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When you love someone, you might find yourself willing to put them above yourself to make sure that they’re always happy and well taken care of. This is a sign of selfless love, which happens when your desire to care for someone trumps your own wants and needs. Read on to learn more about what selfless love is and its common characteristics. If you’re a practicing Christian or interested in the Christian faith, we’ll also dive into what kind of role selfless love plays in the Bible.
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- Selfless love is your ability to show respect, kindness, and compassion toward everyone and not expect anything in return.
- Someone who loves selflessly is willing to make sacrifices for others and helps even the people they may not necessarily like.
- Practicing Christians consider selfless love to be an important trait, and it’s mentioned in various passages throughout the Bible.
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References
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/soulmates-and-unconditional-love
- ↑ https://www8.gsb.columbia.edu/cbs-directory/sites/cbs-directory/files/publications/Lu%20et%20al.%20%282018%29.%20On%20the%20Distinction%20Between%20Unethical%20and%20Selfish%20Behavior.pdf
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-side-the-couch/202011/selfishness-and-selflessness-and-intimacy
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/worry-wise/202208/how-not-take-things-so-personally
- ↑ https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/kindness/kindness-matters-guide
- ↑ https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/the-art-of-kindness
- ↑ https://site.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness?lang=eng&adobe_mc_ref=https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness
- ↑ https://site.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness?lang=eng&adobe_mc_ref=https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-side-the-couch/202011/selfishness-and-selflessness-and-intimacy
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/my-side-the-couch/202011/selfishness-and-selflessness-and-intimacy
- ↑ https://site.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness?lang=eng&adobe_mc_ref=https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1985/04/selflessness-a-pattern-for-happiness
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/lib/soulmates-and-unconditional-love
- ↑ https://www.gotquestions.org/Bible-selflessness.html
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/can_you_be_too_selfless_in_your_relationships
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