This article was co-authored by Collette Gee and by wikiHow staff writer, Glenn Carreau. Collette Gee is a Relationship Coach, Certified Violence Prevention Specialist, the Author of "Finding Happily… No Rules, No Frogs, No Pretending." Focusing on creating meaningful romantic relationships, Collette uses her experience having worked in the mental health industry as a psych nurse to conduct relationship coaching, online courses, and workshops to help women and men find lasting love. Prior to Collette's coaching business, she worked in the mental health field as a psych nurse which has helped inform her practice to create and sustain happy, healthy meaningful romantic relationships. Her work has been featured on TLC, London Live, the Huffington Post, and CNN.
There are 7 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.
This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources.
This article has been viewed 268,086 times.
Online dating apps are a great way to chat with cool people, but how can you finally ask someone out and score a date? Luckily, all it takes is some patience, a few friendly messages, and a dash of charm. Establish a rapport with your crush through messages, and then ask them out on an intriguing date they can't resist! Read on, and we'll show you the best step-by-step way to ask someone out online.
Steps
How Do You Ask Someone Out Over Text?
Community Q&A
-
QuestionI can I ask a girl out without seeing herwikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerYes, you can! Many people chat via dating app before meeting up in person for a date. Make sure you spend time getting to know her before asking her out, as she's more likely to say "yes" if she feels like she knows and can trust you. If she says "yes" and you still haven't seen a picture of her, you can ask politely for a photo so that you'll be able to recognize her when you meet up. -
QuestionHow to ask your online friend outwikiHow Staff EditorThis answer was written by one of our trained team of researchers who validated it for accuracy and comprehensiveness.
Staff AnswerwikiHow Staff EditorStaff AnswerStay lighthearted and positive when you ask them on a date; let your friend know you like them a lot and you're interested in exploring a romantic relationship with them. Make it clear that it's okay if they don't feel the same—their friendship is important to you, and you'd like to stay friends no matter what.
Tips
-
Be patient instead of repeatedly messaging your crush for a response. If you're polite, friendly, and engaging, you'll get a positive answer! In the meantime, it's important to give your crush space to respond in their own time.[10] A delay might not mean "no," especially when jobs and school can be so busy.Thanks
-
If the answer is "no," remember to accept it gracefully rather than arguing. Your crush will be happy that you respected their wishes, and you might even score a date later on after you've gotten to know one another better.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation-starters-topics/
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/conversation-starters-topics/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/relationships/want-to-be-close-to-someone-ask-these-36-questions
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-digitally/201806/why-do-we-flirt-text
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-ask-someone-out/
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-to-ask-someone-out-respectfully/
- ↑ https://www.scienceofpeople.com/how-to-ask-someone-out/
- ↑ https://www.loveisrespect.org/resources/how-to-ask-someone-out-respectfully/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-attraction-doctor/201502/single-question-can-boost-your-chance-getting-date
About This Article
If you’re more confident chatting online, it can be a great way to ask someone out while keeping your nerves in check. Instead of jumping right in, start a casual conversation with them first. You can ask what they’ve been up to or talk to them about something fun you have in common. Avoid serious topics, and throw in a few jokes to keep things lighthearted. If the conversation’s going well, ask them to hang out sometime or just ask if they want to be your boyfriend or girlfriend. For example, say something like, “I really enjoy talking to you, and I’d love to get to know you better. Would you like to hang out sometime when you’re free?” If you're not ready to ask them to hang out, try asking for their number instead. Try not to take it personally if they say no, since you'll find someone who's better for you. For more advice, including how to be yourself when talking online, read on!