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Do you feel yourself starting to fall for someone that's just not right for you in some way? Although rom-coms make it seem like you have no control over falling in love, the truth is you do. We talked to relationship and psychology experts to find out what you can do when you don't want to fall in love with someone.
How to Stop Falling in Love
- Distance yourself from the person as much as possible.
- Block the person on social media.
- Keep yourself busy with hobbies and in your community.
- Explore and try new things to keep your mind in the present.
- Focus on the person's negatives and why you're incompatible.
- Fall in love with yourself through acts of self-care.
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Expert Q&A
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References
- ↑ https://thewell.northwell.edu/relationships-sexual-health/infatuation-vs-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202003/unrequited-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202003/unrequited-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202003/unrequited-love
- ↑ https://thewell.northwell.edu/relationships-sexual-health/infatuation-vs-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202003/unrequited-love
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2018/01/the-mental-benefits-of-vacationing-somewhere-new
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202003/unrequited-love
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-mysteries-of-love/202408/why-we-crave-unrequited-love-the-allure-of-the-unavailable
About This Article
While you can’t control if you fall in love with someone, you can make things easier for yourself by avoiding the person you’re attracted to as much as possible. If you have to spend time around them, stand or sit across the room, face away from them, and avoid eye contact when you speak to them to keep your relationship platonic. You can also keep a private list of the things you don’t like about the person, which will help remind you that they’re not a good fit for you. While you’re waiting for your feelings to fade, spend time doing a hobby or activity you enjoy to distract yourself from thinking about the person. For more tips from our Relationship co-author, including how to focus on the friendly aspects of your relationship with someone you’re attracted to, read on!
Reader Success Stories
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"I am in a casual relationship with a girl. We have sex every weekend, but we do not match enough to be in a romantic relationship. I was afraid I'd start falling for her, though now I'll try out the recommendations of the article to avoid having deeper feelings about her."..." more