This article was co-authored by Jay Reid, LPCC and by wikiHow staff writer, Danielle Blinka, MA, MPA. Jay Reid is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) in private practice in San Francisco, CA. He specializes in helping clients who have survived a narcissistic parent or partner. Treatment focuses upon helping clients identify and challenge self-diminishing beliefs as a result of narcissistic abuse. Jay holds a BA in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania and an MS in Clinical Psychology from Penn State University.
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Narcissistic personality disorder, or NPD, is characterized by a lack of empathy, an overinflated ego, and a sense of entitlement.[1] Only a qualified psychologist can diagnose someone with NPD. However, if you think someone in your life has narcissistic qualities and they've hurt you or broken your heart, we totally understand if you're feeling a mix of sadness, anger, and betrayal right now. Living your best life really is the best revenge. We’ll help you take control after a breakup so you can heal and move on.
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QuestionMy husband and I have been married for 5 years, and we have two kids. He seems to be a narcissist. I have caught him cheating several times. He always promises to change. What should I do?Haley PengCommunity AnswerLeave him! If he has cheated on you several times, he is a player. Stay away from him! He doesn't deserve you.
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Since true narcissists need constant attention, they often hop from relationship to relationship. Expect them to move on quickly, but don’t let it get you down. They’re just desperate to replace you.[13]Thanks
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- ↑ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK556001/
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/psychology-self/2017/11/narcissists-hate-happy#1
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201901/why-narcissists-play-games-your-heart
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://psychcentral.com/blog/manipulation-games-narcissists-play#types-of-games
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201901/why-narcissists-play-games-your-heart
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-heal-from-emotional-abuse/
- ↑ https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
- ↑ https://health.clevelandclinic.org/how-to-heal-from-emotional-abuse/
- ↑ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder.htm
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If you’ve had a bad breakup with a narcissist, you might be tempted to get back at them. The most important thing is to set strong boundaries for yourself. This will not only protect you, but it will also frustrate the narcissist, since they want to feel like they can control you. Let them know you won’t tolerate certain behaviors and establish clear consequences. If possible, cut off contact with them and don’t answer their calls or texts. If they try to manipulate or upset you, calmly ignore them or tell them “no.” Focus on caring for yourself and living your best possible life without them, which will let them know that you don’t need them to be happy and fulfilled.
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