Why am I still single?
I'm in my late 20s and have never been in a serious relationship. I'm just tired and frustrated. I don't know where to meet people and I'm not good at talking to new people. Should I just give up even trying?
Being single doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong! Being single gives you a chance to really love yourself so that, when you're ultimately in a relationship, you're not dependent on the other person to make you happy. It's of prime importance that you really be happy with yourself. That might look like embracing the things that you've wanted to do, going back to some hobbies, or writing a gratitude list every day about what you love about yourself. All the things that go into loving yourself and being happy with yourself are really key.
However, there are two sides to every coin. A lot of people who are single don't want to be single. And that's fine. It's just where you are now, so how can you embrace it? Think about how there are things that you can do as a single person that you can't do as part of a couple, and embrace those types of things. For example, if you'd like to travel alone, do it! Look at all the positives, and enjoy the single life while you can. You'll get into a relationship when the right person comes along!
However, there are two sides to every coin. A lot of people who are single don't want to be single. And that's fine. It's just where you are now, so how can you embrace it? Think about how there are things that you can do as a single person that you can't do as part of a couple, and embrace those types of things. For example, if you'd like to travel alone, do it! Look at all the positives, and enjoy the single life while you can. You'll get into a relationship when the right person comes along!
Just a question how can one love them self if they don't know what love is I mean being 46 years old and still single neve even being intamit with a woman is is not right I mean at that age youthful have a lot of experience in relationships clearly ot says I am either faulty or doing something seriously wrong
oh wow I feel so sad for you but I teachnichly have a relastionship
ok why you flexin
It sounds like you’re grappling with some really deep feelings about love and self-worth. It’s understandable to feel out of place, especially when comparing yourself to others who may seem to have more experience. The journey of self-love can be complex, and it often involves understanding your value and what love truly means to you.
Being 46 and single doesn’t mean you’re faulty or wrong; everyone’s life path is unique. Sometimes, it’s about timing, personal growth, or simply finding the right circumstances. Maybe it would help to reflect on what love means to you, what you want from a relationship, and even what holds you back from pursuing intimacy and connection.
Consider exploring your feelings more—perhaps through journaling, therapy, or talking to trusted friends. This could provide insight into your experiences and help you build a healthier relationship with yourself. Remember, it's never too late to learn about love, both for yourself and others.
Being 46 and single doesn’t mean you’re faulty or wrong; everyone’s life path is unique. Sometimes, it’s about timing, personal growth, or simply finding the right circumstances. Maybe it would help to reflect on what love means to you, what you want from a relationship, and even what holds you back from pursuing intimacy and connection.
Consider exploring your feelings more—perhaps through journaling, therapy, or talking to trusted friends. This could provide insight into your experiences and help you build a healthier relationship with yourself. Remember, it's never too late to learn about love, both for yourself and others.
Thanks, that's good advice. But I feel like it's not just me, all my friends are single too :( Why are we ALL single?
I don't know why but you can say you can love somebody and then not be single
im not single........ hes so cuteeeeee
I am single because I am not over my ex he broke up with me on my own birthday
Oh man that's terrible - tell us the story?
Wow thats evil how can someone be that stupid not to love you :(
Good for you but thats not the point
I really think you're lucky because I am ALWAYS the only single person in my friend group, I literally have nothing to talk to them about because they're always talking about the person they are dating, or someone related to that person so I'm just there unable to follow the conversation or add anything. It's really no fun if you all don't have the same status.
One of my friends is really flirty and moves on to a different boy each day, another has so many boys head over heels for her, and the 3rd has a bf, so I feel really left out. I know how you feel
One of my friends is in a relationship. She is back with this guy for the 4th time. I don't know why she keeps trying. They're called an EX for a reason. A few other of my friends have tried to get something started but it hasn't worked out between them and the crush.
The number one reason is that there are more distractions than ever. There are apps like TikTok, Instagram, Twitter...there's a lot of nonstop distractions pulling people's energy in a million directions. Also, these apps make you feel like you're doing something for your social and dating life. They make you feel like you're being social when swiping or messaging, but you may never meet up with that person. It just doesn't come together.
