How to Flirt With a Girl in Class

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School can be a great place to meet girls, but it can be hard to talk to your crush during the school day. Flirting during class can show your crush that you're interested and open the door to more interaction outside of the classroom. Try to grab a seat near the girl you like, smile, and remember to be confident!

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Getting Her Attention During Class

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Make a good impression on the girl you like by taking extra care to look your best. Wear a nice outfit that compliments your body type and personal style, choosing clean clothes that are free from wrinkles. Comb and style your hair, put on deodorant, and use a little perfume or cologne to make sure you smell great.
If your teacher lets you choose your seats, try picking a seat close to your crush. Even if there's not a seat right beside her, sit where you are in her line of sight. At the very least, you want to give her a chance to notice if you're having a great hair day or you have on a new shirt that makes your eyes look extra blue.

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Eye contact is one of the most effective flirting techniques.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} You don't want to stare at her all through class — that will seem creepy and you'll probably get called out by your teacher. Instead, try to catch her eye whenever something funny happens. Hold the eye contact for a few seconds, then look away.^{[2]
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Smile at her. Smiling will show her that you're a pleasant person, and it might make her want to spend more time around you. Make eye contact with her and smile when you walk into class or once or twice during class.^{[3]
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- Flirting is all about subtlety, so don't go overboard with this! You'll look silly if you just stare at her and smile all day.
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Lean over and give her a compliment if you're sitting close enough.^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} If you manage to get a seat right next to your crush, quietly give her a compliment during class. The trick to giving a great compliment is to be sincere. Pay attention to what you like about her and compliment that.^{[5]
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- You don't want to give her compliments every day or you'll seem overeager. Wait until you notice that she's wearing something new or you think she looks extra pretty that day. Try saying something like, “Your new haircut looks awesome,” or “You look really nice today.”
- Avoid comments that might make her feel uncomfortable, like remarks about her figure.
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Text her or pass notes during class.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} If you have her phone number, try flirting with her by texting her a silly joke or a meme. You could also comment on something that's going on around you. If you don't have her number or you can't have your phone at school, go old school by passing her a note.
- Try saying something like, “Do you think Mr. Lund knows that his shoe is untied?” Avoid negative jokes at someone else's expense, though, or you'll seem unkind.
- If you do text her, keep in mind that she might get in trouble if her phone beeps. And make sure the volume on your phone is turned off, or you might get caught if she texts you back!

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Making a Connection outside of Class

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If you feel like your crush has been receptive to your flirtation, try waiting for her outside of the classroom one day. Bring up something that happened during class that you both thought was funny. Laughing together makes people feel closer.^{[7]
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Offer to walk her to her next class. If you want to spend time with your crush at school, try to find ways to hang out with her outside of class. If your next class is near hers, offer to walk her to class. This will give you a few minutes to get to know each other better.
- Try saying, “Hey, I saw you walking to the Arts building yesterday. That's where my next class is too. Can I walk with you to your class?”
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Get to know her friends. If you see your crush hanging out with her friends, join the group. Be active in the conversation, but don't make it all about you. Ask them questions like what they like to do after school or what classes they're in. If her friends like you, she'll probably have a higher opinion of you.^{[8]
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- Make sure you don't flirt with her friends! Your crush needs to know she's the one you're interested in.
Ask your crush if she wants to eat lunch with you and your friends or if she's interested in grabbing some pizza after school. If she says yes, she's probably interested in you! If she declines, smile and say something like “No problem, see you tomorrow!”

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If you're sitting next to each other, you can give her a compliment. If you feel too nervous to talk, you can even try passing notes to each other.

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Don't just pass notes with a "check yes or no" to ask her out. Have a fun, personalized note with a joke or observation ready for when the teacher isn't looking. She'll be impressed by your effort.
Compliment a creative project or assignment of hers by saying something like, "That drawing/story/presentation was awesome; you're really talented!" Avoid comments on her looks or body, though.
If your crush is in a band or plays an instrument, tell her you dig musicians and ask what got her into it. Maybe suggest jamming together sometime so you can see her musical talents in action.
When you get the chance to choose partners or teams in class, suggest working together. Having an activity to do will make conversations flow more naturally so you can get to know each other.
Offer to let her borrow a pen or highlighter if she's forgotten one. But don't steal or hide her stuff as a way to interact — that's not cool. Simply be helpful when you can.
If your class has a group chat or online discussion board, make thoughtful contributions about the material. Don't overdo it, but showing you're engaged could catch her eye.

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Having a crush is exciting, but make sure you're still paying attention in class! Your crush probably won't think it's cute if you get a failing grade, and she definitely won't like it if your flirtation brings her grade down.

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Try to be subtle! You could get in trouble with the teacher if you get caught talking, texting, or passing notes during class.

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