? 😭 Sorry I just had to say it, and it’s fine to go with queer, if it’s what comfortable then go with it! You don’t have to label yourself
Pjo fan spotted in the wild? And yes, my gay awakening was def piper mclean
Omg! Pjo is my fav series! Annabeth is fine. Percy is better. And Nico is my dream man!!!
Ima PJO fan!
OMG PJO FAN
The thing about sexual orientation and preferences is that they are subjective to the person that's experiencing them. There's not a clinical test for being gay. It's just how you feel, and it can change every day, so go with whatever identity feels right for you. It's generally not a good idea to try to come up with a black and white term for every possible sexual identity a person can have.
I was watching Pirates of the Caribbean and could not stop thinking about how hot Jack Sparrow was! Now I have a thing for pirates
Oh my god slay
yoo slay ngl i loveddddd Elizabeth Swann
lolololol and i have a think for elizabeth ahhah
My gay awakening was/is my best friend. We're still bffs and I haven't told her about my feelings. Every day when we hang out at school I feel like I'm hiding something from her by not telling her that I like her but I also don't want to ruin our friendship by telling her and making things weird between us. I really don't know what to do because I don't want to lose her :(
tell her.
Tell. Her. (I did that with my bestie and we’re still the best friends eva)
Mine is practically the exact same story :(
Hi, I just wanted to say that I felt the exact same way. But when she figured out and, despite not having the same feelings for me, we were able to both come clean to each other and maintain our close friendship. I wish you luck, and no matter what, if your friend cares about you enough, everything will work out.
Take some time to think and observe her. If you find out she might be queer, maybe it won't be so awkward when you ask her. And since you two are already in a relationship, it might be easier to observe her and ask her.
if you're really best friends, and it turns out she doesn't like you back, then nothing should change long term!! It might be a little weird for like a week, but you should really tell her
I have the exact same problem. I would tell her if I were you, I would tell my crush/best friend if I had more confidence.
As a starting point, it can be helpful to have discussions with her about sexuality and desire in a more general sense. This way, she will become aware that you are interested in same-sex relationships and/or sexual activity, and hopefully, you can get a better sense of her own interest. If after talking to her you still don’t have an idea of what her feelings and opinions are, be honest and open up about how you feel. Trust that the strength of your friendship will help you work through any difficulties that may arise.
I have always been a definite tomboy, and after a while, I realised that I definitely acted like one. I also felt like I was more into girls than boys, and had a crush on a girl in my year. I'm now dating my cis female best friend as a non binary person !
tara and darcy is that you?
tara and darcy is that you?
First it was a girl and then Billie Eilish
SLAY
Yes! She’s the reason I’m here
SLAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My friend in 5th grade during a sleepover. She was my first gay crush but I didn't know what it meant at that point. I think I've kinda always felt gay, just I needed more time to explore
I feel u same thing here but in 4th and it wasnt in a sleepover it was a school
Random chick who appeared in my 4th grade speech therapy class one day & I never saw her again. I ain't even religious but I think she was a messenger of god forcing me to admit it to myself. Anyway I'm a guy now so... Okay bonus story: Before I was a guy, in the summer before 5th grade I thought I was a lesbian (didn't use that term tho, that was probably a Sign^tm) but then I saw Edward Elric from fma and I was like "0-0 dang" so yeah edward elric turned me bi
So, I guess I've ALWAYS been LGBTQ, but I never had a word for it when I was younger, because looking back on it, I was in no way straight. I'm shocked it took me so long to find out though. One of my first LGBTQ crushes was actually one of my closest friends back in first grade, but I didn't realize it at the time.
oooo mine was in fourth but ngl Jade was cute i couldnt resist
I realised that I was jealous of my gay friends on sleepovers when they would cuddle together lol. Then I realised guys were ICKY and girls were slay :3
Yas queen
I'm genderqueer (they/she). Any advice on coming out?
be polite about it but be confident too and know that it might be hard for some people to accept the real you
wait r your pronouns they/she!!!??? mine is she/her/they/them!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yes sammmeee!!!
