This article was co-authored by Sarah Schewitz, PsyD and by wikiHow staff writer, Christopher M. Osborne, PhD. Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships.
There are 8 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page.
This article has been viewed 295,740 times.
If you’ve ever fallen in love with the wrong person—and haven’t we all at some point?—the notion of “controlling love” probably sounds as realistic as “herding cats.” So maybe you can’t really get in total control of love, but you can find ways to manage it!
Here are 12 tips to help you better control your feelings for someone.
Steps
Mindfulness Journal Entry Template
Expert Q&A
-
QuestionWhat can you do if you find your lover kissing another man?Paul Chernyak, LPCPaul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
Licensed Professional CounselorIt's helpful to confront them about it instead of letting it linger in the background. Clear the air if possible. If there is no trust, then there is no relationship. -
QuestionHow to do I stop being too attached to my boyfriend emotionally?Paul Chernyak, LPCPaul Chernyak is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Chicago. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011.
Licensed Professional CounselorDevelop a life outside of your boyfriend. Have your own hobbies, friends, and activities so you can fulfill your own needs. This will help you to detach a bit from your boyfriend.
Video
Tips
References
- ↑ https://adaa.org/tips-manage-anxiety-and-stress
- ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/how-do-you-stop-loving-someone-you-shouldnt/
- ↑ https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/how-do-you-stop-loving-someone-you-shouldnt/
- ↑ https://psyche.co/ideas/love-shouldnt-be-blind-or-mad-instead-fall-rationally-in-love
- ↑ http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201108/how-stop-love-making-you-act-fool
- ↑ https://sps.columbia.edu/news/how-meditation-can-help-you-focus
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201208/take-it-slow-if-you-want-your-relationship-last
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 15 April 2019.
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/relationship-help.htm
- ↑ Sarah Schewitz, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist. Expert Interview. 15 April 2019.
About This Article
Reader Success Stories
-
"I wanted to forget someone whom I loved a lot. Though I knew that she did not love me a bit but I had a hope that someday she would also love me but my bad luck it never happened and instead I came to know that she loved someone else. So I just wanted to forget her and focus on my studies. And this article helped me a lot. Thank you very much wikiHow!!!"..." more