This article was co-authored by Jeffrey Fermin and by wikiHow staff writer, Hunter Rising. Jeffrey Fermin is an Employee Relations Expert based in Miami, Florida. He currently works as Head of Demand Generation for AllVoices, a platform that manages employee relations issues. Through his work, he has developed extensive experience with understanding human behavior and the intricacies of work life. He’s also the Founder of a full-service marketing company called New Theory. He has more than 13 years of experience in B2B SaaS marketing, and has specifically focused on human resources technology, digital marketing, and content creation. He earned a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology and a Bachelor of Education from Florida International University. Jeffrey has won a Microsoft Octas Innovation Award and is a TechCrunch Disrupt Runner-Up.
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While office romances happen frequently, your boss may try hiding their romantic feelings from you to maintain a professional work environment. Even if your boss keeps their feelings secret, there are some easy signals to look out for that show their true emotions. Whether your boss’s advances make you uncomfortable or if the feeling is mutual, it’s important to keep in mind any repercussions that could happen if things don’t work out. Keep reading to learn all of the signs your boss likes you and how to respond to whether or not you want a relationship.
Steps
Responding to Your Boss Liking You
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Tell your boss that you want to stay professional if you’re not interested. If you don’t want a relationship with your boss, then pull them aside as soon as you can to discuss how you’re feeling. Tell them upfront that you want to maintain a professional relationship at work and that you feel like work relationships are inappropriate. Set boundaries with what you deem appropriate so you and your boss can have productive conversations moving forward.[30]
- You may say something like, “I’ve always felt that work relationships were inappropriate, so I’d appreciate it if we kept our relationship professional and only discussed work-related topics.”
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Reach out to HR if your boss’s advances continue making you uncomfortable. If your boss continues to make advances towards you after speaking to them, then it could be considered sexual harassment. Elevate the issue immediately by talking to your boss’s superior or making a complaint to HR about the issue. [31]
- Remember that the HR department works to protect the company as a whole rather than the individual employees. Making an HR complaint may cause the company to retaliate and make you lose out on promotions or your current position.[32]
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Check company policies before starting a relationship. If you also have a crush on your boss and want to pursue a relationship with them, check in your company handbook if relationships are allowed between coworkers or employees at different levels. Other times, you may have to disclose the relationship with the company to make it official and avoid punishment.[33]
- Many companies have policies that don’t allow you to date or have a relationship within the company, so you may not be able to pursue one with your boss even if the feeling is mutual.
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Consider if starting a relationship is worth the professional risk. If you start a relationship with your boss, then be prepared to hear gossip from your coworkers about your relationship. They may think you get opportunities because you’re dating the boss and may think they’re being treated unfairly. Also think about what may happen if the relationship ends because it could affect your working relationship or even your position within the company. If you’re worried about any professional repercussions, it’s better to avoid a relationship altogether.[34]
- Remember that relationships between bosses and employees have an unbalanced power dynamic. Because your boss is an authority figure, you may feel pressured into a relationship if you think it will affect your professional standings.
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