So I use to take a bus to school and their was always this girl on it at first I didn't think she was attractive but she was pretty so she was always on this bus and we also went to the same school she was one grade above mine so I saw at school I saw her in the bus so at some point we ended up talking and I found that she was every interesting and we had a lot in common I didn't know when I started finding her attractive but it were the little things that made me realize like looking at her lips while she spoke or smiling whenever someone mentioned her name their I knew that I was in love with her and I wanted her to know so I told her and started dating but it only lasted 6 months until she moved and we lost contact and the spark since then I've never found any men attractive
I grew up in a Christian Baptist family, went to church from childhood, attended Sunday school, went to Christian events, and so on... I was soaked in religion from head to toe and could not even imagine that I could be gay. Plus, I live in Russia, where LGBTQ+ propaganda is officially banned. that is, it is clear that society could not influence me in any way. I realized this when I first felt some strange feelings for a guy. not understanding what it was, I was scared. I was 16 years old at the time. However, that guy also had something for me. We met at a school camp and became very good friends. we exchanged social media and even chatted, but then he stopped responding to me... for a long time I thought about him and didn't understand what was wrong with me. I asked God for forgiveness, I asked him to take away all these strange feelings, I tried to lose them myself. but in the end, nothing worked out. very soon I'm 18 years old, but I've never felt this way about any girl. It is still difficult to realize who I am. Am I really not going to be able to love a girl?
P.s. I wrote this using Yandex Translator (Russian google)
P.s. I wrote this using Yandex Translator (Russian google)
Feel for you, man. That sucks...(
I'm in same predicament myself. I tell myself that I have to stay closeted. Otherwise all my life and my social status will be crumbled. I'm sure, the second I come out, there will be hell to pay in this country.
Since I realized myself, I've gorwn to have a secret crush on my hetero best friend. (We're bandmates still, he's a drummer, I play bass) We used to sleep-cuddle in bed during sleepovers, quite nice feeling. But nothing more than spooning, I suppose. But now we're not so close since he got our mutual friend pregnant.
Sooo, I'm a mess emotionally. Spilling my guts out on wiki-how comment section...
Gotta stay alive, find any snippets of joy in this existence. Confide in closest friends.
Stay strong, I guess
I'm in same predicament myself. I tell myself that I have to stay closeted. Otherwise all my life and my social status will be crumbled. I'm sure, the second I come out, there will be hell to pay in this country.
Since I realized myself, I've gorwn to have a secret crush on my hetero best friend. (We're bandmates still, he's a drummer, I play bass) We used to sleep-cuddle in bed during sleepovers, quite nice feeling. But nothing more than spooning, I suppose. But now we're not so close since he got our mutual friend pregnant.
Sooo, I'm a mess emotionally. Spilling my guts out on wiki-how comment section...
Gotta stay alive, find any snippets of joy in this existence. Confide in closest friends.
Stay strong, I guess
i'm so sorry you have to stay closeted! it's awful that you have to hide who you are and i wish things could be different for you and your friend
homophobia sucks but at least we're all bonding together in this wikihow comment section 🥹
homophobia sucks but at least we're all bonding together in this wikihow comment section 🥹
Yessss this is the only place i can get away from the homophobia right now
Us gay people can scare away any homophobics
Yup we bros for life in the wikihow comments section 🙌 anyways, any Americans out there with tips? I’m a Brit who is moving to America and I have no ideaaaa
In my parts of America, there isnt' too much homophobia... some parts there are, but it really depends. I do theatre, sometimes there will be a super homophobic group or there will be a super homosexual one :DDD I go to a teeennnyyy tiiinnnyyy private school, with, like, 15 kids in my one classroom :PPP Some kids are homophobic, but one is gay and one is bi, and another one I believe is gay but is not out. The one that is out (the bi one is my bestie- only I get to know hehehe), everyone knows but he doesn't get any hate, no one really cares.
Thats really just in my one area, i'm sure it's different everywhere
Thats really just in my one area, i'm sure it's different everywhere
Ik this is sorta late but in most places there isn’t much homophobia. Where I live I know only 1 or 2 homophobic ppl, and there are GSA’s (gay straight alliance) at almost all of the schools I’ve been to/am going to go to (except for my elementary school). And even though some Americans are homophobic, the most they will do is laugh at you, and if they do just flick them off.
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Poor you ☹️ good luck!!!!
I feel u same here my parents do not support so i hide from them
That... is awful. I'm so sorry you need to go thru that king. You shouldn't feel ashamed to come out whoever makes u feel that way should just go cause they are upset they'll never have that confidence. U might feel alone but there will be people who will love you for you <3 I promise.
Well, basically when I was in 4th grade I started liking this girl, so I was pretty confused. Then, I realized I had a crush on Paris Jackson (mj’s daughter) and then Billie Eilish
I was at school and I had a friend who was constantly asking me if I was lesbian/Gay and over time I began falling for her. I've now had a crush on her for two years but haven't been able to come out or tell her I like her. Seren if ur reading this, I really like u. L x
I was reading a comic on my phone then a gay guy was shown then thought it would be nice to have a husband...
