How do I tell if I'm lesbian or bisexual?
This discussion is for readers who took the Am I a Lesbian Quiz.
This quiz said I "might" be a lesbian. I definitely know that I like girls but I only sometimes think that I like guys. And while I think that some guys are attractive, I don't get butterflies thinking about them the same way I do when I think about women. Am I a lesbian or am I bisexual? How did you know that you're a lesbian?
I feel the same way. Instead of forcing myself into picking a specific label that didn't feel quite right, I found that calling myself "queer" captured my attraction without getting into the details. You don't have to decide if you're a lesbian or if you're bisexual
I got the same answer! I'm pretty much exclusively attracted to women, but if the perfect man comes along, I could see myself being in a relationship with him. Some people may argue that this makes me bi, but for me, I'm more comfortable calling myself a lesbian. You don't have to be 100% only attracted to women to be a lesbian. Go with whichever label you like better!
Same! This is why I was questioning for so long.
I already know i'm lesbian so i took this test for fun. It said i might be lesbian. I never would have guessed.
i thougth i was a lesbian.
Quizzes don't define you, what you personally feel does.
I've always thought I was a lesbian, and I rarely actually get the "that guy is nice looking" but I can't tell anymore. I easily get butterflies around ladies, but I can barely picture myself with anyone... except for this one girl, whose probably forgotten me, hell, she's probably already taken by now... I still can't let her go to be honest, even though I moved away.
I haven’t moved on from my best friend she told me she wasn’t lesbian when i said i liked her and its gotten me really depressed because I can’t move on..
My friend said she liked me just after a sleepover I had with other people in the friend group when I that I liked her, and that was basically how I came out. The thing is, I kind of just said her randomly, but then I started thinking about and I was like..... Wait......
no need to put a label
just be who u want to be and try to take a break from other peoples opinion , cus theyll always have one
just be who u want to be and try to take a break from other peoples opinion , cus theyll always have one
oh , babe , im so sorry ,im also a confused , hurt teen girl , if u ever wanna talk about it.
Sorry, that sucks. If you can barely see yourself with any one maybe you are ace???? I wish I could tell my friend that I like them, but I'm afraid they're going to reject me :(
Just go for it if they say no then you can talk about it later I did this to my friend and she said she did have feelings but that she likes someone and now there dating but we still talk about it and she is trying to make me go out with one of her friends but I like someone else now but IV never spoken to them but my friends ask them if there queer and they said yes so this comment made me think that wow I feel the same way.
i think ur a lesbian
The quiz said i might be in the lqbtq community as it seemed that i was kinda into both girls and guys, and could potentially end up with sonething like Bi or Pan. Would anyone from experince be able to tell me how you figured your sexuality out? I think I have a crush on my best friend who's the same gender as me. I have found multiple guys attractive before, but never a girl, not until now. And now, i don't really know what to do, as i want a lable, i don't feel forced to have one, i just want one for whatever i am. Wait . . . Yk what? When I think of it, i've actually found multiple girls i've known, attractive. I've liked multiple women and men at this point, but idk what I am. Any advice anyone?
That actually sounds quite similar to how I figured out I was bi. I was looking through the year book and just randomly stopped on one of my friends and just sort of thought, "Oh wow she's actually so pretty". I had never really been attracted to girls up until that point, but then I sort of thought about it a bit more and started to realise how attractive some other girls were. I definitely had had crushes on guys I the past, but never girls. Basically after that it was just a long process of me figuring out whether or not I wanted to kiss girls, guys, or whether or not gender at really mattered. It took about a month but even now nearly six months later I still get moments where I'm unsure. After the month I sort of decided I was bi and over time I've felt more and more comfortable with that label. It takes time and a lot of patience with your feelings and attraction to work out your sexuality. Imagining different scenarios and changing the gender of the person helped. Just try to be aware of how different things make you feel, take your time. Try out one label for a bit, then another, and see what works best and feels the best for you. Just be yourself and see where it takes you.
That is totally relatable! I’m not sure yet either and I’m thinking of just saying I’m queer for now. I don’t get butterflies for females the same as males but I know I have been attracted to females before.
