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Marriage can be daunting. The relationships, the commitments, the financial questions. There can be loads of pressure to get hitched–from parents, friends, even ourselves–but is marriage for everyone? Is it a realistic option for you? Would it even be possible? Here are 20 reasons you’ll never get married, and why that might not be such a bad thing after all.

Things You Should Know

  • If you enjoy being single or value your sexual freedom, marriage might be not be a good fit for you.
  • Having divorced parents or divorced friends can give you a negative opinion on marriage, and make it less likely to happen for you.
  • People who weren't raised religious are less likely to get married, compared to those who were.
  • If you don't believe in marriage as an institution or find fulfillment in your other relationships, you could be less likely to get married.
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You’re afraid of commitment.

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You don’t believe in marriage as a concept.

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  1. And you’re not alone: more and more young people aren’t subscribing to what passes as “traditional” marriage.[6] You might find the whole deal outdated–signing a contract to be together with one person indefinitely might not align with your ideals, and you could be better off looking for alternative arrangements in your romantic relationships.
    • Reader Poll: We asked 348 wikiHow readers what they think of marriage, and 73% of them said that marriage is important to them and they plan to get married one day. [Take Poll] It might feel like every single person around you plans to get married, and maybe it is the majority—but there are still many people who believe the same things as you (the stats prove it!).
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You’ve already lived with your partner for years.

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You don’t want to have kids.

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  1. In addition, many men want to wait to have kids, and many women don’t.[13] The subject of children can be a divisive one, and maybe one you’d rather not touch at all. Not wanting kids is a dealbreaker for a lot of potential partners, but it doesn’t have to mean you throw in the towel and get hitched. You can also be in a relationship without getting married or having kids–the best of both worlds![14]
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    What to say when someone asks why you're not married?
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    Kemar & DeAnne Johnson are Relationship Experts and Hosts of the “It’s Relational Podcast”. They specialize in effective communication and thorough comprehension as well as maintaining a healthy intimate relationship. They are high school sweethearts who have been married for over eight years and together for over 13 years. They have co-authored an Ebook called “The Top 25 Tips to Have a Beautiful Long Lasting Relationship.” They are also proud Jamaicans who value their roots, upbringing, and culture very much! They both attended Herbert H. Lehman High School and CUNY New York City College of Technology.
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    Well, this is always going to be a nagging question for everybody. It usually takes a little bit of a tough answer to give people when asked that. If you answer something like, "Oh, down the line we're going to do it” or other unsure answer, you'll open up a Pandora's box for people to question your relationship. So try to tell them to be patient and say that you'll marry when you both feel ready to take that step.
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  • Rather than focusing on what you’re missing by not getting married, focus on the positives! You have the freedom to make your own decisions and be the person you want to be, without someone else interfering.
  • Find fulfillment in your other relationships. Your friends and family can offer plenty of opportunities for affection and care. Try to be more mindful of the platonic relationships in your life.
  • Explore other relationship options. Alternative forms of romance are becoming more standard and widely accepted. You don’t need to be married to take part in a loving and fulfilling relationship.
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This article was co-authored by Kemar & DeAnne Johnson and by wikiHow staff writer, Luke Smith, MFA. Kemar & DeAnne Johnson are Relationship Experts and Hosts of the “It’s Relational Podcast”. They specialize in effective communication and thorough comprehension as well as maintaining a healthy intimate relationship. They are high school sweethearts who have been married for over eight years and together for over 13 years. They have co-authored an Ebook called “The Top 25 Tips to Have a Beautiful Long Lasting Relationship.” They are also proud Jamaicans who value their roots, upbringing, and culture very much! They both attended Herbert H. Lehman High School and CUNY New York City College of Technology. This article has been viewed 79,229 times.
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