I realized I was bi when I started realizing “wow, girls are pretty” and then a few months later developed a huge crush on a boy from my class. Now, I’ve had a crush on him for almost a year, but lately (ever since I had to switch schools) he’s barely been texting me. I still love him. What do I do aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Honestly, tell him, if you love him so much. That's what I did with my friend, she straight away plunged us into a relationship (my first one) but then after a week or so, she told me that she thinks she's straight, but, we are still friends, so just give it a go!
This is really confusing. I’m still trying to figure out what’s happening with me. See, this school year I’ve had a crush on this one girl. But I also have feelings for my close friend who is a boy. Another thing with it is my sex is a male, but sometimes I feel like it doesn’t fit me well. Plus I’m asexual. Any ideas??? 😕
you might be demisexual (you only have feelings for people you know really well)? Btw I'm asexual too!
or you might be asexual and still like people romantically-bisexual asexual?
I'm not really sure exactly how you feel seeing as I'm aro-ace.
I'm not really sure exactly how you feel seeing as I'm aro-ace.
yeaaa so ya know that emo chick from Phineas and Ferb, she was my lesbian awakening
Basically what I’d did was I watched Wednesday and I was like Jenna ortegas HOT. But then I was like wait I don’t just like boys. So now I’m pan but I have a preference idk? It just feels better than bi? Btw should I ask out my crush? Just asking
Omg, Jenna Ortega is so hot. I also saw her in Wednesday and was like, DAMN😍 Anyways, about the crush thing, I reckon just give it a go and hope for the best, you never know, they might like you back!
bruh thats my friend🤣 but yea i agree
omg I love Jenna Ortega back off shes mine 🤣
oop ok i think i should...... not
OMG Jenna Ortega is just so 🤩
The lady who helped me figure out I wasn't straight, but instead a lesbian, was this stunning, funny, talented girl, Joemayra. She liked me, I liked her, but by the time I was ready to admit it, she decided she was bisexual and got a boy crush. I haven't seen her for a while because I moved, but I still love her, sd i can't imagine myself with anyone else...
Actually this year. There is a girl named Millee in my grade and omg she is perfect. I haven't really come out to anyone, but, I try my hardest to give hints
The thing that really opened the portal to the LBGTQ+ world for me was watching She-Ra and the Princesses of Power when I was like, 7. I had a few crushes on boys, but, honestly, I was quite young then. My first same-sex crush (I still have a crush on her a couple of years later, still had crushes on other people though) was, and still is, my bff. At first I was like, 'is it weird to have a crush on your best friend?' but then I found demi-romantic, and clicked instantly. Now, after 2 years of being in the LBGTQ+ community, I am a demi-romantic, demi-girl and non-binary lesbian.
Proud demi
my friend andrea
I'm pretty sure I'm straight, but I'm not completely sure. I've been a little stressed because romance is a major priority for me. What should I do? 🤔
that was me until girls caught my love eye😍
My neighbour is very confident about pride and it made me feel more comfortable but I thought no one wanted to go out with me, I had a crush on my friend that is kinda religious but one day she told me she had a crush on me! I was so surprised and happy! It’s been over a year now!
I realized i was trans when i was 10 on the 1st day of school, and my mom kept wanting me to wear a dress, but i really didnt want to. I did some research and figured it out. Realizing i wasnt hetero took kinda went with that. (Its been 4 years and im still not out 😭😭😭)
omg same
i support gurl im with u
I found out I'm an activist type,which might be why I had a crush on my classmate who does soccer. It was a girl,but only did these small crushes last a few months when I can't really confess because I'm a quiet person and mostly admired them in my mind for a bit.
I know that im not straight but the test just said that xD funny
most likely the scorpion woman from she-ra i liked her a bit too much tbh
SHE RA MENTION!!!!
im just assuming that you meant every single woman in she ra
Slotta x Jaso x Glončák :)) if you know you know
I thought I was straight for the longest time, but one day this girl made some kinda joke that was along the lines of 'day 2 of breaking up gay couples' to some people and my mind snapped to 'are you lesbian? Can you be attracted to me?' and thats when I realized.
Turns out SHE WAS and I have a huge crush on her now, and I don't get to see her nor do I have her number because that was from like a two week theatre thing 😭 Ahh I love her <33
Turns out SHE WAS and I have a huge crush on her now, and I don't get to see her nor do I have her number because that was from like a two week theatre thing 😭 Ahh I love her <33
Bro saaaame except it didn’t happen in theater (PE class) but now me her are dating
That's awesome that you guys got together! :DDD
I was exposed somewhat young it was my 6th grade year and alot of classmates talked and acted homosexual around eachother and it got me curious so over the years I've been on google,pintrest,watched movies that had shritless scenes or super-hero movies with male actors and feeling physically attracted,and I have a freind who came out as a lesbian and being around her being someone who was attracted the same gender made me feel more confident in my beliefs of being gay,it's even more apparent when I'm at places like a public pool and I see other boys who are shritless.