I got the same thing too! I like girls better than boys. Me and this one girl have a crush on each other and she’s Bi and her parents are hard core Christian and they won’t let her date me😭
I go to a Catholic school, but we have this whole friend group that is 'secretly queer' and when we think that someone might be 'queer' we invite them into the group to see if they fit in with us (and they always do). The friend group calls me 'the turner' because I have dated several of the girls in my group who were straight before they met me (and I'm still friends with all of them and they are still in the group).
As a girl, I learned I was lesbian when my best friend started flirting with me, btw shes a girl. it got complicated but now we are together and i'm happier than I've ever been in my life. I guess I figured it out when I got the most intense butterflies in human kind and I had a bad case of blushing. hehe😀🥰
I wish I knew what I was lesbian or bisexual ? I don't know yet it's just I do get a funny feeling when I'm around the person I like I just hope I will figure this out soon.
Same
I'm transgender, so I don't know exactly how to identify as. Since I'm a woman and attracted to girls, does that make me lesbian? Or does the trans part change everything? I seriously want to know but IDK what to do :(
NUH UHHH I hope this doesn’t sound mean or rude or anything butttt if u were AMAB (assigned make at birth) and now u r a girl (I support anyone that’s transgender 100% idk how else to put this sorryyyy I don’t wanna seem meannn) u r lesbian! U can use that label of courseeee! Since ur a girl right? And ur attracted to girls then YESSS! Ur a lesbian! I saw somewhere another comment said u can be lesbian without being 100% only attracted to girls too! I’m still a bit confused if I’m bisexual or lesbian but I think I’m lesbian honestly! I’ve found boys cute/hot/attractive but realized I never wanted to kiss them I don’t think! But girls? HECK YA I DO WANNNA KISS A GIRL- SO UR A GIRL RIGHTTT? THEN YESSSS U CAN USE THE LESBIAN LABEL OFC U CANN!
If your wear born a boy, then yes but if you were born a girl, then no. It depends on what gender you identify as
Well, honestly, I'm going through something similar... see, I'm transmasc, so, does that mean I'm straight????
If you now identify as male, and you like girls, then yes you would be straight..... Idrk I mean just identify as whatever the heck you want and ignore people who don't agree with that 💯👍
I think you can identify however you feels comfortable for you. A lot of people I know just call themselves "queer" and because we don't necessarily fit neatly into one label or another. It's ultimately communicating what feels right to you and magnetizes you to the people you love being around <3. And it's okay if it shifts over time!
Ya it said I might like guys and girls
If you experience any attraction, even the slightest bit, to guys, then you might be bisexual. However, lesbians can experience attraction towards guys too, or occasionally like the idea of them. Just remember that you don't have to label yourself, just do what feels right to you!
I have a girlfriend now and i got a little bullied by it that i am lesbian but it is howi rlly feel
Wow, I'm kinda going through that too! Everybody makes fun of me because I am attracted to girls! And one time they took it too far and said that if you are a lesbian, you are not mature, and I'm sitting here, and I'm just thinking to myself," brooo that is nooottt tttrrruuueeeeeeee :(((((((((((((" but all I say is," well, thank you for sharing your opinion..." thank you :)
i,m a girl and have a girlfriend my son said to be that he likes a boy in his class and i am proud of him that he said it to me
i got 2 different answers - lesbian and bisexual - so know im taking it again to triple check and wichever one i get next ill feel confident about my sexuality
Guysss if ur r transgender THAT DOES NOT AT ALLLLL CHANGE THE LESBIAN LABELLL it doesn’t change it one bit! Ily allll I hope u guys find out ur labelll!🫶🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Same. I was watching this movie and the most beautiful girl was featured. I really liked her. The test said I was either bisexual or pansexual.
The test said that for me too.
u do u girl
I have been sexually Attracted to females Lately I did not know this at 1st But now I'm starting to get That I am gay and I have to accept it. Love yourself.
