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Most of us experience body insecurity at some point in our lives. Whether we're going through our awkward teenage years, we've just had a baby, or we're carrying a little more weight than we like, we all struggle at some point! Positive body image is so important for your health and self-esteem. To help you break away from a negative thought cycle, we've come up with ways to think about your body in a more positive light.

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Stop and identify negative thoughts.

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  1. What were you doing when the thought popped into your head? How does the thought make you feel? It's important to recognize when you're having poor body image thoughts and what triggers the thoughts so you can change them in the future.[1]
    • For example, you might be in a dressing room trying on clothes when you think, "I'm too fat to fit into any of these things. I shouldn't even be trying on clothes." How does this make you feel? Hurt? Angry? Sad?
    • You may see someone jogging and think, "There's no way I could be as fit as that person." This kind of thinking may make you feel depressed or annoyed.
    • It’s natural to have negative feelings and thoughts, so don’t be upset with yourself.[2]
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Challenge your negative thoughts.

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  1. You don't have to accept these unhealthy thoughts! Ask yourself if you're being fair to yourself or if those thoughts will help you function.[3] Would you speak those things to a friend? Here are a few examples of how you can reframe your negative thoughts:[4]
    • "This outfit doesn't make me feel great, but I have other clothes that help me feel confident."
    • "Just because these clothes don't fit doesn't mean I should totally give up. I just need to try on different things."
    • "I may not like how my arm muscles sag, but these arms let me pick up my kids or wrap someone in a hug."
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Write down what you like about your body.

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  1. Spend a little time listing all the things that are great about your body.[5] You might write down physical attributes or things your body can do. When you feel insecure, read through your list to remember how amazing your body is!
    • For example, you might write that you use your body to swim, to hug people you love, or to get through the challenges that you face every day.
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Wear clothes that fit you well.

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  1. There's often a lot of pressure to follow the latest trends, even if they don't work for your body type. You might also feel like you have to fit into a smaller size to look your best. Throw these misconceptions out the window! Reach for comfortable clothes that look stylish to you and that fit you well. You'll feel more attractive and it will show.[6]
    • Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed to shop for clothes in a size that truly fits you. You'll probably find that they offer more support and are better designed to fit your body.
    • If there are things you don’t like, that’s okay! Think about how you can dress in a flattering way or play up a feature you do like.[7]
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    Find clothes that fit your body well. Select fabrics that drape over your body well and have a flattering fit. To get help with sizing, you can use online guides or ask a salesperson, but remember that sizing varies by brand. No matter what brand it is, a well-fitted piece will elevate your outfit and make you more stylish.

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Treat your body with respect.

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  1. If you don't have a healthy attitude about your body, you may be tempted to change it. This can involve drastic measures like crash dieting if you feel like you're overweight or a punishing workout routine if you want to build muscle. Focus instead on caring for your body. Eat healthy food that you enjoy when you're hungry and stay active. Protect your body from addictive behaviors like drinking or doing drugs.[8]
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Appreciate your character and strength of spirit.

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  1. You don't have to have a "perfect" body to have a beautiful character. At least once a day, think about one of your character strengths—you might be empathetic, determined, or curious.[11] Then, tell yourself that these traits have nothing to do with how you look.[12]
    • Think of people you admire or famously wonderful people throughout history. Do you respect them because of their appearance or because of the amazing, kind, or thoughtful things they've done?
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Talk with your partner about physical insecurities.

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  1. A lot of people feel uneasy when they have a physical relationship with someone, especially if they'll be seeing you naked. To help you feel more secure about your body and more comfortable with your partner, have an open talk about how you're feeling. Then, discuss what you're both comfortable with doing.[13]
    • For example, you might start the discussion by saying, "I really like you and I'm happy with how our relationship is going, but I get really uncomfortable and anxious when you see me without my shirt on."
    • Talking about things that upset you can often help you process the way you feel so that you feel more secure.[14]
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Surround yourself with supportive people.

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  1. Maybe you have a family member who tells you you're too skinny or a friend who nags you to lose weight. Since it can be hard to ignore their comments, try not to spend time around them.[15] Instead, be around friends and family that care about you for who you are without judging how you look.[16]
    • You don't have to have a confrontation with friends or family about the issue unless you want to talk with them about it. If you want to talk, you could say, "I don't really want to come to your party. You have a tendency to make me feel bad about how I look and I really don't need that negativity."
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Avoid or ignore unrealistic social media depictions.

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Limit how often you check your body.

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12

Reach out to a healthcare professional.

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  1. Talk with your doctor or a therapist if the negative feelings you have about your body are making you feel worse and worse. You're not alone! Negative self-image is actually common and healthcare professionals can help you work through these feelings using cognitive-behavioral training or group therapy.[20]
    • If you're experiencing anxiety about how you look and it's affecting your ability to function, your doctor might prescribe anti-anxiety medication.
    • Need to talk to someone right away? Contact your country's national eating disorder association. In the U.S., you can call or text 1-800-931-2237.[21]

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    Why am I feeling so insecure about my body?
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    Wes Pinkston is a Certified Holistic Life Coach and the Founder of Wes Pinkston Life Coaching. With more than five years of experience, he specializes in helping people achieve greater fulfillment and understand their full potential. He received his Holistic Lifestyle Coach Certification from The CHEK Institute.
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    Our society often knocks us down just to sell you a product or service that will pick you up. There's usually a certain look considered to be beautiful, excluding everyone that doesn’t fit that mold and it always leads us to fail to realize the beauty we have had all along.
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    How do I make myself less insecure about her body?
    Wes Pinkston
    Wes Pinkston
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    Wes Pinkston is a Certified Holistic Life Coach and the Founder of Wes Pinkston Life Coaching. With more than five years of experience, he specializes in helping people achieve greater fulfillment and understand their full potential. He received his Holistic Lifestyle Coach Certification from The CHEK Institute.
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    Self-acceptance is one of the most difficult things to realize, but it is also one of the most liberating. When you walk through the forest you don’t compare trees and flowers, you’re just mesmerized by the beauty and uniqueness of all organisms. You are no different, you are beautiful exactly as you are.
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References

  1. https://www.thecenterforgrowth.com/tips/poor-body-image-and-thought-records
  2. Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA. Adult Counselor & Certified Hypnotherapist. Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.
  3. Wes Pinkston. Certified Holistic Life Coach. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
  4. https://www.thecenterforgrowth.com/tips/poor-body-image-and-thought-records
  5. Wes Pinkston. Certified Holistic Life Coach. Expert Interview. 18 January 2022.
  6. https://au.reachout.com/articles/what-is-body-image
  7. Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA. Adult Counselor & Certified Hypnotherapist. Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.
  8. https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/body-image-men
  9. Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA. Adult Counselor & Certified Hypnotherapist. Expert Interview. 29 April 2020.

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This article was co-authored by Julia Lyubchenko, MS, MA and by wikiHow staff writer, Jessica Gibson. Julia Lyubchenko is an Adult Counselor and a Hypnotherapist based in Los Angeles, California. Julia opened her practice in 2012, Therapy Under Hypnosis, specializing in resolving emotional and behavioral problems. She has a Certificate in Clinical Hypnosis from the Bosurgi Method School and is certified in Psychodynamic Psychotherapy and Hypnotherapy. She earned an MA in Counseling Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy from Alliant International University and an MSc in Developmental and Child Psychology from Moscow State University. This article has been viewed 60,762 times.
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