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Meeting girls can be a stressful thing, especially if you have no idea what you're doing. Whether you want to meet a girl for friendship, fling, or serious relationship, there are certain things that you should and shouldn't do to increase your chances of building a relationship with her. Luckily, meeting girls is often a lot less difficult than people think. If you learn how to introduce yourself and then actively put yourself in social situations, meeting girls is a breeze.

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Meeting Girls Online

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  1. Dating websites online often have millions of female users that are single and looking to meet people. Some websites are free while others require you to pay a monthly fee. Determine which platform you want to use and visit the dating website so that you can create an account.
    • Popular dating apps include Match, Zoosk, eHarmony, and OKCupid.
    • If you're just looking for friends, you can make an account on Meetup.com.
  2. Dating apps like Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Hinge are integrated with Facebook and transfers the information from your social media profile to help build your dating profile. You can download these apps to your phone and use them to browse girls in your area that are also looking to meet someone.[1]
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  3. Once you create your online profile, you can fill it out to meet your needs. Include a recent photo of yourself and add details in your profile of what you're looking for in a girl. Specify if you're looking for friendship, casual dating, or a serious relationship. Make your profile humorous so that it's memorable and keep the profile as genuine as possible.
    • Having a good profile will entice girls to message you.
  4. Search for girls that live around you and click on profiles that you find interesting. Keep your opening line simple and straightforward and avoid using pick-up lines or one-liners. Instead, you can start talking to them by finding something you both share in common.[2]
    • Find common interests by looking at their photos and reading their profile.
    • If they have a photo from the Natural History Museum, you could say something like, "Hey, I'm Joe. I love the Natural History Museum too. When did you go there?"
    • You can also say something as simple as "Hey I'm Erin, what's up?"
  5. After you send your initial message, you'll want to keep the conversation going. Ask the girl questions, try to build a relationship with her. Message her online until she feels comfortable, then ask for her phone number. Avoid saying overtly sexual things or digging too deeply into their life. Keep it informal and fun.
    • Good conversation topics include music, movies, celebrity gossip, a book you've recently read, or other things that you have in common.
    • If you feel like the text conversation is stalling, ask a question like, "So I just saw the movie Tusk, and it blew my mind. Not in a good way. You into horror movies?"
    • If you have the feeling that the girl's profile and photos are too good to be true, or if something else about her seems to be wrong, trust your gut and look for other girls instead.
  6. Once you build a good rapport with the girl, it's time to ask if she wants to meet up in person. Meet her in a low-stress public setting like a coffee shop, brunch, or a walk in the park. Call the girl on the phone and try to schedule a time to meet in person.[3]
    • You can say something like, "Hey, I think you're really chill. Do you want to meet up in person?"
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Finding Places to Meet Girls in Person

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  1. One of the easiest ways to meet new girls is by hanging out with your existing friends and building relationships with their friends.[4] When you get together for social situations, encourage your friends to bring their female friends along.
    • You can ask your friends to introduce you to their friends before the social gathering if you're nervous.
  2. Talk to girls in your classes and make it a point to try to group up with them for class assignments. If you are out of school or don't go to school, sign up for a class at a local community center in a subject that interests you. Start by talking about class oriented things before moving onto more personal conversation.[5]
    • Say something like, "Jeez, this homework is the most intense stuff ever. Are you getting it?"
  3. Meeting girls at work will give you something common to talk about and will be less stressful than introducing yourself to a stranger. Go out of your way to talk to the girls at work that you like. Once you build up a friendship, ask them if they would want to chill outside of work.[6]
    • Talk about work by saying something like, "Seriously? Three double shifts this week! Don't you wish that the scheduling was a little more organized?"
    • Ask her to hang out by saying something like, "Yo, I think you're really chill. Would you want to hang outside of work sometime?"
    • Or you could get more specific and say something like, "What are you doing this Friday? Want to go to happy hour with me?"
  4. A bookstore is a great place to meet new girls and gives you a good topic to strike up an initial conversation. If you see a girl checking out a book you enjoyed, introduce yourself and strike up a conversation about the book.[7]
    • You can say something like, "The second book in that series is one of my favorites. Are you a fan of Bukowski?"
    • Reader Poll: We asked 591 wikiHow readers who've met women in a public setting, and 62% of them agreed that the best way to open a conversation is through a casual question or comment related to your setting. [Take Poll] So if you’re an avid reader, you could always ask her about the book she's looking at!
  5. Meet new girls at the bar or club. If you feel intimidated by the bar or club, bring along a couple of your friends. Try to make eye contact with girls that you see at the bar and walk up and introduce yourself to them.[8]
    • If you want to talk to the girl, make sure you go to a bar or club that isn't too loud.
    • You can say something like, "Hey I saw you on the other side of the bar. My name's Gerald, what's your name?"
    • Or you could say "Your sneakers are really cool, are they the new Air Max Goraths? I was thinking about getting a pair of them myself."
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Introducing Yourself

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  1. If you are trying to introduce yourself to a girl that you don't know, you'll have to make eye contact with her first. Look at her direction and see if she reciprocates the eye contact. If she looks you in the eyes and smiles, it's usually a physical sign that she wants to talk to you.
    • Girls who aren't with anyone or look bored may be more willing to talk to you.
  2. An introduction doesn't have to be elaborate, it just has to get a response. Simply say "Hi" and tell her your name. Then, you can ask her what her name is and ask her how her day is going.
    • If she turns towards you, smiles, and talks, you'll know that the introduction is welcome.
  3. If you already have a relationship that you've built through chatting, you can go in for a hug when you first meet them. Make sure to read their body language. If they pull back or look uncomfortable, change the hug into a handshake.
  4. Continue to make conversation with the girl and ask her questions about herself. Be open, responsive, and truthful when talking about yourself. If the conversation flows well and feels natural, ask her for her contact information so you can talk to her later.
    • You can say something like, "Hey, so I'm about to get out of here but I really liked talking to you. Think I could get your number so we could chill in the future?"
    • Or you can say something like, "It was really good meeting you tonight. Let's exchange numbers so that we can hang out soon."
  5. If you've been watching a girl that you like from afar but haven't had the guts to go up to them and introduce yourself, you're only working against yourself. The longer you wait, the more likely the situation will be awkward. Instead of fearing all the potential outcomes, just go up to the girl and introduce yourself.[9]
    • You need to act confident, and that means that you need to feel confident.
    • If you find that you are not confident enough around girls, practice. Try to get into a habit of getting small conversations with random people. Once you get comfortable talking to strangers, the act of talking to girls will slowly start to feel natural.
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This article was co-authored by Joshua Pompey. Joshua Pompey is a Relationship Expert and Founder of Next Evolution Matchmaking (NEM) based in New York City, NY. With over 15 years in the industry, Joshua helps his clients navigate online dating and has a success rate of over 99%. His work has been featured in CNBC, Good Morning America, Wired, and Refinery29 and he has been referred to as the best online dater in the world. This article has been viewed 470,948 times.
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To meet a girl, try making an account on an online dating website or app and talk to girls who interest you. Alternatively, you can meet girls through social gatherings, like parties or barbecues. You can also go to a bar or nightclub and look for girls who seem open to conversation. Wherever you meet a girl, make good eye contact and smile a lot so you appear friendly and approachable. When you’ve made eye contact with a girl, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself and ask her a casual question to start a conversation. If it goes well, ask for her number so you can keep talking later. For more tips from our Relationship co-author, including how to create a compelling profile for online dating sites, read on!

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