This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
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Do you want to feel more comfortable talking to girls? Don't worry—talking to a teenage girl doesn't have to be so hard! Just be cool about starting the conversation and keep things laid back until you get to know her better. Remember, talking to a girl is just like talking to any other person. You don’t need to go out of your way to be anything other than a genuine, friendly person to chat a girl up.
Here are 11 tips that will make talking to girls feel like a breeze.
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QuestionI want to talk her but she is always with her friends. What should I do?wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerYou have two really good options here. First, you can just approach her and her friends at the same time and try to befriend all of them. That would be a kind of long-term approach, since it may take some time to get to know her and her friends. The other thing you can do is try to talk to her on social media. That might be a really easy way to connect if you really can't find a way to talk one-on-one in person. -
QuestionHow do I tell a girl I want to have sex with her?wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerIf you aren't dating her, this isn't something you should ever do. If you are in a committed relationship, just have an open conversation about it. If you aren't ready to talk about sex, it might be a sign that you aren't ready to have sex. -
QuestionHow can I talk to a girl in order to make her my girlfriend?wikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerHaving feelings for someone is exciting, but try not to get ahead of yourself. Just focus on getting to know her. Spend time together, hang out, and start talking regularly. Once you know her a little better, ask her if she wants to see a movie with you sometime! It's hard, but you can't rush this.
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Tips from our Readers
- Remember to be yourself and keep it natural. The first step was completely right—girls are just normal people! We aren't aliens or anything, so there's really nothing to be intimidated by.
- The best way to tell a girl you like her is to come right out and say it, but be serious about it. Don't tell someone you like them as a joke.
- If a girl is always looking at you, you should go up to her and strike up a conversation.
Warnings
- Unless you have a reasonable suspicion that she likes you, forget the pick-up lines. They rarely work and she may get the wrong impression.[14]Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.allprodad.com/teaching-my-son-how-to-talk-to-girls/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-narcissus-in-all-us/201601/fake-it-till-you-make-it-turns-out-be-good-strategy
- ↑ https://www.inc.com/joseph-pearlman/how-to-be-unforgettable-second-you-say-hello.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201110/reading-basic-body-language-for-dating-and-persuasion-success
- ↑ Connell Barrett. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
- ↑ Connell Barrett. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201112/break-the-ice-how-to-talk-to-girls-and-guys
- ↑ https://www.wsj.com/articles/use-mirroring-to-connect-with-others-1474394329
- ↑ https://www.dailytelegraph.com.au/rendezview/a-teenage-boys-guide-to-talking-to-girls/news-story/5d28f59bcfd626df317863df78e942b8
- ↑ https://www.nbcnews.com/better/pop-culture/how-connect-find-common-ground-any-conversation-ncna791206
- ↑ https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2016/10/22/there-is-a-clear-line-between-oversharing-and-being-authentic-heres-how-to-avoid-crossing-it/?sh=3c2af40456e3
- ↑ https://dailybruin.com/2001/01/08/girls-find-mysterious-appeal-i
- ↑ https://www.albionpleiad.com/2014/01/dos-and-donts-for-guys-when-asking-a-girl-out-ce-edits/
- ↑ https://www.albionpleiad.com/2014/01/dos-and-donts-for-guys-when-asking-a-girl-out-ce-edits/
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To talk to girls as a teen boy, remember that it's OK to be nervous. In fact, the girls probably won't even know! When you see a girl you want to talk to, stand up straight, keep your head high, and walk up to her. Then, say something like, "Hi, how are you?" or "Hey, I'm Brian. What's your name?". Don't worry about preparing something elaborate to say in advance, you can just bring up any topic to get the conversation going. For example, try, "That math test was so hard, how do you think you did?" or "I'm exhausted from working all weekend. Did you do anything fun?". If she seems interested in talking, keep the conversation going by talking about your day and asking her some light questions about herself. For more advice, like how to keep a girl interested in what you're saying, scroll down!
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