OMIGOSH bro just say lesbian bi or straight seriously it’s not that hard just cuz I’m young it said might😩😒😤
sooo true tho it just said "might" and it made me confused and angry.
it said I am straight
It said I might be lesbian but I'm actually a guy
the quiz said i might be a lesbian. i think this is accurate but im still not super sure if i am a lesbian or not. i identify as bisexual but like girls more, im not even sure if i like boys. i’ve dated more boys than girls but being attracted to them all felt forced, not with girls though.
how do i know if im a lesbian ?
how do i know if im a lesbian ?
I got the same answer, I'm just so confused because I think I'm a lesbian but I sometimes like guys. WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN??!!
I think u are bi I have been in the LGBTQ+ community for 4 years and I pretty much think you're bi
Apparently i may be straight
My friend told me that I should picture myself married to a man and a woman. Depending on what I see, that could be a giver as to my sexuality (or not, I’m still a big fat mess so who knows)
And also, the word that is really getting me is "might". WHAT THE HECK DOES "MIGHT" MEAN?!!!!!! Like, I know that the result is not what the "real" answer is, but why "might"?
You can think about your childhood how you only ever had female friends, you only had crushes on fictional men. you don't see yourself in a relationship with men etc.
It said that for me as well. I know Im Bisexual but am just more attracted to girls than men.
The Quiz said i am Straight.
I'm pretty sure that I am pansexual, but to be honest, I've just been doing heaps of quizzes to see if that fits me. Obviously you can't get an answer from a quiz, but it helps to hear some ideas.
the quiz said "You’re probably straight." Well, yeah, I love men, they cute and stuff, but do I like women? I don't know. But I would hands down get intimate with a man unfortunately not a femeale.
I feel the same way ....never had butterflies for guys....but did find them cute.....but girls .....i could explode....i get excited and i start imagining....stuff.... someoneee helppp
I’m bisexual and planning on coming out soon, but it said I might be lesbian so…
Yeah I agree and my friend asked if I'm actually lesbian or if I'm just fake ing it made me kind of mixed up about my feelings expressly when IV been talking about this girl I'V liked for awhile and she said "you just seem like your facing it you've talked about guys before so are you lesbian or straight " I don't think she understands that there are more kinds of sexuality. If anyone can comment any problem solvers to this thanks and I'm glad I can talk about that s with out feeling weirded out.
How do you figure out if some one is lesbian or not cause I really want to talk to this girl that is friend is friends with cause I think she is cute but I don't know how to tell if she is lesbian do I just ask or find out through other people cause my goal before Christmas break is to talk to her and there are two weeks till Christmas break so I don't know if all reach !y goal give me some advice
OMG i am soooooooooooooo confused!!!!!!!!!!!
im definitely open to queer , in fact i gave a talk in front of some pretty powerful people in the education system about queer and their difficulties , i mean , i come from a VERY prejudiced society. but rn , im confused, i think im sexually attracted to a girl in my school , whose a year older to me.shes pretty , smart and has won our school a lot of trophies , in fact , shes the best footballer and swimmer in our town
i also swim , but in front of her i feel like an a nt and shes the beast dancer . now i have been told iam a great daner who has a lot of elegance and poise , but im so wrapped up in studies and muns , and trying not to cry all the time , i cant even tru to dance for our school , its even harder for me since im a day scholar. i have fantasies in my head of her and get nervous when we are even a m5 metres away from each other
ive experienced this with someone else , but it was not as intense as stalking their dads social media to just get a glimpse of their face!
im so lost rn , does anyone want to tell me whether im bi or not?
sorry for ranting in a comment.
but hwy , if u ever wanna rat just reply to this one.
btw does being OBSESSED with heartstopper and red , white and royal blue mean ur bi?
uuuuuggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh
im definitely open to queer , in fact i gave a talk in front of some pretty powerful people in the education system about queer and their difficulties , i mean , i come from a VERY prejudiced society. but rn , im confused, i think im sexually attracted to a girl in my school , whose a year older to me.shes pretty , smart and has won our school a lot of trophies , in fact , shes the best footballer and swimmer in our town
i also swim , but in front of her i feel like an a nt and shes the beast dancer . now i have been told iam a great daner who has a lot of elegance and poise , but im so wrapped up in studies and muns , and trying not to cry all the time , i cant even tru to dance for our school , its even harder for me since im a day scholar. i have fantasies in my head of her and get nervous when we are even a m5 metres away from each other
ive experienced this with someone else , but it was not as intense as stalking their dads social media to just get a glimpse of their face!
