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If you're beginning to wonder whether your partner's losing their feelings for you, that can feel so painful. Luckily, there are actually easy-to-spot red flags that can help you identify the problem early (that way, you can start trying to fix it!). Plus, contrary to what movies and romance novels may tell us, real love is an ebb-and-flow. There are times where it feels infinite and times it feels less present. We’ve compiled a list of clear signs that suggest your husband may be falling out of love with you, plus expert advice on how you can fix the root issue and move forward. Ready to learn how you can improve your marriage? Read on for more.
This article is based on an interview with our licensed professional counselor, Tara Vossenkemper, founder of Tara Vossenkemper Consulting, LLC. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- Communication is a big issue is many struggling marriages. Openly communicate with each other and avoid criticism, defensiveness, and hostility.
- If your husband intentionally withholds affection or intimacy from you, that could be a bad sign. Contempt is the arch-nemesis of intimacy.
- Keep in mind that there are tons of reasons your husband's behavior might change. Work and other stresses might also cause disconnection.
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QuestionHow do I know if my partner doesn't find me attractive anymore?Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCCMoshe Ratson is the Executive Director of spiral2grow Marriage & Family Therapy, a coaching and therapy clinic in New York City. Moshe is an International Coach Federation accredited Professional Certified Coach (PCC). He received his MS in Marriage and Family Therapy from Iona College. Moshe is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), and a member of the International Coach Federation (ICF).
Marriage & Family TherapistHave direct communication with them instead of making any assumptions. If you're feeling uncomfortable, it's best to address the issue and try to understand where it's coming from. Maybe your partner is too busy at work, or maybe stress is lowering their sex drive. The only way to know is to ask.
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References
- ↑ https://marriagehelper.com/signs-your-husband-doesnt-love-you/
- ↑ https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/signs-your-husband-isnt-in-love-with-you
- ↑ https://liveboldandbloom.com/09/relationships/husband-not-in-love
- ↑ https://www.marriage.com/advice/emotional-intimacy/repairing-emotional-intimacy/
- ↑ https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/commitment-issues
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/fixing-families/202012/always-walking-eggshells-how-stop
- ↑ https://www.thecouplescenter.org/sexless-marriage/
- ↑ https://deepsoulfullove.com/he-stopped-saying-i-love-you/
- ↑ https://thetrulycharming.com/signs-your-husband-doesnt-value-you/
- ↑ https://www.joinonelove.org/learn/20-things-to-tell-your-s-o-more-often/
- ↑ https://firstthings.org/the-difference-between-realistic-and-unrealistic-expectations-in-marriage/
- ↑ https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01494929.2015.1061629
- ↑ https://cmhc.utexas.edu/depression.html
- ↑ https://www.bonobology.com/signs-husband-doesnt-love-you/