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Looking to outsmart, expose, and counteract your gaslighter? Gaslighting can leave you physically and mentally exhausted. There’s no question as to why you may want revenge on your gaslighter. After all, they’ve manipulated you and made you question your worth, identity, and truths. In this article, we’ll teach you how to turn the tables on a gaslighter and rewrite your narrative. They’ve had control over you for long enough, and now it’s time to beat them at their own game.
Things You Should Know
- Listen to and question a gaslighter’s reasoning to catch them in a web of lies.
- Confront a gaslighter calmly and rationally to avoid retaliation and flip the script.
- Collect proof, establish boundaries, and gather support to outsmart a gaslighter at their own game.
Steps
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Gaslighters use lies and manipulation to avoid responsibility for things they've done. Don't let them make you feel guilty when they're at fault.Thanks
References
- ↑ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/327944201_Gaslighting_and_the_knot_theory_of_mind
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/gaslighting
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/here-there-and-everywhere/201904/when-is-relationship-bad-enough-leaving-gaslighter
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2020/11/ask-an-expert-what-should-i-do-if-my-boss-is-gaslighting-me
- ↑ https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/12/19/18140830/gaslighting-relationships-politics-explained
- ↑ https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/what_is_gaslighting_abuse/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/202106/5-go-tactics-gaslighters-and-how-resist-them
- ↑ https://hbr.org/2020/11/ask-an-expert-what-should-i-do-if-my-boss-is-gaslighting-me
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to-identify-and-deal-with-gaslighting#how-to-deal-with-gaslighting
- ↑ https://www.vox.com/first-person/2018/12/19/18140830/gaslighting-relationships-politics-explained
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/202106/5-go-tactics-gaslighters-and-how-resist-them
- ↑ https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/what_is_gaslighting_abuse/
- ↑ https://sunbehavioral.com/kentucky/what-is-gaslighting/
- ↑ https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/what_is_gaslighting_abuse/
- ↑ https://www.newportinstitute.com/resources/mental-health/what_is_gaslighting_abuse/
- ↑ https://sunbehavioral.com/kentucky/what-is-gaslighting/
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/widows-guide-healing/202206/7-things-everyone-should-understand-about-gaslighting
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/gaslighting
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