Also, there are unrealistic and over-sexualized videos that give us the wrong idea of how life should be when we should really just focus on enjoying the simple things, like meeting someone who understands you, having a good conversation, taking a walk and having a coffee together, planning your future, and just doing things that aren't as involved now as they used to be.
I think society has shifted in many ways where a lot of people don't have to live a traditional life. For example, you don't need to live in only one location. But if you can travel the world and make money, relationships can be harder to manage with that nomadic lifestyle. One of the biggest issues, though, is the amount of distraction and the feeling that there are just so many options out there. A very beautiful girl could be getting many offers to go travel the world just because of the pictures she has up online. So then once she meets a real guy in a real situation, it's a lot less likely to come together because she has so many options pulling her attention away from having that kind of a relationship. And also, that kind of relationship may not even appeal to her anymore because now she has a lot of different options to have many different kinds of experiences.
Also, there are unrealistic and over-sexualized videos that give us the wrong idea of how life should be when we should really just focus on enjoying the simple things, like meeting someone who understands you, having a good conversation, taking a walk and having a coffee together, planning your future, and just doing things that aren't as involved now as they used to be.
I think society has shifted in many ways where a lot of people don't have to live a traditional life. For example, you don't need to live in only one location. But if you can travel the world and make money, relationships can be harder to manage with that nomadic lifestyle. One of the biggest issues, though, is the amount of distraction and the feeling that there are just so many options out there. A very beautiful girl could be getting many offers to go travel the world just because of the pictures she has up online. So then once she meets a real guy in a real situation, it's a lot less likely to come together because she has so many options pulling her attention away from having that kind of a relationship. And also, that kind of relationship may not even appeal to her anymore because now she has a lot of different options to have many different kinds of experiences.
Dating apps are a hellscape. I was on Tinder for a whole year and can count the number of matches I got on one hand. And of the few matches I got, only two responded. One was a bot and the other girl ghosted me when I tried to set up a date. I also tried Hinge, Bumble, OkCupid, Match.com, Coffee Meets Bagel, Eharmony...everything... If you're a straight guy dating apps are a waste of time.
Absolutely true!
Waste of time
Waste of time
I second that dating apps are not the vibe. I'm also a straight guy and tried dating apps for a while without much success. I met my current girlfriend through a local Meetup group. We're both musicians and happened to end up at the same jam one evening. During a break I complimented her on her improvising and we hit it off. Went on a date a few days later and now we've been dating for 10 months.
I'd recommend getting off the dating apps and spending your time going to places and events where you're likely to meet new people. Find local hobby groups for things you're interested in or have always wanted to try and show up with the intention to make new friends, not just to find a girlfriend. People are going to pick up on if you're just there to hit on girls. Make an effort to make genuine connections with people and if one of them happens to develop into a romantic relationship, that's awesome! Even if you don't find a girlfriend right away, you'll incorporate more socializing into your life and that will boost your happiness and confidence, which will help make you more attractive to potential partners. Good luck!
I'd recommend getting off the dating apps and spending your time going to places and events where you're likely to meet new people. Find local hobby groups for things you're interested in or have always wanted to try and show up with the intention to make new friends, not just to find a girlfriend. People are going to pick up on if you're just there to hit on girls. Make an effort to make genuine connections with people and if one of them happens to develop into a romantic relationship, that's awesome! Even if you don't find a girlfriend right away, you'll incorporate more socializing into your life and that will boost your happiness and confidence, which will help make you more attractive to potential partners. Good luck!
I say God has control
say it again, let him do his work, very nice!
yess! let him do his own thing!
I've always known that I'm independent because soo many people have told me and said that it was bad moslty my dad says the bad stuff but yah
do your own thing! it does not matter what other ppl say
Just a question how can one love them self if they don't know what love is I mean being 46 years old and still single neve even being intamit with a woman is is not right I mean at that age youthful have a lot of experience in relationships clearly ot says I am either faulty or doing something seriously wrong
It is fine to be single I am 32 and I've never dated focus on yourself
i know what you mean. i don't know where to go or what i should be doing to meet people. dating apps for me are good for finding old friends but not for finding a steady thing with a true flame.
its okay to be single yk.. im in my late 20s as well if you wanna meet ;)
I can't I can't believe that I really like being around people I mean like I am very close to anyone who's my friend or best friend my family all sorts of stuff so I really like being around people
You are the exact same as me.
