What are the signs of a toxic friend?
This discussion is for readers who took the Is My Friend Toxic Quiz.
I feel like my friend is toxic and this quiz confirmed it. I've noticed signs like she's always talking about herself and then when I try to share about my life she interrupts me and just talks about her own stuff. I think it's time for me to end our friendship but I don't know what to do. Are there other signs of a toxic friend?
You should surround yourself with friends who lift you up and make you feel good. If your friend only cares about herself then she's not truly your friend. If you feel like she can change, then you can try talking to her about how her behavior makes you feel and see what happens, but if not then stop being friends with her
Wikigladewhisperer, i agree with you
Whelp apparently my friend is toxic too. Time to make some changes around here...
there are so many signs that someone is toxic. they could threaten to stop being your friend unless you do xyz thing. they can ignore you for petty reasons. they might only reach out to you when they need something. they may talk trash about you behind your back. they might sabotage you. i could go on and on
My friend is WAAAY toxic and I sorta knew it from the start 😐
My friend is so toxic and I'm always the but of her jokes. How can I stop being her friend?
How about just cutting her out, not responding? If you leave her texts hanging, what does she do?
I now know my Bestie is Toxic.She is always mean,rude and disrespectful.I knew it from the start.
My friend just ignores me, and at one point she slapped me across the face and has put into situations where I’ve had MULTIPLE (like 12 at least) panic attacks. She honestly doesn’t care about me, and I’ve just been searching for someone who doesn’t mind that I cry over minor mental problems/issues, and then they could hit me at full strength and I’ll ask them, ‘what was that for?’ In Andy kind way without shedding Andy tear.
I should probably find a new friend group right about now.
I also have a friend. Let's just call her J for short. Every time I'm around her, something feels off. Now, I don't trust random quizzes online because a lot of times they are inaccurate, but this friendship feels kind of one-sided. Whenever I tell her something, she's usually like "Well that's impressive." or if it was rough, it's "You had a bad day? I had one even worse." I caught her trying to trip me once, and she's whispering to a bunch of her friends weirdly, then after that something bad happens. It's usually related to my bestie. It's like she's planning to ruin my friendship with my bestie. My bestie will be Jada for short. Every time J talks about Jada, it's always in a negative way. She says stuff like "You shouldn't be friends with her because she's lying to you about her cousin" and stuff when both "cousins" said they weren't cousins. Similar experience here, whoever you may be. Split the friendship with them. I want to, as well but I feel scared to because I have her phone number and everything. I also feel like she might deny my worries and keep me in it. (This entire friendship was forced in the first place, all of a sudden J walked up to me and was like "Do you wanna be friends?". I said yes, trying to not be rude)
That sounds super rough! Hopefully you can sort it out.🤞
it says that my friend might be toxic but I know she is I feel it. Me and my best friend are really close and my other friend is always trying to get in the way of it. She also always invites my best friend to things when she knows I can come, then she presides to call me/ text me about it and say oh I was trying to find her at this football game sorry see you tomorrow. Am I just seeing things or is she really a toxic person and if she is how do I let her go? I've been friends with her for sooo long!
If you feel it deep down inside of you that she really is a toxic friend to have, then yes, you should most definitely stop being friends with her (whether that's ignoring and stepping out of the friendship slowly, or straight up talking about it with her, etc.) Don't feel bad once you do get to that point where you aren't friends anymore though - it's not your fault for her behavior and not your job to try and fix her. I hope this helps, good luck!
if they ask u many favers but the allway ignore you when u talk to them then probily yeah
I think that you should approach her and tell her respectfully how you feel, and if she doesn't listen, just try to carefully separate yourself from her and stop trying to please her, cut in when she's talking about herself and refuse respectfully to stop talking, tell her about everything in your life that you want her to know and see how she does.
The quiz said that my friend " might be toxic ", and i actually have been thinking abt that since earlier this year... This friend, "A", has done a lot of things that i consider might be toxic (it is). For example, a few weeks ago i got a pretty good mark on my accounts final exam and i was so happy bcs the last time (mid-year exam) i failed the subject but for her, she failed both the finals and mid-year... So her reaction was like: She said to me "You only passed bcs the teacher gave everyone in our class extra marks, you know that right...?" "Yea, the teacher said that i'm already a pro with the basics and my only prob was only how to do bla bla bla-" "You know if u're smart at this topic, i would've asked u abt it but since we are like in the same LeVEl i couldn't rlly asks u (chuckles slyly💀)..." = this last one was yesterday btw... Other than that, one of the reasons why i think she's toxic is bcs when i told her that i didn't/couldn't go to school for some reason, she, most of the time, would literally cusses me out, calling me a pig, an idiot, a slang word in my language that means a freaking man private part😭 and some other mean stuffs... BUT WHEN IT'S HER TURN NOT GOING TO SCHL, I DON'T EVEN SAY THOSE MEAN THINGS TO HER!!! I ONLY SAY THINGS LIKE OKAY, YEAH SURE, UNLIKE HER WHO LITERALLY DOES THE OPPOSITE TOWARDS ME AS IF IT'S HER WHO DIDN'T GO TO SCHL💀💀💀 Furthermore, she would sometimes ignore me (maybe several times/days in a month too) and most of the time for no reason?? Like gurl pls just tell me what i did wrong bcs i rlly want to know why... Our friendship is almost 4 years now and has been going great for the last 3 years but idk why it's different this year... maybe bcs she feels envious of me? Jealous?? I'm not that much of a good friend and i'm truly aware of that, still i alwys try my best to be a good bsf for her, alwys giving her compliments when she downgrade herself (a lot of times) to make her feel better, tries to make her feel better and then forgives me when shes mad at me and all those other friendship stuffs. She said she has been friends with a few toxic ppl before and seems like shes starting to also become one now too... It's just that the reality still hasn't hit her in the face yet.
This can be really frustrating, and I tottaly see where you're coming from. I had problems with toxic friends last year. Just try to break out of those bonds and it might hurt, but you probably need someone who's a better friend and someone you can be in a healthy relationship.
My friend is also toxic....but the problem I have is we work together too. Even if I cut her out of my life personally I will still see her everyday at work. I'm so despondent about my situation. Don't really know what to do.
they should be there making you feel good about yourself like I honestly had a similar situation my friend we'll call her e she always cancelled last minute and I honestly didn't see the signs till earlier this year she kissed my bf and told me to stop being such a baby bout it and that she deserved him more
Guys, I've had a friend for 3 years, but this year she kinda seems almost embarrassed to hang out with me around her friends. What should I do? Because she's really kind, but she blows me off.
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