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There’s no worse feeling in the world than hurting someone you care about. If you said or did something to upset a girl in your life, and you’re hoping to send her an apology via text, you’ve come to the right place. Saying sorry over text can be tricky, but it’s not impossible if you go about it the right way. Here are all the tips you need to send a sincere, genuine apology text to a girl, whether she’s a friend, coworker, family member, or your girlfriend.
This article is based on an interview with our matchmaker and dating coach, Courtney Quinlan, owner of Midwest Matchmaking. Check out the full interview here.
Things You Should Know
- When apologizing to a girl over text, start by acknowledging your mistake and saying that you’re genuinely sorry.
- Take full responsibility, and avoid shifting blame or minimizing your actions. Express genuine remorse for hurting her.
- Back your apology up with actions and improvements to your behavior. Say sorry again in-person the next time you see her.
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Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do you apologize for unintentionally hurting someone?Patti Novak WilliamsPatti Novak Williams is a Professional Matchmaker in Las Vegas, Nevada. With over 20 years of experience, Patti specializes in working with clients one on one to help them find love. She has helped match hundreds of couples, engagements, and marriages. Patti was the star of the critically acclaimed A&E series “Confessions of a Matchmaker.” She has been featured in the New York Times, the New York Daily News, the New York Post, and The Wall Street Journal, and has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show, TODAY with Hoda and Kathy Lee, The Rachael Ray Show, CBS’ The Early Show, CNN, The Big Idea with Donny Deutsch, The Nate Berkus Show, and Fox’s The Morning Show With Mike & Juliet. Patti published a book in 2008 with Random House titled “Get Over Yourself!: How to Get Real, Get Serious, and Get Ready to Find True Love.”
Professional Matchmaker & Dating CoachIf you unintentionally offended her, based on her reactions, the most natural forgiving thing is a provide a genuine apology such as “I'm so sorry. I did not mean to insult you or hurt your feelings.” It's an individual choice based on what happened and how she decides to handle and respond to it.
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Tips
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If she doesn’t accept your apology over text, try talking to her in-person. Sometimes a face-to-face apology can be a better way to fix things.[16]Thanks
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If she asked you to give her some space to cool down, honor this boundary and wait a bit before texting your apology.Thanks
Warnings
- Don’t push too hard if she’s not ready to talk to you or forgive you yet. It could drive her away for good.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_three_parts_of_an_effective_apology
- ↑ Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-make-a-sincere-apology
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/valley-girl-brain/201709/7-ways-truly-say-youre-sorry
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-art-of-a-heartfelt-apology-2021041322366
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-art-of-a-heartfelt-apology-2021041322366
- ↑ https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/minds-business/effective-apologies-include-six-elements.html
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-make-a-sincere-apology#tips
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_three_parts_of_an_effective_apology
- ↑ Patti Novak Williams. Professional Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 12 January 2021.
- ↑ Courtney Quinlan. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 27 August 2021.
- ↑ Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 11 February 2020.
- ↑ Courtney Quinlan. Matchmaker & Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 27 August 2021.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/how-to-make-a-sincere-apology
- ↑ Christina Jay, NLP. Matchmaker & Certified Life Coach. Expert Interview. 11 February 2020.
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/apologies.html