Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA
Adult Counselor & Certified Hypnotherapist
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Co-authored Articles (30)
How to
Hypnotize Someone
It is not easy to hypnotize a person who wants to be hypnotized because all hypnosis is, in the end, self-hypnosis. Contrary to popular misconceptions, hypnotism is not mind-control or mystical powers. You, as the hypnot...
Toxic Adult Children: 15+ Signs Your Daughter Doesn’t Respect You
Recognizing the signs of a toxic daughter so you can repair your relationship Does your adult daughter still throw temper tantrums, make snarky remarks, or give you the silent treatment? If so, you might have an unhealth...
14 Signs That Someone Is Fake (& Why They Act That Way)
Plus, how to deal with or distance yourself from fake peopleThere’s no getting around it—we all have days where we say something we regret. But what about the people who are constantly negative and self-centered? Als...
How to
Be Cold Hearted
You might sometimes be “cold” to people in general when you just feel like being left alone. But if you’re looking to be “cold hearted,” then you’re probably trying to extract yourself from an unhealthy relat...
How to
Hypnotize Someone with Your Eyes
While hypnosis may seem like magic, in fact, there is a lot of practice and science that goes on behind the act of hypnotizing someone. One of the most effective ways to hypnotize someone is with your eyes, the gateway t...
Cutting People Out of Your Life: Traits of Toxic People & How to Leave Them
Create some distance from the people holding you back from happinessChoosing to cut someone out of your life is never an easy decision, but sometimes it’s necessary if they’re hurting you and affecting you in a negat...
How to
Tell Someone You Do Not Want to Be Friends
When it's time to tell someone that you don't want to be friends anymore, how should you do it? The answer partially depends on whether you're close friends or casual friends. If this is someone you don't know well, you ...
How to
Stop Being Scared
Whether you’re afraid of something specific or you just tend to be anxious in general, you’re definitely not alone. A lot of people struggle with fear in their daily life, and the good news is that there are things y...
How to
Express Your Feelings
You might be afraid of making others upset or inconveniencing them if you share your feelings. However, hiding your own feelings can lead to anxiety, depression, discontent, and even physical unhealthiness. It can also c...
How to
Cope With Annoying People
Maybe you have an annoying co-worker that you have to work with every day. Or perhaps you have a friend who is starting to get on your nerves and you are not sure how to deal with them. Coping with annoying people is a l...
How to
Ignore People You Don't Like
Ignoring people you don't like can be hard. At school, work, or in your friends circle, there may be someone you simply don't click with. You can ignore someone in a polite fashion, by simply keeping your distance and ig...
How to
Get Rid of an Unwanted Friend
Not all friendships are built to last. You may find yourself in a situation where you need to get rid of an unwanted friend. Breaking up with a friend is not so different from breaking up with a romantic partner. You may...
How to Deal with Toxic Stepchildren: What “Toxic” Really Means & How to Gain Their Respect
Psychology-backed ways to address, correct, and cope with a toxic stepchild You’ve married the perfect partner, but you’re realizing that your new family isn’t exactly ''The Brady Bunch'' when it comes to getting a...
How to
Deal With Impossible People
Most people know someone who seems to make every situation toxic and impossible. Pointing out that these people are difficult and demanding won't get you anywhere, as they likely don't see a problem. Whether the issue...
How to
Control Your Thoughts
“Thoughts can be our worst friends,” says Buddhist monk Matthieu Ricard, “and our worst enemies.” Everyone has had a moment when their mind has a mind of its own, but taking control of your thoughts can make you ...
How to
Stay Sane
While good physical health is talked about all of the time, we often forget to look after our mental health, which allows stress, sadness, and insecurity to pile up. Rather than bottle up our negative emotions, we can ta...
How to Let Go of Toxic People & Remove Them from Your Life
An empowering guide to dealing with toxic people and emotional drama For all the pain and frustration they cause, toxic people can also be really hard to let go of. No matter how much you try to stay away, it seems like...
How to
Stop Talking to Yourself in Your Head
It’s perfectly normal and healthy to talk to yourself. Whether it’s out loud or in your head, self-talk helps people subconsciously process feelings, think through problems, and weigh options when making decisions. U...
How to
Stop Feeling Insecure About Your Body
Most of us experience body insecurity at some point in our lives. Whether we're going through our awkward teenage years, we've just had a baby, or we're carrying a little more weight than we like, we all struggle at some...
How to Handle the Toxic People in Your Life
Shift your mindset from hurt to healing when dealing with negativity Toxic people tend to drain everyone around them and can make you feel physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted. But the good news is, there are ...
