How do you tell if someone's being flirty or friendly?
Hey everyone! I would really love some help figuring out how to tell if someone is flirting with me, especially when it comes to reading body language and facial cues. I feel like I completely misunderstand the difference between someone being friendly and someone actually trying to hit on me. I won’t bore you with the details but I’ve missed out on so many chances where I just thought the other person was being nice, and I’ve gotten into trouble a few times for mistaking someone being friendly as someone trying to hit on me. Any tips here?
Examples of flirting would be lots of eye contact and smiling, being curious about your relationship status, and specifically asking to do something with them in the evening, like getting a drink, or on the weekend. Those are very clear signs of flirting. That means they like you, they're attracted to you, they're drawn to you, and they feel safe around you. Subtler signs of flirting would be just eye contact, playful comments, light touching at the end of a joke, things like that.
What if he was the only one to text me at 9:30 pm to hang out with him and his friends like non of his friends texted me to come out only him. He saved me/my face from a ball that was going 100000000 mph. Not only is he nice to me but also my younger sister and he starts the conversations. But then he tells his friends that im not his type
Totally agree with all of that. Also, ask yourself these two questions: are they going out of their way to be flirty/friendly/interact with you? and do they act that way towards anybody else? Treating you differently from everyone else is a major clue that they like you and are flirting IMO.
So like if someone is super friendly and kinda flirty with everyone, then that's just their personality. But if they go out of their way to be around you, talk to you, and compliment you but don't do the same with other people, then they're flirting.
So like if someone is super friendly and kinda flirty with everyone, then that's just their personality. But if they go out of their way to be around you, talk to you, and compliment you but don't do the same with other people, then they're flirting.
So, this advice might vary a little bit depending upon whether the person asking is male or female, and whether they're interacting with someone who's male or female. There's a little bit of a stereotype about men often being a little bit oblivious, and there's a reason for the stereotype. Oftentimes, you have to be a little more explicit and direct with men: people can think they're dropping all kinds of hints, and then the guy is just not picking them up. So sometimes you have to get a little bit more straightforward in those circumstances.
Anyway, the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection so that, even if it doesn't lead anywhere, both people feel uplifted and like they had a good time. If this person is being playful and fun with you, it's possible they're trying to flirt.
Anyway, the core of flirting is simply playfulness. It's having fun, it's building a connection so that, even if it doesn't lead anywhere, both people feel uplifted and like they had a good time. If this person is being playful and fun with you, it's possible they're trying to flirt.
What someone does when you suggest hanging out or doing something together can really tell you a lot about how they feel about you. If you ask someone if they’re free on a certain day and they’re super excited to say they’re free, they’re probably into you. Just think about how “available” they seem to be whenever they’re around you. Are they always up for anything, or do they always seem to be busy? If they’re often busy, they’re probably just being friendly. Someone who is crushing on you will try and drop everything else to hang out.
I try to really pay attention to what they're saying and how they're acting. If they're laughing at your jokes, raising the pitch of their voice, or talking a lot faster than usual, they might like you but feel nervous when they're trying to flirt.
Here's a test I like to try too: make a subtle movement, like crossing your legs or scratching your neck. If they mimic you or do the same thing, it's a pretty good sign they're trying to flirt.
You can also try flirting back! If they seem into it, then they like you. If they seem uncomfortable and pull back a bit or try to escape the conversation, then they were probably just being friendly.
Here's a test I like to try too: make a subtle movement, like crossing your legs or scratching your neck. If they mimic you or do the same thing, it's a pretty good sign they're trying to flirt.
You can also try flirting back! If they seem into it, then they like you. If they seem uncomfortable and pull back a bit or try to escape the conversation, then they were probably just being friendly.
If you're into them and they seem interested, it never hurts to be direct with how you're feeling. Say something like, "I feel like we've been connecting really well, do you want to go see a movie this weekend?" to gauge their interest.
If they say no, then say its no problem and that you misread the signs. If they agree, then you can confirm how they really feel AND you two get to go out on a date!
If they say no, then say its no problem and that you misread the signs. If they agree, then you can confirm how they really feel AND you two get to go out on a date!
