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Are you wondering how someone with narcissistic traits responds to rejection? Or are you feeling anxious about how to handle their reaction to your rejection? If so, we're here to help. People with narcissistic tendencies often fear rejection above all else.[1]
We’ll explain how to navigate this situation and explain all the possible ways that someone with narcissistic traits may respond to rejection. Just keep in mind that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) requires a clinical diagnosis and displaying narcissistic behaviors doesn't automatically make someone a "narcissist."
This article is based on an interview with our licensed professional clinical counselor, Jay Reid. Check out the full interview here.
How does a narcissist respond to rejection?
- They may feel hurt and betrayed by a perceived lack of loyalty from others.
- They might act totally unaffected and like they no longer need this individual.
- They could shift the blame onto or gaslight the other person.
- They may give fake apologies or make grandiose gestures.
- They could lash out with anger or even violence.
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Although people with narcissistic traits might avoid therapy, it may be a very beneficial thing for you to do. If you need a place to process your feelings and work toward recovering from your relationship with this individual, speak with a therapist or other mental health professional.[15]Thanks
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Remember that only a licensed therapist can diagnose narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Many people display some narcissistic traits, so someone in your life behaving in one of the ways listed above does not make them a narcissist, and avoid labeling them as such without a clinical diagnosis.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3811090/
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_help_a_narcissist_to_forgive
- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8319504/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ Adam Dorsay, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker. Expert Interview. 11 April 2019.
- ↑ https://www.stmarys-ca.edu/sexual-assault-and-violence-prevention/gaslighting-what-does-it-mean
- ↑ https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/pdf/10.1177/2158244019846693
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.
- ↑ https://thebehaviourinstitute.com/stalking-what-is-the-psychology-behind-the-stalker/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/recovering-narcissist/2019/02/11-manipulation-and-sabotage-tactics-of-narcissists-sociopaths-psychopaths-part-2#
- ↑ Adam Dorsay, PsyD. Licensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker. Expert Interview. 11 April 2019.
- ↑ Jay Reid, LPCC. Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor. Expert Interview. 7 August 2020.