im so lost rn , does anyone want to tell me whether im bi or not?
sorry for ranting in a comment.
but hwy , if u ever wanna rat just reply to this one.
btw does being OBSESSED with heartstopper and red , white and royal blue mean ur bi?
uuuuuggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhh
Idk bc i absolutely would do everything with a girl but i think guys are attractive i just don’t feel the same kinda level of being attracted to guy from a girl it’s different i do see myself being flirty with a guy but just fun but when im flirting with a girl its totally different i can see myself marrying a guy i just don’t know if id be as happy with marrying a guy or than a woman yall i need help and the test said i might be lesbian so idkkkk
The quiz says you “might” be a lesbian even if you check all the top boxes (the ones where you are like “i dont like guys, i dont think about guys, i don’t want to be with guys”). This quiz is not going to give you a definite answer, because no quiz truly can. If you see a future with a man, that doesn’t necessarily mean you are a lesbian. If you can’t see a future with a man, that still doesn’t mean you are necessarily a lesbian. It can be really confusing! I used to think i was in love with a guy, and i would picture a fantasy life with him all the time. I didn’t really like him as a person though. Everything i liked about him was something i made up. I was in love with the idea, not the person. A lesbian isn’t super specific either. I know i am physically attracted to men occasionally, i even know i find a certain type of man attractive. Some lesbians are not like this. Something i do share with all lesbians is the fact I never want to be in a relationship with a man. I never want to be intimate with a man, i even find that idea a little disgusting. It took me THREE YEARS to come to this conclusion. Even though it can be frustrating, you have to give yourself time. I was worried i would go my whole life without a label when i really really wanted one (you can also not want a label, that’s fine, but for a lot of people a label is really helpful). Here’s my best advice: If you haven’t heard of comphet (compulsory heterosexuality), i would recommend looking that up. I would read the lesbian masterdoc (available with just a google search). I would evaluate my feelings, talk to others (a lgbtqia+ therapist?), and research different labels. Research the difference between romantic and sexual attraction. For example, you could very well be biromantic but homosexual. You could still identify as a lesbian because you only want to be in a relationship with someone you are both romantically and sexually attracted to. Lesbian isn’t a hyper specific term, that’s why I like it! Until you figure it out, umbrella terms like queer are here for you, so you can be open about liking women and wanting a relationship with a female while you are still questioning. Anyways, no one quiz or comment like this can determine it for you. You just have to give yourself some time to figure it out. You will, though. I hope this helped!
It said I'm Aroace? but I'm very much lesbian so I'm pretty confused what it meant..
It's weird I find a lot of what the quiz calls "queer media" really off-putting and ham-fisted. But I've dated men and women and some genderqueer people and have many queer friends. I guess like I identify with "straight" culture, but I am sexually and romantically queer? But like don't wear rainbow socks and go to bdsm clubs every weekend? And that's okay?
I feel the exact same way but how do I know the difference from a crush and just a really really close friend
It said I was probably straight and I believe it because I like a guy named Colton he is 2 years older than me but who cares
I am doubting my sexuality but my gay parents say that I'm not bi or lesbian until I have gotten intimate with a woman is this true?
I live in a third world country...I can't even discuss this with anyone cos I'm scared
You cannot be openly different here
You cannot be openly different here
This didn't really help. I needed this to figure out who I am, but instead it just left me confused and with even more questions than before.
I experience occasional romantic attraction or butterflies to women and RARELY ever to men but honestly only happened once and it was VERY small. But I also wouldn’t mind being with a non binary person. I already know that I am asexual but not sure if I am lesbian or something else.
Do any of you guys know what it could be? I am so confuddled.
Do any of you guys know what it could be? I am so confuddled.
Yeah I exactly feel like you
I might be les but my thing is I like one girl and that was it
I don't get it says I might be when am lesbian it's really confusing because I have got a gf
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