Wondering, someone who I suspect has a crush on me, makes minimal conversation, but I think he's scared because we aren't really "friends". He smiles at me when he does talk to me, and laughs at my jokes, but another factor is he's a really quiet person, so its hard to tell.
i have dated such a person.
probably he likes u!!!
probably he likes u!!!
some signs are:
eye contact
dilation of pupils
body towards you
sometimes speaks by implication
joins activities you do
eye contact
dilation of pupils
body towards you
sometimes speaks by implication
joins activities you do
Well technically this has been happening for a long time, a boy my age has been constantly staring at me, talking about me to his friends, trying to look for me outside, screamed in my ear, said "hello" to me, raised his eyebrows up and down at me and kind of smiled, saying he does not like me when he asked "who broke your heart" when I said out load that my heart is broken and someone broke my heart. so technically that's a couple of signs that a boy/girl will probably like you.
This guy said he likes me, luckily, I could pretend like I hadn’t seen the text, how do I tell him I’m lesbian?
girl if you have an iPhone and you opened the message it would go back to him as read, but if you looked at it by the notification u could pretend. And just tell him the you just enjoy being friend(if they are your friend) and if they are ur not friends ask them to be friends so that it is not awkward. You don't have to tell them ur sexuality if ur not comfortable.
it could be all in your head and you just wanting them to feel that way towards you but at the same its probably not YOu thinking that, its just a weird subconcious mind thinking thing that just happens like it doesnt mean anything, it really doesnt. just ignore it and uhmm go take a nap.
How do you tell if someone likes you
Don't think to much just say it
I can agree my crush and I both liked eachother (he did all of these exept of the last one) and I never told him i liked him and next thing you know he moves to spain!
Hello!!! I've had a crush on someone for 3 years now and he doesn't really hit on me but if it look like he does thats him just trying to be natrually funny. Do u guys know ways to see if he like likes me or not?
I need some friendly advice! I like this guy who has a generally open, charismatic, and friendly/flirty demeanor. We’ve been loose friends for a little over a year, but have been hanging out more often in group contexts over the past 6 months. Every time I see him he makes it a point to greet me warmly and give me long bear hugs. He holds extensive eye contact with me in conversations and from across rooms and he likes to make goofy expressions to get me to laugh. He tells me corny jokes and always gushes about how good I smell. I have noticed that he doesn’t do this with anyone else in our friend group. Our dynamic is overall really fun and playful. I feel confused though because he makes no move to hang out with me outside of our friend group. And we’ve never really had extensive opportunities to have 1:1 conversations. I feel nervous about pursuing him because I’m confused af. I feel like he’s definitely more flirty with me but he doesn’t put in a lot of effort to get to know me better or be around me more than usual. Let me know if anyone has suggestions!!
Do you have his number? Maybe starting up a private text convo would help to get him more 1-on-1.
I need some friendly advice! I like this guy who has a generally open, charismatic, and friendly/flirty demeanor. We’ve been loose friends for a little over a year, but have been hanging out more often in group contexts over the past 6 months. Every time I see him he makes it a point to greet me warmly and give me long bear hugs. He holds extensive eye contact with me in conversations and from across rooms and he likes to make goofy expressions to get me to laugh. He tells me corny jokes and always gushes about how good I smell. I have noticed that he doesn’t do this with anyone else in our friend group. Our dynamic is overall really fun and playful. I feel confused though because he makes no move to hang out with me outside of our friend group. And we’ve never really had extensive opportunities to have 1:1 conversations. I feel nervous about pursuing him because I’m confused af. I feel like he’s definitely more flirty with me but he doesn’t put in a lot of effort to get to know me better or be around me more than usual. Let me know if anyone has suggestions!!
She always touches me once I’m talking to her, she laugh loud at my jokes whether funny or not but I asked her out for a date, she said she is busy and will tell me when she is free.
