This article was co-authored by Jin S. Kim, MA. Jin Kim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of Los Angeles, California. Jin specializes in working with LGBTQ individuals, people of color, and those that may have challenges related to reconciling multiple and intersectional identities. Jin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, with a specialization in LGBT-Affirming Psychology, in 2015.
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You and your friend may have had a huge disagreement that has left you angry and hurt, and now you are too upset to even talk to each other. It is hard to be in a place of unresolved conflict with a person you care about, but sometimes it is important to give your friend some distance as both of you get over your anger and hurt feelings. You can also try talking to your friend about the fight, apologize, and find some ways to move forward. While you are coping with the fallout from the fight, make sure you are still behaving respectfully and with maturity in your social circle and around your friend.
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QuestionHow can you tell if a friendship is toxic?Jin S. Kim, MAJin Kim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of Los Angeles, California. Jin specializes in working with LGBTQ individuals, people of color, and those that may have challenges related to reconciling multiple and intersectional identities. Jin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, with a specialization in LGBT-Affirming Psychology, in 2015.
Licensed Marriage & Family TherapistFriendships are relationships, and each person involved in a friendship should be contributing and working on that relationship. If it feels like the balance between the two of your contributions is dramatically unequal, it may not be a productive relationship. -
QuestionShould I cut my friend off if I'm mad at her?Jin S. Kim, MAJin Kim is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist based out of Los Angeles, California. Jin specializes in working with LGBTQ individuals, people of color, and those that may have challenges related to reconciling multiple and intersectional identities. Jin received his Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University Los Angeles, with a specialization in LGBT-Affirming Psychology, in 2015.
Licensed Marriage & Family TherapistI'm generally not a fan of "cutting people out," and you really shouldn't do this unless their behavior has been especially dangerous or problematic. If you need to do this to protect yourself, sure, cut them off. But if they haven't done anything especially evil, I'm a big fan of just being honest and communicating with other people. Just tell your friend why you're angry and see if the two of you can work it out.
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- ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40673/ways-to-deal-when-you-and-your-bestie-arent-friends-anymore/
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- ↑ http://www.slate.com/blogs/lexicon_valley/2014/11/20/sorry_not_sorry_non_apology_fauxpology_unpology_and_other_names_for_hollow.html
- ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/apologize.html
- ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/teens/apologize.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/how-we-work/201304/what-do-when-you-ve-made-someone-angry
- ↑ Jin S. Kim, MA. Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Expert Interview. 14 May 2019.
- ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40673/ways-to-deal-when-you-and-your-bestie-arent-friends-anymore/
- ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40673/ways-to-deal-when-you-and-your-bestie-arent-friends-anymore/
- ↑ http://pbskids.org/itsmylife/friends/rumors/article5.html
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/insight-is-2020/201409/the-3-reasons-we-can-get-jealous
- ↑ http://www.seventeen.com/life/friends-family/a40673/ways-to-deal-when-you-and-your-bestie-arent-friends-anymore/
- ↑ https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/girl-fighting-and-your-child/#