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QuestionHow can I control my anger towards my mother?
Steven Hesky, PhDDr. Steven Hesky is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist with over 37 years of experience. He specializes in long-term psychotherapy with adults and adolescents. His training includes Freudian, Jungian, and Existential approaches to psychotherapy, hypnosis, family therapy, marriage counseling, and biofeedback. Dr. Hesky holds a BA in Philosophy from Lake Forest College and an MA and PhD in Existential Clinical Psychology from Duquesne University.
Licensed Clinical PsychologistFocus on your regret. Feeling regret about a past outburst can motivate you to act differently, to understand yourself better, and to even seek help. -
QuestionIf I do all of the above, and she still doesn't forgive me, what do I do?
Community AnswerGive it time. For a big mistake, your mom needs more than apology. Be patient and back up your words with actions. You cannot force someone to forgive you, but you can try your best to encourage them to do so. -
QuestionWhat if she yells at you to go away?
Community AnswerShe may not be ready to hear your apology yet. Try giving her a few days. However, if this behavior is typical of your mother, she may not be the type to benefit from a face-to-face apology. Write a letter instead. -
QuestionTwo years ago, I stole 100 $ from her. I told her about it today. How am I supposed to make her forgive me?
Community AnswerBeing honest is a good first step. You're acknowledging you made a mistake in the past, and want to do better in the future. You can't make another person forgive you, but a sincere apology is a good first step. From there, work on being more honest in the future. -
QuestionHow do you apologize to your parents if they're strict?
Community AnswerYou should apologize the same way you would in any circumstances. However, strict parents may be less likely to listen. Therefore, writing a letter can be as effective as offering a sincere apology. It may be easier to express yourself in writing with stricter parents.
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QuestionWhy does my mother hate me when I say sorry to her?
Community AnswerYour mother probably does not hate you. She may simply be very angry and need time to process. Be understanding of this. If you're sincere and kind, she will eventually forgive you.
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QuestionWhat if I am shy to go to her. I feel very ashamed of what I did. If I am strong enough and don't cry, but if don't hide my tears, it feels like I am also pretending to cry. Is there another way to solve this?
Community AnswerIf you can't keep your emotions in check in person, write a letter. A thoughtful letter can be as effective an apology as one given face-to-face.
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QuestionWhat am I supposed to do to make my mum to talk to me? I've tried to speak to her and I've tried to say sorry, but she just wont listen.
Community AnswerGive her more time, if necessary. However, if your mom is a bad listener by nature, write a letter instead of giving a face-to-face apology.
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QuestionRecently, I cut my eyebrows after her telling me not to do it around 3 times. The last time I cut them after her telling me not to, she didn't talk to me for days and it made me really upset. She hasn't come back to see them yet. What should I do to prevent her from ignoring me?
Community AnswerIt sounds like this is a communication and boundary issue. You want more freedom with your personal sense of style, and your mother uses cold shouldering as a way to get her way. Have a sit down talk with your mom about why you want to cut your eyebrows. You should also tell her that you need to communicate with you, rather than ignoring you, when there is an issue. -
QuestionHow do you know if what you did was really wrong. I just tried to tell her how I felt and she took it the wrong way. Is that really my fault?
Community AnswerYou should be careful when expressing your own feelings during an apology. You want to make sure your mom's emotions are prioritized. It can come off the wrong way if you focus too much on how you feel. Try to apologize again, talking primarily about how your actions affected your mother.
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QuestionSo, this may not sound like a big probem but my parents were divorced when I was little and now I recently moved out of my moms house and in with my dad and step-mom. I was sending my mom a letter in the mail and wrote about how my parents are cheap and awful. They read it. They're mad. What do I do?
Community AnswerReflect on how your behavior hurt them and offer both parents a sincere apology. Strive to avoid the behavior again in the future. Try to be more appreciative of your parents, and express gratitude for the time and money they spend on you.
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QuestionWhat if the mistake isn't yours, but your siblings, and you tried to defend them an got in trouble?
Community AnswerTake your responsibility, if any, for the mistake, even if was mostly your siblings fault. Apologize for trying to get in the middle of a conflict between your parents and siblings. You can't force them to forgive someone else.
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QuestionI spent my parents money on online goods. I have done this 2 times before. An apology won't cut it. What should I do?
Community AnswerIf this is the second time you've made this mistake, you're right your parents will need more than an apology. However, you should still offer one. An apology can be helpful, even if if more actions are necessary. In addition to apologizing, lay out a concrete plan to stop spending your parents money online and follow through with this plan.
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QuestionHow do you text your Mom you're sorry?
Community AnswerYou should refrain from expressing remorse in a text message. This may look insincere, and an apology will require more words than most people can fit into a text.
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QuestionWhat if she hits you?
Community AnswerTell another adult or contact the authorities in your area. Abuse is never acceptable, even if you made a mistake.
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QuestionWhat if she's disappointed that you are no longer a virgin?
Community AnswerDifferent ideas about sex can be a major cause of disagreements between mothers and children. Make sure your mother understands that you are allowed to make your own decisions regarding your body. However, it may help to assure her that you're practicing safe sex. Your mother may be more comfortable with you having sex if you're being careful.
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