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"They love me, they love me not." Sadly, real emotions often aren't as cut and dry as that. Feelings ebb and flow depending on your general mood and everything else that's going on in your life. But questioning if you still love someone is a very serious matter. That's why we talked to love and relationship coach Nicole Moore and love and transformation coach Jennifer Butler to find out how you can tell if you still love someone and how to act on your feelings.
7 Signs You're No Longer in Love
- You and your partner don't talk about the future anymore.
- You don't enjoy spending time with your partner.
- You look forward to being apart from your partner.
- Your partner is no longer a priority for you.
- Your sex life has gone stale.
- You don't like sitting or standing close to your partner.
- You make excuses to spend time away from your partner.
Steps
Expert Q&A
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QuestionHow do you assess your feelings for someone?Chloe Carmichael, PhDChloe Carmichael, PhD is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist who runs a private practice in New York City. With over 12 years of psychological consulting experience, Dr. Chloe specializes in relationship issues, stress management, self-esteem, and career coaching. She has also instructed undergraduate courses at Long Island University and has served as adjunct faculty at the City University of New York. Dr. Chloe completed her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Long Island University in Brooklyn, New York, and her clinical training at Lenox Hill Hospital and Kings County Hospital. She is accredited by the American Psychological Association and is the author of “Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety” and “Dr. Chloe's 10 Commandments of Dating.”
Licensed Clinical PsychologistMake your assessment about you, and really get in touch with how you've felt over time. I often ask clients to tell me the story of how they met the person, what things were like early in the relationship, and when and how the problem started to occur. Often, just by going through the whole history with me, they’ll end up getting a lot of insight and information about their feelings throughout the relationship.
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References
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201301/35-ways-tell-if-its-over-and-tell-your-partner
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/cutting-edge-leadership/202101/10-subtle-signs-falling-out-love-someone
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201301/35-ways-tell-if-its-over-and-tell-your-partner
- ↑ https://www.mcgill.ca/counselling/files/counselling/surviving_a_break-up_-_20_strategies_0.pdf
- ↑ https://www.livescience.com/33720-13-scientifically-proven-signs-love.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201301/35-ways-tell-if-its-over-and-tell-your-partner
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/dealing-with-a-breakup-or-divorce.htm
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/love-and-gratitude/201301/35-ways-tell-if-its-over-and-tell-your-partner
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cui-bono/201211/are-i-statements-better-you-statements
About This Article
To know if you still love someone, think about how attracted you are to them, since a lack of attraction usually suggests a lack of love. In addition to your attraction, pay attention to how easily they annoy you, since getting irritated with your partner can be a red flag. You should also consider the reasons why you’re still in a relationship with them, since it’s easy to mistake love for loneliness or dependence. If you’re still unsure about your feelings for your partner, try having some time and space to yourself so you can see how it feels to be away from them. For more tips from our Psychology co-author, including how to discuss your feelings with your partner or ex, read on!
Reader Success Stories
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"This helps you differentiate between loving your partner or being jealous, lonely, etc. which are two things you can get easily confused by."..." more