This article was co-authored by Jason Polk, LCSW, LAC and by wikiHow staff writer, Nihal Shetty. Jason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
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To remain healthy, all of us need to have stable relationships.[1] But sometimes feelings of insecurity, doubt, and anxiety can creep in, making our most treasured and intimate relationships painful. If you’re experiencing insecurity in your relationship, you may be wondering what might be the cause. We’ve provided here a list of some of the most common sources of relationship anxiety, as well as some steps you can take to address them, so that you can build a healthier and more sustainable relationship with your partner.
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QuestionHow do I stop being jealous and insecure?Jason Polk, LCSW, LACJason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
Relationship CounselorPractice remembering abundance! Take a deep breath and remember that there is abundance all around you, that there are many things to be grateful for, and that you're not in a war zone. Your partner does not possess your abundance, which means that your partner can't take it away. -
QuestionShould you tell your boyfriend about your insecurities?Jason Polk, LCSW, LACJason Polk is a Relationship Counselor and the Owner of Colorado Relationship Recovery. With over 12 years of experience as a therapist, he specializes in helping couples build healthy and thriving relationships through counseling. Jason holds an MSW from Newman University, Colorado Springs. He is also a Level II Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) therapist, Healing Our Core Issues (HOCII) Certified therapist, and has training in Relational Life Therapy (RLT).
Relationship CounselorAbsolutely! By sharing your vulnerabilities, you're giving your partner a chance to help you. You might say, "I'm feeling a little insecure. Could you give me some reassurance?" Feel free to explain what's making you feel insecure, too.
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