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If you’ve spotted someone cute on social media, you might be wondering how in the world you can send them a message without feeling weird about it. Thankfully, we've got tons of ideas of what you can say to spark a connection. Keep reading to learn how you can send an eye-catching message to (hopefully) get a quick reply.

1

Follow them first.

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Reply to their story.

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  1. If they post something on their story on Instagram, Twitter, or Facebook, reply and tell them how cool it is or how good of a picture that is. If you really want a reply, try asking a relevant question so they answer it. Don’t just use the story reactions, as that probably won’t get a response.[2]
    • For example, if they post a pic of their lunch, you could say, “Yum! Where’d you get that?”
    • If they post a picture at the beach, you might ask, “Looks beautiful! Which beach is that?”
    • If they post a song they’re listening to, you could say, “I love this song. Have you heard their most recent album?”
    • Reader Poll: We asked 257 wikiHow readers what the most effective way to slide into someone’s DMs is, and 58% of them agreed that the best way is by responding to their story with an emoji or quick reaction. [Take Poll]
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Give them a compliment.

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  1. Keep your comment civil, and don’t pick out one of their physical features (as that can be a little bit weird). Instead, compliment their latest post, their sense of humor, or even their personality. After they say “thank you,” you can continue having a fun conversation with them.[3]
    • Say something like, “LOL you’re so funny, your posts always make me laugh.”
    • Or, “It’s awesome how much you volunteer! Everyone should give back to the community like you do.”
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Mention your mutual friends.

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Try a cheesy pickup line.

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  1. Use an innocent pickup line that doesn't involve anything sexual (since that could come off a little creepy). A pickup line makes your intentions clear from the start, and it could get you off on the right foot! Keep in mind, though, that not everyone appreciates a pickup line, even if it is pretty silly. You could send something like:[6]
    • “Was your father an astronomer? Because I think he stole the stars from the sky and put them in your eyes.”
    • “Do you like raisins? How about a date?”
    • “I was going to offer to draw you but you’re clearly already a work of art.”
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Send a meme.

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  1. You can take a look at their profile to figure out what they’re interested in, like books, TV shows, or movies. Then, search the web for a funny meme that might break the ice. You’ll get them laughing and (hopefully) spark a great conversation![7]
    • Can’t figure out what to send? Try searching for an ice breaker meme. You can find a silly picture with a cheesy pickup line on it to send to your potential boo.
    • If you can’t find anything good, try searching “meme” on Instagram or Twitter. You should be able to find something totally random that makes you chuckle.
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Have a fun conversation.

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  1. Ask them how they’re doing, what they’re up to, or something about their interests. The more you can develop a rapport with them, the more likely it is you two will actually meet up IRL. Keep them talking by asking them questions and sharing a little bit about yourself, too.[8]
    • For instance, you might say, “I saw that you like to roller skate. How’s that going? I tried picking it up like a year ago, but I’m just not that good.”
    • Or, “Did you just move to the area? I’ve lived here for a while, so I could totally show you around sometime.”
9

Give out your number to continue the convo.

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    Is it OK to slide into DMs?
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Mark Rosenfeld
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    Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach based in Norman Park, Australia. He founded his coaching business, Make Him Yours, in 2015. Mark specializes in helping women find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon upon its release.
    Mark Rosenfeld
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    There's nothing wrong with shooting your shot, but it's definitely not going to have a high rate of success so far as establishing a relationship goes.
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    What should I do if she doesn't respond to my questions?
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Mark Rosenfeld
    Dating & Relationship Coach
    Mark Rosenfeld is a Dating and Relationship Coach based in Norman Park, Australia. He founded his coaching business, Make Him Yours, in 2015. Mark specializes in helping women find, attract, and keep extraordinary relationships. He has been featured in Style Magazine, Thought Catalog, Elite Daily, News.com.au, and The Good Men Project. Mark’s dating videos have received over 60 million views, and his book “Make Him Yours – Beating the Odds of Modern Dating” was a best-seller on Amazon upon its release.
    Mark Rosenfeld
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    This is a common issue. Questions are a great way to get a conversation moving, but they don't necessarily set the stage very well for a flirty conversation. You want to be the pond, not the fishing pole, if that makes sense. Try throwing out some statements. This way you build a degree of mystery and you set the stage for her to come to you with the follow-up comments.
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