Nowadays I haven't came to terms with myself,idk if I'm really Gay or if I'm Bi or if Deep down I'm just stright and just feeling how it is to be a teen being exposed to sex,no matter if I think im gay or bi I've come to terms with there is only mainly one boy who I feel makes me understand I'm gay or bi,of course he's a popular kid,becuase who haven't felt attracted to a popular kid,he plays sports,he's decently kind,he's physically appealing,his moms hot,his sisters hot,he's hot yet ik he's stright and ik il never be with him,I've came close to being freinds with him via talking over Snapchat untill he cut contact with me.
Nowadays I haven't came to terms with myself,idk if I'm really Gay or if I'm Bi or if Deep down I'm just stright and just feeling how it is to be a teen being exposed to sex,no matter if I think im gay or bi I've come to terms with there is only mainly one boy who I feel makes me understand I'm gay or bi,of course he's a popular kid,becuase who haven't felt attracted to a popular kid,he plays sports,he's decently kind,he's physically appealing,his moms hot,his sisters hot,he's hot yet ik he's stright and ik il never be with him,I've came close to being freinds with him via talking over Snapchat untill he cut contact with me.
I’m still trying to figure out who I am, I’ve been thinking about pan, or something else, is there any tips you might be able to share with me?
Think really carefully about all the crushes you've ever had. I did that and I worked out that I'm aro-ace- none of them were actual crushes!
Pirates of the Caribbean definitely started it all. When I first watched it I thought, "Wow. Elizabeth is cute." At the back of my mind I was also thinking (although much less prominent), "William is kinda hot as well." Then I came across The Lord of The Rings and boy oh boy did I swoon over Legolas (Orlando Bloom rocks!) and Galadriel at the same time. I felt so conflicted to find so many people hot simultaneously. And don't even get me started on Aragorn and Arwen....
i had been questioning my sexuality for a while and then i randomly got a huge crush on my best friend and realised i was lesbian💀
Millie bobby brown and Sadie sink
When I was young I never liked boys.i knew about 💅 people but thought it was boys only.then idk when about 2 yrs ago somebody said the word le£bian and I thought it was a country.then in TRD(total roblox drama) Sombody said ' are you 💅?' I said yes and they asked my gender. I said girl and then they asked if I was le£bian and I said yes.
Wait y'all tell me your coming out stories
My bestie, I’m demisexual, so I’ve built one of the best friendship bond of my life, then I started to think, “Why is she kinda cute?” Then a crush developed on her. Then my life got ruined when she got a boyfriend. It’s going to take me months if/after she breaks up with him, to let her know that I like her. She is bi I’m pretty sure, so I don’t know at this point.
....call me by your name
someone please help me come out to my parents as queer I’ve been dating this girl for maybe a 2 1/2 months and my parents don’t even know I’m queer
I might not be the right person to ask but I'd say that you need to vibe check your parents first!!! know how they behave around queer people, know what remarks (if any) they make on queer people in the news, and know their general stance on the lgbtq+ community before taking any action. if they're obviously cool, you can probably just tell them in the car or smth. if they're iffy, you might want to ask a question like "what do you think of gay people" before telling them. and if they're clearly homophobic, you probably shouldn't tell them, or you should tell a guidance counselor or therapist or smth to see what you should do.
ok one moment that probably isnt that deep was when my same-gender friend was joking around and pulled me close and I felt my face getting warm and butterfly shock for a split second in that moment then I snapped out of it and stopped thinking about that moment I know I'm straight or possibly bi but I'm just a kid so imma wait until later and see if it clicks
I am aro-ace but all my friends think I'm bi!!! How do I tell them? (most people don't know what aro-ace is!)
I am so confused l took this quiz twice the first time I got bisexual and now I got acesex
I saw a heathers musical, a girl played JD. She was so hot oml
when I was six years old
I only clicked recently.
But I used to have a crush on the guy, he told me he likes me yesterday and I think I like him back but I don't know how to tell him.
I think he knows though.
But I used to have a crush on the guy, he told me he likes me yesterday and I think I like him back but I don't know how to tell him.
I think he knows though.
It said I was straight. But if you wanna know a secret..... I was lesbian in 4th grade and dated a girl once but that was it
I am Bi and i got "Demisexual'' idk what that means but yea what did yall get
So I watched Arcane and grew like the biggest crush ever on Jinx.
