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Helpful advice on knowing when and how to let them go
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Breakups are almost never easy, and what’s harder is the time afterward when you’re wondering if or even hoping that your ex will come back. You’re trying to read the signs, but sometimes the signs say otherwise. We get it: it sucks. But that’s why we’re here to be the friend that breaks it to you easy. These are the 20 surest signs that your ex will never come back, and also why that’s probably not a bad thing for either of you.

This article is based on an interview with our licensed clinical psychologist and relationship coach, Sarah Schewitz, founder of Couples Learn. Check out the full interview here.

Things You Should Know

  • If they found someone else or seem happy with their post-breakup life, the best thing for you to do is to find your own happiness, too.
  • Cutting off in-person and online contact is a sign that they’re trying to make space for themselves by reducing opportunities to communicate.
  • Moving away or starting a new lifestyle means they’re making their best effort to move on, and you should, too, for your own sake.
  • Confide in close friends and family, or visit a therapist if you need help working through your emotions after a breakup.
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They initiated the breakup.

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  1. Studies show that they’re more likely to feel relief or reduced anxiety, which also means they’re not likely to try to rekindle the flame. On the other hand, it’s natural to feel more negative emotions when you’re the recipient of the breakup. In these times, it’s important to look to your other sources of comfort, like friends, families, or personal passions.[11]
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Sarah Schewitz, PsyD
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This article was written by Sarah Schewitz, PsyD and by wikiHow staff writer, Luke Smith, MFA. Sarah Schewitz, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist by the California Board of Psychology with over 10 years of experience. She received her Psy.D. from the Florida Institute of Technology in 2011. She is the founder of Couples Learn, an online psychology practice helping couples and individuals improve and change their patterns in love and relationships. This article has been viewed 323,842 times.
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