This article was co-authored by Connell Barrett and by wikiHow staff writer, Eric McClure. Connell Barrett is a Relationship Expert and the Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation in New York City. Connell has over five years of experience as an international coach who helps men connect with women by unlocking their best, true, most confident selves. He is the author of the Amazon bestseller “Dating Sucks but You Don’t,” and has appeared on Good Morning America, the "Today" show, Access Hollywood, and in Best Life, Cosmopolitan, and The Oprah Magazine. In 2019 he was named Datezie.com's “New York City’s Best Male Dating Coach."
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It’s never fun when the person you care about the most isn’t the happiest with you, but rest assured that you’ll get through this. It’s perfectly normal for people in a relationship to clash or rub one another the wrong way every now and then—even when they’re in a totally healthy relationship! If you’re looking to get back to the way things are, we’ve got your back. From tiny gestures to grand statements of love, we’ll help you get back to the way things were in no time.
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QuestionWhat can I do if she doesn't want to talk to me?Give her space until she's ready to talk to you. If it was a big fight, she might be hurt or offended, so it's important to give her time alone to think. Plus, it's important to respect her request. If she hasn't said anything to you for a few days, try asking her, "Could we talk about the fight and how you're feeling?"
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QuestionWhat should I do if my girlfriend is mad because I thought she was cheating on me?Community AnswerExplain your reason(s) for thinking what you thought. If your reason(s) make sense, she'll probably forgive you.
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QuestionWhat should I do if she ignores me?AudreyCommunity AnswerTell her that it makes you upset when she ignores you. (Maybe she just wants some time to herself.)
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- ↑ https://www.ny.gov/teen-dating-violence-awareness-and-prevention/what-does-healthy-relationship-look
- ↑ Connell Barrett. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/health/can-pride-ruin-relationships
- ↑ https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/the-art-of-a-heartfelt-apology-2021041322366
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/does_venting_your_feelings_actually_help
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/201806/after-an-argument-the-right-way-to-make-up
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/so-happy-together/201709/who-s-cleaning-the-house
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/conflict-resolution-skills.htm
- ↑ https://www.pennmedicine.org/updates/blogs/health-and-wellness/2018/february/affection
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/managing-conflicts-with-humor.htm
- ↑ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/healthy-relationship.html
- ↑ Connell Barrett. Dating Coach. Expert Interview. 24 September 2019.
- ↑ https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_rebuild_trust
About This Article
It can be hard to know how to handle it when your girlfriend is mad at you. As much as you want to try to fix things, give her space if she asks for it. She’ll probably be ready to talk later, after she cools down. Try to step back and put yourself in her shoes. It might be easier to make peace if you’re able to see where she’s coming from, even if you don’t completely agree with her. When she’s ready to talk, listen to what she has to say without trying to argue or interrupt. She’ll be more likely to listen to your side of things if you do the same for her. Apologize sincerely for your part in what happened, then ask her what you can do to help make things better.
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