How to Know when a Man Is Attracted to You

Co-authored by Alysha Jeney, MA, LMFT and Hannah Madden

Last Updated: March 25, 2024 Fact Checked

Figuring out if someone is attracted to you sounds easy enough—you can always tell when someone is flirting with your friend, right? But when it comes to ourselves, noticing that a guy likes you isn’t as obvious. That’s why we’ve created a comprehensive list of signs you can watch for the next time you see this guy in person or are chatting over text or on social media.

1

He smiles and laughs around you.

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He probably enjoys your company so much that it makes him happy. Take note of how often he smiles or laughs at one of your jokes, then compare it to how he talks to others. If he’s way happier or excited when he’s with you, there’s a good chance that he’s attracted to you.^{[1]
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- Some people just naturally laugh a lot and are quick to smile, which is why it’s important to compare your interactions to other people’s.

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He compliments you.

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Complimenting someone indicates a little bit of attraction. If every time you see this guy he has another sweet comment for you, that’s a good sign.^{[2]
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Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.} It means he’s pointing out the things he likes about you to show that he cares about you.^{[3]
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- Some people are just naturally complimentary, however. If you notice that he gives everyone compliments, it might not just be a you thing.

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He makes eye contact with you.

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When someone is attracted to you, they’ll want to look you in the eyes. Pay attention to where he’s looking whenever you two chat. Does he glance around the room, or does he lock eyes with you intensely?^{[4]
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Expert Interview. 11 August 2021.} If he holds your gaze no matter what, there’s a good chance that he’s attracted to you.^{[5]
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- You might also catch him staring at you from across the room. If you happen to catch his eye, he’ll hold eye contact with you and smile.

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His posture is open.

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Calm, relaxed posture indicates that he likes you. When you see him, he’ll probably have his arms by his side, his shoulders down, and his back relaxed. This is a good sign—it means that he feels totally comfortable around you, and he’s probably happy to see you.^{[6]
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- On the flip side, if he has his arms crossed, his shoulders hunched, or his posture rigid, he might not be that into you (or he’s just in a really bad mood).

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He leans in close to you.

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This may mean that he wants to be near you. When you two talk, you’ll probably notice him leaning in toward you, maybe a little closer than he would with someone else. People usually only do this if they like someone, so it’s a good sign!^{[7]
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- On the flip side, if he leans back or away from you, that doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like you. Some people are more “relaxed” flirters, meaning that the more they like you, the more comfortable they’ll feel to lean away from you.

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He touches you often.

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Breaking the touch barrier shows someone that you’re attracted to them. If the guy in question can’t stop patting you on the back, touching your hand, or gently brushing your shoulder, then he’s probably into you. He might even make excuses to touch you, like offering a massage.^{[8]
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- You can test this theory by “accidentally” brushing your hand against his. If he doesn’t flinch or pull away, he probably likes you.

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He faces you in a group.

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Facing you means he’s making an effort to talk to you. If you notice that he always has a knack for singling you out in a crowd, this probably isn’t a coincidence. It’s because he’s making an effort to be near you, even when there are a lot of other people around.^{[9]
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- If you're hanging out with a group of his friends and you still have his undivided attention, that's a great sign that he's into you.
- Reader Poll: We asked 558 wikiHow readers and only 13% thought that the strongest sign of a guy liking you is him inviting you into his plans. [Take Poll] So while joining his social plans may not be absolute proof, having his full attention definitely is.

8

He removes objects between you two.

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When people like each other, they don’t want anything in their way. If you two are sitting at a table with a vase of flowers in between you, he’ll probably scoot them out of the way so you two can chat. Or, if you’re sitting on a couch with a lot of decorative pillows, he’ll push them to the side so he can see you.^{[10]
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- The same goes for his cup if he’s drinking something—if he sets it down to the side and not directly in between you two, there’s a good chance he’s attracted to you.

9

He blushes around you.

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People often blush when they’re excited or nervous. It’s because their body is releasing adrenaline, which can make their cheeks turn pink. If you catch him going pink every time you glance in his direction, that’s a major giveaway that he’s into you.^{[11]
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- There are other things that make people blush too, like alcohol and heat. But if you’re both stone cold sober and a little chilly, you’ll probably notice if he’s blushing because of you.

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He seems flustered or fidgety.

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He might be nervous around you because he’s attracted to you. If you walk into the room and notice him fixing his tie or fidgeting with his shirt, take note of that. He might be trying to fix up his clothing so he looks nice for you, or he might just be feeling nervous.^{[12]
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- Confident guys probably won’t act super flustered around you. If the guy you’re wondering about tends to be a little cocky, he’ll probably act calm, cool, and collected no matter what.

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His voice gets slower or deeper around you.

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Men sometimes do this to show they’ve let their guard down. If you’ve been talking to this guy for a little while and you notice a change in his voice, it probably means he’s attracted to you. He might also slow down how fast he’s talking or take longer pauses in between sentences.^{[13]
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- When people are nervous, their voices sometimes get a little higher. If you notice any change to this guy’s voice, it’s probably a sign that he thinks you’re cute.

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He texts back quickly.

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People make time for the people they’re attracted to. If you send this guy a text and get a reply only minutes later, there’s a good chance he was sitting by the phone waiting for your message. He’ll probably even make time to talk with you if he’s busy or at work—if he does that, you’ll know for sure that he’s into you.^{[14]
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- Keep in mind that some people really are super busy, and he might actually not have time to reply to you. If that’s the case, he could still be into you, even if he does take a while to text back.

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His texts are longer than yours.

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When a guy likes you, he’ll put effort into contacting you. If you have this guy’s number, he’ll most likely text you long paragraphs. This means that he really enjoys talking to you, and he wants to keep it up, even over text.^{[15]
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- On the other hand, if he only texts you one-word answers or short replies, he might not be that into you.

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He adds you on social media.

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He probably wants extra ways to keep in touch with you. Maybe you gave this guy your name, and he somehow found your Instagram or Facebook. This means that he was doing some sleuthing and found you online, which probably means that he’s into you.^{[16]
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- This is especially true if you have a pretty common name, because it means he had to work extra hard to find you.
- If he DMs you, sends you Snaps, or comments on all your posts, he's into you.

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How do you tell if a coworker is attracted to you?

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Alysha Jeney is a Licensed Relationship Therapist, the Owner of Modern Love Counseling, and the Co-Founder of The Modern Love Box. She specializes in relationship therapy, intimacy building, and existential exploration. Alysha holds a BA in Psychology from The Metropolitan State University of Denver and an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy/Counseling from Regis University. She has been featured in publications such as The Washington Post and The Huffington Post.

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See how much time he spends around you compared to other people. If he's spending a lot of his free time with you, there's a good chance that he's interested. He might also ask you a lot of questions about yourself.

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What if we’re in different classes and don’t see each other very much?

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You can still see how he acts when you do see him, like when you're walking through the halls or after class. And, if you really want to know if he likes you, try exchanging numbers! If he's into you, he'll be super excited about getting your contact info.

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I like a guy and he's constantly staring at me in class. I kind of want him to know, so I stare back. He also laughs ALL THE TIME around me, but he never tries to touch me. Maybe he's shy?

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Some people just don't love touching others, and that's okay! If he's staring at you and laughing around you, those are 2 great signs that he's into you. Try sitting close to him and leaning in as you talk to signal that you're also interested.

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