How to Impress a Girl and Make Her Fall in Love with a Boy

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Impressing a girl may seem like a difficult task, but it is not as hard as it seems. You can impress a girl by taking care of your physical appearance, showing off your great personality, and demonstrating your unique skills and/or resources. Once you have a girl’s attention, doing simple things like smiling at her and making eye contact can go a long way. You can also try taking her on thrilling dates and letting her do favors for you to increase her feelings of affection for you. Just keep in mind that falling in love is a bit of a mystery and it might not be possible to get every girl to fall in love with you.

This article is based on an interview with our licensed marriage and family therapist, Allen Wagner. Check out the full interview here.

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Impressing a Girl

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Show her that you have a great personality. Demonstrate your great personality to the girl before you even ask her out. By being positive, kind, funny, thoughtful, and well-mannered, you can show her that you are a great guy who would make an excellent boyfriend.^{[1]
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- If you feel like your personality is lacking in some way, focus on improving yourself.^{[2]
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  Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.} For example, if you tend to be pessimistic, make it your goal to identify three positive things about your life every day. Over time, you will begin to find it easier to see the positives in your everyday life and you will also benefit from higher self-esteem, better sleep, and improved empathy.^{[3]
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- Remember to talk to her. Research has shown that a great personality can make people find you more attractive. But if you never talk to her, she may never get to see how great of a guy you are.^{[4]
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Make sure that you always look and feel great. Looking and feeling good will help you to be confident around the girl you like and that may be enough to win her over. Take plenty of time every day to eat healthy, exercise, sleep, and groom yourself. Feeling good about yourself will help you project happiness and confidence, which are always attractive.^{[5]
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- Eat healthy and exercise regularly.
- Rest and relax every day.
- Make sure your hair looks good.
- Wear clothes that express your personality.
- Wear cologne and deodorant.
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Look for opportunities to showcase your unique abilities and resources.^{[6]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.} Some girls may find certain things attractive in a guy, while others will not. But the only way that you can find out if the girl you like finds your unique talents attractive is to look for opportunities to showcase them.^{[7]
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- For example, if you are an excellent guitar player, invite the girl you like to come to one of your band’s practices or shows. Or if there is a sport that you excel at, ask her to come to one of your games.
Some girls are impressed by guys who are passionate about their hobbies and make time for themselves.^{[8]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.} If you have things that you love to do, make sure that you make plenty of time to do those things. For example, if you are an avid reader, make sure that you keep doing that even while you are pursuing this girl. It will give you more things to talk to her about when you see her and she may even be impressed to find you reading in a coffee shop some random afternoon.^{[9]
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Asking Her Out

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Asking a girl out on a date can be frightening, but if you make a plan it might not be as scary. Think about when, where, and how you plan to ask her out. Try to work out what you want the moment to look like and spend some time visualizing a positive response.
You want to look your best when you ask her out for the first time. If you are wearing your grubbiest shirt and haven’t showered in a couple of days, she will not have a good impression of you. But you don’t need to wear a tuxedo or get a makeover before you ask her out either. Just make sure that you are clean, wearing some flattering clothes, and that your hair and facial hair are groomed.^{[10]
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Meet her gaze. Confidence is sexy, and one of the most confident things you can do is look her in the eyes when you ask her out. While it may feel more comfortable to look at the floor and mumble your question to her, this will not impress her. Look her straight in the eyes and hold your head up high to show her that you are confident.^{[11]
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- Some people find eye contact kind of alarming or threatening. If she doesn’t respond well to eye contact, don’t read too much into it.^{[12]
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The way that you stand can also indicate how confident you are. If you are slumping or crossing your arms, she might interpret this as fear or nervousness. Instead, stand up tall with your arms hanging loosely at your sides. Keep your shoulders back and your chest puffed out a bit. This will show her your full height and breadth, which will be much more impressive than if you approach her in a hunched over position.^{[13]
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Keep it short and direct. There’s no need to talk to her for an hour before you ask her out. In fact, if you take too long to ask, you might lose your nerve. Instead, walk right up to her, give her a quick compliment, and then tell her that you’d like to spend some time with her.^{[14]
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- Try saying something like, “Hi. You seem really cool! Listen, I am in a bit of a hurry, but I thought I’d see if you would be interested in going out with me sometime. Can I get your number?”
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Shrug it off if she says no. Sometimes, despite your best efforts, a girl will say no when you try to ask her out. The occasional “No” is something that you will have to deal with when you ask a girl out on a date.^{[16]
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- Try saying something like, “It’s cool. You just seem like a fun person to chill with so I thought I’d ask. But no worries! Have a good day!”

