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Meeting your boyfriend’s parents is a great way to take your relationship to the next level. But if the idea of meeting the parents makes you shiver in fear, you’re not alone! While it can feel nerve-wracking, there’s no reason to worry—there are plenty of things you can do to win over your boyfriend’s parents.

Here are 13 tips to help you impress your boyfriend’s parents when you meet them for the first time.

1

Get some background from your boyfriend.

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  1. Do they live together still, or are they divorced? Does he have step-parents? Is his family super strict, or do they like to joke around and have fun? Getting some background knowledge will help you feel more confident when it comes time to actually meet up.[1] [2]
    • You can also ask your boyfriend about some good conversation topics. For instance, maybe his dad is super into fly fishing or his mom is a painter. You can ask them about those things to show an interest in their lives.
    • Be sure to ask your boyfriend about his parents’ culture, too. If it’s different from yours, there may be rules you need to follow so you don’t offend them.
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Dress in a modest but flattering outfit.

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  1. Take note of the location, too—if you’re going to a 5-star restaurant, you might wear something a little nicer. Stay away from ripped jeans or anything short enough that you’d wear it on a night out, since that can feel a little too informal. If you aren’t sure what to wear, ask your boyfriend for his input.[3]
    • If you have tattoos or piercings, it’s up to you whether or not you want to cover them up or leave them as-is. If you aren’t sure, ask your boyfriend how his parents might feel about them.
    • Keep in mind that first impressions are lasting impressions, so you'll want to look your finest and represent yourself in the best way possible.[4]
3

Meet in a neutral place if you can.

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  1. That way, no one gets judged for their living situation, and you can leave whenever you want to. Plus, going out for a meal or for coffee sets up a clear beginning, middle, and end, so there won’t be an awkward conversation about when it’s time to leave.[5]
    • You might not be able to choose the location, and that’s okay. If his parents want you to come over for dinner or head to your place, that’s totally fine!
    • Try to meet his parents one-on-one before you meet the rest of his family. Although his aunts, uncles, and cousins might be dying to meet you, seeing everyone all at once can be a little overwhelming.
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Be on time.

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  1. Do your best to show up on time so you don’t keep your boyfriend’s parents waiting. If you find yourself running late, call your boyfriend or his parents and offer your sincerest apologies as you rush to get there.[6]
    • If you can, try to show up with your boyfriend. That way, you don’t run the risk of getting there before he does. Plus, he can give you a pep talk on the way there!
5

Bring a small gift.

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  1. If you want to, grab a small bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers to give to them when you arrive. It’s a nice touch, and it will make a lasting impression that they’re sure to remember for a long time. However, if you’re meeting at a restaurant or a coffee shop, a gift probably isn’t necessary.[7]
    • If you really aren’t sure what to buy, just ask your boyfriend. Keep things simple, and don’t spend a ton of money.
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Ask his parents questions.

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Ask his parents for stories about your boyfriend’s childhood.

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  1. Put your boyfriend in the hot seat by asking his parents about what he was like as a kid. If they have any funny stories to share with you, you can all have a good chuckle over what your boyfriend used to get into. Try asking something like:[9]
    • “Was Chris always this funny? I feel like he must have been the class clown.”
    • “Did Robert ever give you any trouble growing up?”
    • “What was Danny like as a child?”
    • Keep in mind that if your boyfriend is easily embarrassed or doesn’t like talking about the past, you might want to stay away from this topic. If you aren’t sure, ask your boyfriend about it before you all meet up.
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Give his parents a few compliments.

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  1. You could praise their choice in restaurants, thank them for meeting you, or talk highly about how they raised your boyfriend. The more nice things you can say to them, the more they will like you. Stick to one or two compliments in your conversation so you don’t go overboard. Say something like:[10]
    • “Dinner was delicious. You two have great taste.”
    • “I’m so lucky to have Zack. You two really raised him right!”
9

Offer to help out.

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  1. Some parents might not take you up on your offer, but it shows that you’re willing to pitch in. You could also help wash dishes or even cook part of the meal if his parents don’t mind! Helping out like this shows that you’re part of the family, not just an observer. Say something like:[11]
    • “Do you need any help clearing up? I can grab some of these dishes.”
    • “I don’t want to leave you with all these dishes! How about I wash and you dry?”
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10

Be yourself.

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  1. Overall, focus on getting to know his parents, and don’t worry too much about impressing them. As long as you can show them that you and their son are a good fit, they’re probably going to like you![12]
    • If you’re in a more serious relationship, you’re probably going to see his parents a lot. The more you can be yourself, the easier your relationship will be over time.
11

Answer any questions his parents have about you.

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  1. Be prepared to talk about your job, your hobbies, and anything you like to do for fun. They might also ask you about your family or where you grew up, too. Be honest, but try to keep things mostly G-rated, too.[13]
    • As you chat with his parents, try to avoid swearing or over-sharing. Since you’re meeting them for the first time, be sure to be polite, and keep your answers respectful.
    • You might also have to answer questions about your relationship or how committed you are to your boyfriend. If you ever feel uncomfortable, lean on your boyfriend for support, and let him handle the hard-to-navigate answers.
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Stay away from politics or religion.

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  1. It’s fine to talk about your opinions once you get to know his parents, but the first meeting isn’t the time or place. If the conversation starts heading that way, either change the subject yourself or look to your boyfriend to steer you away from the topic.[14] [15]
    • If his parents ask about your political or religious beliefs, you can be honest. However, try to be respectful, since they might have differing views than you.

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    What if the parents don't like you?
    Hannah Madden
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    First impression are important, but they aren't everything. If you feel like his parents don't like you after your first meeting, you can still change their minds! Talk to your boyfriend about why they might be hesitant about you or what you could do differently next time. You can also ask your boyfriend if his parents truly don't like you or if they just take a while to warm up to people.
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    What if I don't speak the same language as them?
    Hannah Madden
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    You'll have to rely on your boyfriend to be a translator, or you could download a translator app on your phone. When you meet them, pay attention to your own body language: give them a hug when you first get there and smile at them a lot throughout the night. Eventually, you'll all be able to figure out how to communicate with each other.
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    I got together with my boyfriend last week but I really want to meet his parents. How do I approach that?
    Hannah Madden
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    Meeting the parents after only one week of dating is a little early. Usually, people wait until they've been together for a few months before introducing them to family. Try introducing your boyfriend to your parents first. Then, if that goes well, you can ask him about meeting his parents next.
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This article was co-authored by John Keegan and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. John Keegan is a Dating Coach and motivational speaker based in New York City. With over 10 years of professional experience, he runs The Awakened Lifestyle, where he uses his expertise in dating, attraction, and social dynamics to help people find love. He teaches and holds dating workshops internationally, from Los Angeles to London and from Rio de Janeiro to Prague. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Humans of New York, and Men's Health. This article has been viewed 257,243 times.
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