For me I guess it was after watching Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel with all the LGBTQ+ characters I started to question myself. After that I thought for a while about how I wanted to be more masculine. I don't wear dresses or girly stuff. I didn't want to wear a wedding dress to my wedding or be the feminine one. ( I do know not all women have to be feminine to have a boyfriend/ husband ) But it all didn't feel right to be a man's woman. I eventually came to the conclusion I liked girls.
I have had a boy crush before realizing, but I've had two other girl crushes. But also I've questioned myself, saying I'm Bisexual, Pansexual, Omnisexual, or Lesbian. It all doesn't matter in the end though. You love who you love, and that should NOT matter.
I have had a boy crush before realizing, but I've had two other girl crushes. But also I've questioned myself, saying I'm Bisexual, Pansexual, Omnisexual, or Lesbian. It all doesn't matter in the end though. You love who you love, and that should NOT matter.
I need some help guys. im a girl at birth, I just got out of a straight relationship, and have only ever dated guys. One of my exes and I kissed this week, and he likes me again. The problem with all of this is that every time I kiss a boy it doesn't feel important. I never get the whole fireworks or butterflies thing, ever. Its just a kiss. However...... Recently, going to church makes me uncomfortable and all I think abt are girls. I swear that I'm seriously in love with my best friend but I'm pretty sure she's straight and I'm currently helping her work through relationship issues with a guy. It hurts every single time she she talks about him but I always give her good advice and we call for hours. I think shes perfect and gorgeous and I love her so much. My family is very, very, VERY homophobic. I was baptized and have be going to the same christian church since the day I was born. I can't do anything abt this, I have to stay closeted for forever. Me and my best friend are having a sleepover for my birthday soon, and I REALLY want to kiss her and see if she likes me back but I'm not brave enough. I don't know if I'm les, demi, or bi. All ik is that I'm not straight and all hell would break loose if I said that out loud. Help me!!!!!!
I know it might seem a little rough at first, and having a homophobic family does not help!! I recommend not kissing her right away, but rather telling her you have feelings first. It helps to talk to friends more than a parent. I wish you good luck and hope that your parents can accept you!
when i was in 6 grade, ive always liked boys, but in 7th grade i started to have a crush on one of my girl friends. at first i denied it and tried to brush it off, but then like 2 months after the ongoing denial cycle, i caved in. right now idk what my sexuality is because ive always thought of me being straight. this also goes against my relgion, so idk what to do but i do know i still like the girl
All my life whenever I saw a pretty girl in my mind, I said I wanna be her boyfriend so bad so yeah, I guess I was kind of just always lesbian.
My friends are obsessed with Genshin Impact, and one friend was showing me some of the characters, and I thought some of the girls were cute. My friend told me I might be bisexual. As I kept researching, I found that I might be more comfortable with biromantic, since I am on the younger side. I find girls more attractive than boys, and I don't have a "type" for girls like I do with boys. After I had a Health Reproduction class, (iykyk) and I found intimacy and sexual contact to be quite gross and uncomfortable, I think I am finally able to say that I am biromantic and asexual. Some kids at my school, after finding out that I'm queer, threatened to tell people and my parents, (who already knew) and often avoid me because they say I'm "gross", or my favorite, "sinful". Like seriously, what 7th grader uses the word sinful? My friends who showed me who I am, are mostly straight, but love and support me. So, thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. (again, iykyk😉)
Yay, a fellow biromantic ace!
I’m still not sure what I am, but I realized that I liked women for sure when I was a preteen and watching IT. God, Beverly Marsh had me in a CHOKEHOLD. Sophia Lillis is still so pretty!!
I was at this ‘social’ my school was hosting (basically a dance) and my friend was in this really cute minidress that was sorta like a tank top with a skirt attached (super cute) and she asked me if I wanted to dance. Even though I didn’t like her as a crush, still, a GIRL. Asked ME. To DANCE. So (obviously) I said yes and we danced for like, 20 minutes and ngl i was feeling gay (or bi) panic the entire time. And in fifth grade I had a crush on this super cute Japanese girl that I went to school with (I still have my yearbook from then) and then I moved away and I still miss her :(
I never thought about it until I came out. I was just talking to my friend one day and I accidentally said "I'm a lesbian," but then I thought about it and I was like, damn that actually made sense! My actual gay awakening was probably Marceline the vampire queen cuz I was a simp for her when I was a kid lol.
Yeah same, I've been trying to figure my sexuality out for a while. When I got demisexual, everything clicked. I'm so glad I did this! :)
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