This article was co-authored by Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Jennifer Mueller, JD. Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.
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If you've just found out that your wife cheated on you, you're likely feeling a whirlwind of emotions. This has been a huge betrayal, and you have the right to feel all of those things. If you're trying to figure out what to do next, you've come to the right place. We talked to psychology experts to find out what you should do if you've discovered—or merely suspect—that your wife is cheating. If all you have are suspicions, check out some tell-tale signs that she's probably cheating on you.
Things You Should Know
- Talk to your wife privately so you can understand why she cheated and plan what you want to do next. Couples therapy can help.
- Allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions and take your time to decide what you're going to do next rather than making a rash decision you might regret.
- Women typically cheat because they're unsatisfied with the relationship or with themselves, or because they feel lonely.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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Expert Interview
Thanks for reading our article! If you’d like to learn more about relationships, check out our in-depth interview with Kelli Miller, LCSW, MSW.
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