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Choosing to cut someone out of your life is never an easy decision, but sometimes it’s necessary if they’re hurting you and affecting you in a negative way. Whatever your situation may be, this article is meant to support you. We’ll tell you the signs of toxic people to look out for and walk you through how to go about creating some distance from them, whether they’re friends, romantic partners, or even family members. Whatever questions you may have, we’re here to answer them all so you can feel more confident in your decision.
Things You Should Know
- Analyze the other person’s behavior to see if they’re really toxic. Toxic people usually act very self-centered, tends to play the victim, and is manipulative.
- Tell the other person directly that their behavior is negatively affecting you and that you don’t wish to see them anymore. Remember that you don’t owe them a long explanation.
- Be firm about setting physical and emotional boundaries that will keep the other person’s negativity out of your life.
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