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Increasing Her Affection for You

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Be an amazing date. If the girl that you like says yes and you do get to go on a date with her, make sure that you do all that you can to make sure that she wants to go out again sometime. Little gestures like opening doors, helping her put her coat on or take it off, and paying for dinner can be very impressive to some girls. If you really want to wow her, show up at her door with flowers, take her somewhere fancy, and impress her with your food recommendations at the restaurant.^{[17]
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- To impress her even more on your first date, find out what she likes through casual conversation and plan a date that incorporates those likes. For example, if she is a big fan of horror movies, take her to see the latest horror flick. If she is a Chinese food fanatic, take her to a Chinese restaurant for dinner. If she loves to play mini golf, take her to play some mini golf!^{[18]
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Compliment her. When you first pick up or meet up with the girl for your date, make sure that you pay her a sincere, specific compliment.^{[19]
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Expert Interview. 11 June 2020.} You can say something simple like, “You look amazing in that dress!” or, “Your hair looks really pretty.” Whatever you choose, just make sure that you deliver the compliment in a direct way and look her in the eye as you say it.^{[20]
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- Keep the compliments coming as you continue to date and get to know each other. Don’t just compliment her appearance either. Make sure that you also compliment her intelligence, her sense of humor, and her other talents as you learn about them. For example, you can say something like, “I really admire your talent at track and field.”
- Reader Poll: We asked 321 wikiHow readers how they prefer to let a girl know they think she’s cute, and 65% of them said giving a casual compliment with a light smile. [Take Poll]
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Talk about safe subjects at first. When you are first getting to know a girl that you like, you should be careful not to delve too deeply into personal issues. Stick to things that won’t get her feeling uncomfortable or vulnerable For example, you can ask about her favorite music, movies she’s seen recently, or her hobbies.
- Avoid discussing topics that might be uncomfortable for her such as your ex-girlfriends, family conflicts, or your religion. Instead, focus on questions that help you get to know her better. Ask her about her likes and dislikes, her friends and family, her interests, etc.
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Ask more questions to get to know her even better. It is important to have fun while you are getting to know a girl, so make sure that you also ask questions that reveal her personality. By now you should know a bit more about her likes and dislikes, so you can probe a bit further into those topics as well.^{[21]
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- For example, if she told you what her favorite movie was on your last date, ask her what she likes about that movie, how many times she has seen it, who her favorite character is, etc. She will be impressed by your memory of what she said and your sincere interest in something she enjoys.
Getting to know someone can take a long time and it may be a while before she falls for you. But don’t get discouraged or impatient. Just keep trying your best to show her a good time and get to know her. Try to look at each time that you go out or spend time together as an opportunity to find out more and show her what makes you worthy of her love.^{[22]
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What do you say to a girl to get her to fall in love with you?

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Allen Wagner is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based in Los Angeles, California. After working as a therapist at the Children’s Bureau and Penny Lane Centers, he opened his own practice in 2008. Allen works with both individuals and couples and has 20 years of experience as a therapist. Allen specializes in helping clients improve their relationships, assisting people in managing life transitions, improving communication in all environments, and identifying realistic and positive goals. Alongside his wife Talia Wagner, he authored the book "Married Roommates". He received an MA in Psychology from Pepperdine University and a BA in Film and Creative Writing from the University of Arizona.

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There are no secret tricks or words here that will make someone love you. This has to happen organically. Just be yourself, try to get to know her, and express interest in things she like. Spend time together. But don't go out looking for special hacks that will "trick her" to love you, though.

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Kelli Miller is a Psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Kelli specializes in individual and couples therapy focusing on relationships, depression, anxiety, sexuality, communication, parenting, and more. She is the author of “Love Hacks: Simple Solutions to Your Most Common Relationship Issues” which details the top 15 relationship issues and 3 quick solutions to each. She is also the award-winning and best-selling author of “Thriving with ADHD”. Kelli co-hosted an advice show on LA Talk Radio and was a relationship expert for The Examiner. She received her MSW (Masters of Social Work) from the University of Pennsylvania and a BA in Sociology/Health from the University of Florida.

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If you're trying to get a girl to like you, you want her to like you for you. Show her the real you and be yourself. Aside from that, always be kind and avoid playing games.

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Be yourself. It's very rare for people to like somebody who's not authentic and real. Avoid putting up a false sense of self and show people who you really are.

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If the girl doesn't like you, don't try to persuade her that she should. This will only make things worse. You can't explain to people how they should feel.

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Make her realize that you're not mean so she can take you more seriously.

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Avoid ignoring her while you are with your friends. Your friends will always be around and if you ignore her when they are around, then she might feel like you don’t really like her.

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If you are picking up the clues that a girl likes you back, go ahead and ask her out. Treat her with respect by doing something special like bringing flowers to her house. Just be sure not to overwhelm her in front of her friends.
Use proper punctuation and grammar when you're texting her so that she thinks you're smart. Just don't get pushy and text her more than 3 times in a row.
If you are talking to your friends and she walks past you, look over at her and smile because she might be looking back at you.
Be confident while you're talking to a girl by looking her in the eyes and not looking down during the conversation.

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Never try to impress her in these ways because you'll never achieve your goal:
- Pretending to be something you are not. She'll know right away and think you're a hypocrite.
- Doing reckless things or making a fool of yourself. She will label you as immature. Remember that this is usually only done by children.
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