How to Kiss a Boy Passionately

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Last Updated: December 13, 2023

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Kissing is an art, and with every form of art, it'll take time to develop. Luckily engaging in a passionate kiss is easier than learning the violin! You might feel nervous or uneasy if it's your first kiss, but try to relax and enjoy yourself. Be sure not to rush into a passionate kiss with a boy. Wait until you're both ready and comfortable around each other.

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Initiating the Kiss

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You have nothing to prove and nothing to lose. Kissing is a two way street and the guy is probably more nervous than you are. Take deep breaths, but don't make it too obvious that you're trying to calm yourself down.^{[1]
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Match the energy of the person you're with. Passionate kissing can be frenzied, calm and meditative, or anywhere in between. There is an unspoken process where both parties will try to match the type of passion the other is aching for.
- It helps to synchronize breathing rates.^{[2]
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A good way to begin building sexual tension is to keep him talking. Be in a location that is secluded. Having the option to sit is an extra bonus. Just keep a conversation no matter how mundane it feels. The bleaker the conversation the higher your chances are that he's thinking about kissing you.
A great way to signal that you're ready to kiss is to go back and forth from looking at his eyes and his lips. This will create tension that is necessary to have a truly passionate kiss. If he repeats and looks at your lips, he is ready for those kissing sparks to fly.
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Lean close to him. There are ways of being sly about getting close to him, but you want this move to be obvious. This is another clue for him to know that you want to start kissing.^{[3]
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- It will help if your bodies are slightly touching. Even if your body contact is ever so slight, it will feel exciting.
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Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.} Try and keep the conversation going, and touch him on the thigh or his arm. Another good spot to excite and comfort him is to put your hand behind his neck. Be sure to keep your eyes fixed on his eyes, but take quick glances at his lips.
Tilt your head slightly and move close to his face and pause right before you reach his face. You shouldn't do all the work, but initiating the kiss yourself will excite him. It isn't as popular for the girl to make the first move, but there isn't a rule book to kissing!

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Kissing and the Moment

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You do not want to open your mouth too wide or else he might feel strange. Just open it big enough to fit his lip securely between yours. Show your tongue ever so slightly. Don't fully extend your tongue at this stage.
Start gently kissing your partner on the lips, don't rush. It is good to build the pace naturally. Rushing into the kiss can decrease the potential passion.^{[5]
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Run your fingers through his hair, his beard, or his shirt, and grab onto them. Pulling him into the heat of the moment is a good way to fire up his passion.
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Use your tongue. Again kissing is a two way street. You might want to wait, if this is your first time, for him to initiate french kissing. Gently massage his tongue with yours while his tongue is inside your mouth. When you're ready you can try entering into his mouth. Then gently massage his tongue and the roof of his mouth.
- Don't force your tongue into his mouth too quickly. You also don't want to go too deep.
After you've been french kissing for a while, try moving your head away momentarily. Look at him and smile. Then either he'll come back in for the kiss, or you can go back for it.
This is another way to enhance the passion. Lightly bite and suckle his neck. Do not do this for too long or else he will get a hickey. If you want to show off a hickey on his neck, then go for it. Feel out the vibes from him.
While your kissing, one way to show your passion is to bite his lip. Don't bite too hard or he might bleed. Only do this if you're confident and think he might like it.

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Setting the Mood

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You don't want to start initiating a kiss in a location that isn't opportune. You're looking for somewhere secluded and where you can hopefully sit.
Passion can't always be planned out in a step by step process. You need to be flexible and able to easily adapt with the mood of your partner.
A boy will be into it if you are spontaneous and confident. If you're going on a walk and see a picturesque trail, then grab his hand and pull him along. Exploring places with someone will increase your security and bond together.
This can be the hardest part about passion and kissing. Only go with this guy if he does something for you. Not just buying you material products, but if he excites you or makes you laugh, he may be worthy.
Periodically through your date with this guy you should give him slight physical attention. You don't need to overdo this, but every once in a while grab his arm when he says something funny.

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Be confident and don't be scared of his reaction. If you like the guy, go for the kiss. He may actually enjoy it.^{[6]
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Wear lip balm. Another way of attracting his eyes to your lips is by wearing lip balm. This is also a great way to keep your lips moist. Kissing with dry, chapped lips can be challenging and is rarely passionate.

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Remember to not let him pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

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If he starts to pull away, don't panic. Look him considerately in the eye and let it end. Maybe even smile a little to let him know it's ok.
Don't kiss him in a place where either of you feels uncomfortable. Find a private place to do this, and don't forget to relax and have fun!
Honestly, he might be just as nervous as you are! If you want to kiss the guy, and the guy wants to kiss you, go for it!

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Don't be too rough, kiss gently.

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Don't do this if either of you are ill or you'll spread it!

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