OK so im in 10th grade and about a month ago, i tried to ask a girl for her Instagram, but she had a bf. i still talk to her now and i wanna ask her subtlety over text if she is still dating them but ionk how. BTW i just talked to her yesterday so everything's pretty recent and shes like a month younger which reminds ME! i also need to ask when her bday is cuz i forgot but SHE LITERALLY told me Wednesday. ITS SATURDAY BRO. i only forgot the day. i remember that its June 2009 and im April 20 2009. but yea i also need to ask that. REMEMBER: im tryna talk to her rn ONLINE. and i only got her Instagram because i found it. also we only talk in chemistry class which is every OTHER school day, but SOMETIMES i dm her and IF she responds it takes a while but she does ask questions and seem interested in TALKING at least. like today, i texted her and she responded 2 HOURS LATER and the i didnt respond for an HOUR and 1/2. that was more than 12 hours 1/2 ago and she STILL didnt respond to that one and so i texted her again and that was a little more than 8 1/2 hours ago and she didnt respond yet. But when we talk, she;s pretty much smiling and she starts the conversation and I'm not sure Where her Feet are Pointed But yeah. Still, at this point, even if she doesn't have a bf, would she still be interested?
I think because of her body language.
Update: I found out she DOESNT have a bf anymore but I texted her two days ago and she still hasn’t responded. I will Js wait till Tuesday to talk to her when I see her. Also she VOLUNTEERED the info that her and her bf broke up, granted I DID bring it up but I never asked so…
But does dapping someone up every day like constantly mean that they like you?
OMG! My friend's crush does that to her! Yesss I think so. Start slow and then pick up the pace. Get closer to them and then see if u actually like them ;)
Ok! So basically this guy who I have liked for a few months now has been texting me nonstop everyday. He’s been texting “Good Morning” and “Good Night” for a few months everyday. And as soon as I reply to his messages he hearts them!!! He also seems to be always smiling as he stares as me (not in a bad way, kinda like hes checking me out), he always wants to talk to me and his body language is always very comfortable with me. Im still unsure if he likes me back, or am I just Delulu????
You're so lucky! He obviously likes u! :)
Umm some people in my class are saying that my friend has a crush on me because he drew what looked like him holding hands with a girl with brown hair and I have brown hair. It is also because of he picked Aladdin when I picked jasmine for the school play does that mean he likes me?
Girl probably!
I'm just as lost, man.
Sooo umm he looks at me and smiles at me about at LEAST once a day. He knows I like him, but our "relationship" is complicated. I really wan to talk to him again, but idk what to say? I also wanna fix his chain, but I think he'd think I'm weird and kinda give me a side-eye or smth... WHAT DO I DO?! I RLY LIKE HIM AND HE'S SO HOT!
I have the same problems 😔
how can i give a boy a sign i like him
You can always tell when someone's flirting with you by their tone. It's complimentary. It's filled with humor. And it's light-hearted. Always respond in kind, if you feel comfortable. If it's something you don't feel comfortable with, then redirect. If it's something you feel comfortable with, be quick-witted, and respond in kind to be flirtatious.
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If you get cat-called or wolf-whistled, don't pay any attention. The other person is just looking for a reaction, so don't give it to them. Just keep walking away.
If your crush is flirting with you, don't be shy! Flirt back, just careful not to take it too far and get carried away.
Pay attention to social and body cues. Follow your instincts, if that doesn't work, ask someone you trust.
If you want to flirt with your crush, offer them a friendly hug. Be playful, but not rough.
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There is a trick I learned from my Papaw. He told me to look for a girl who drops her shoulders, eyes, or even her voice when she talks to you. Also, when you walk by, she may turn to her friends and giggle or burst out laughing. This is a good thing, she may be talking about you or just nervously giggling.
A girl may get nervous and slightly cover her face, that is because she is embarrassed by what you might think of her. Also she will try to be around you whenever possible. For instance, she might leave a room just after you leave.
If a girl likes you she will drop anything and everything to hang out with you. And she will make plans with you to hang out. If she doesn't, or always says she's busy when you ask, it's not looking too good....
Reader Tips from Flirty or Just Nice? 15+ Ways to Tell if a Guy Is Interested in You or Just Being Friendly
If he is being more than friendly he will look you in the eyes, stand near you, and joke around with you. More importantly he won't act this way with other people, so you'll know you are special.
Maybe he is just being friendly, but that doesn't mean he won't like you if you flirt with him! Shoot your shot!