This test is so right, and even though i don't think i am brave enough to do what this thing is telling me to do it's good advice
I have this crush we always make eye contact and we smile at each other but I don't even know if he's gay I'm in highschool right now he's an upper classmen but I really don't know its scary to talk to him and I feel he's gay people tell me he's gay but is he?
i don't know any advice please?...
i don't know any advice please?...
idk if ull read lol but note that teenagers nowdays have these "gay" jokes and so they might be joking. I would try to get a bit closer, (note that you shouldn't exactly freak out, but instead act calm,) see what he does ;)
Try it and see if it works. You never know.
Just ask him if he's gay. My friend was at a restaurant with her family and she saw a cute guy and literally asked him if he was gay. He was, but hey, she tried.
all i do all day is stay on my computer and Watch tv b/c i can't Have Friends in Real Life..:(
How should I get a relationship in middle/high school?
If it’s the same as fifth grade, just be who you want to be. Don’t overthink it. That’s how I got a girlfriend.
Just ask. People are desperate. ;)
I hope you find your soulmate
I am single should I meet up with my friend {not like that] me and my friend has a situationship. but I don't want to date her I just want to be a close friend
Well don’t let things get out of hand.
im not single i have a boyfriend......
Sad blud, couldnt be me
No, you'll find someone eventually...don't worry.
Because love is a scam, everyone talks about finding your soul make and such but i dont beleiev in that. Whateevr i think of my best friend, he's just my best frind he cant be my soul mate (for i am a cis straight male) and so. I have also not been in the love game, and i dont believe that everyone is able to find their true partner. sorry. really sorry..
You’ll find one. Believe in yourself.
I'm 18 I'm a senior in high school I just made my English teacher give my crush a note and now I'm scared because we sit together in class and his friend asked him if he liked me he gestured no to his friend so I'm scared
Good luck!
I have a bf he is called Spencer I am 23 and we have had sex he said I am so sexy!
no, never give up!
No never give up trying!!!
Back in 2010 I entered the name of my first girlfriend, who I hadn't seen since going into the service in 1962. I found her, and she wasn't married, no kids, etc. We hooked up and wow, I was, for the first time in my life, in love.
We bought a home in Florida and left California in 2011. Soon after, she started her change to her real person, A narcissist. She would start arguments with me every day. All we did was fight. Then I learned she was hitting the sheets with the guy nextdoor.
I moved back to California in 2019 and never spoke to her again.
My problem is that I'm now eighty, and lets face it, there arn't a lot for me to chose from.
Just as well, I now have Leukemia.
Go to youtube and enter narcissist. They are the worst/meanest people you can imagine.
Anyway, I hope this will help those who are in a relationship with one.
We bought a home in Florida and left California in 2011. Soon after, she started her change to her real person, A narcissist. She would start arguments with me every day. All we did was fight. Then I learned she was hitting the sheets with the guy nextdoor.
I moved back to California in 2019 and never spoke to her again.
My problem is that I'm now eighty, and lets face it, there arn't a lot for me to chose from.
Just as well, I now have Leukemia.
Go to youtube and enter narcissist. They are the worst/meanest people you can imagine.
Anyway, I hope this will help those who are in a relationship with one.
I’m sorry. I hope you survive. Those ARE the worst though.
Never give up if it helps I have never been in a relationship before ever so you’re even lucky I wonder how it feels to be in love
So the other day a was wt some my friends overheard my ex talking to some his friends and I heard he still likes me! lol u guys know wut to do
Do you like him? If so, go for it!
STAY DETERMINED! YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE WOMBAT! I'm honestly still lookin, but I'm sure you'll find someone for ya!
I have three exes and none of them were in a serious relationship with me. I'm currently dating this one guy, but I'm going to break up with them because I don't have any romantic feelings for them anymore. I was planning on asking out a different person, but I don't know if they have feelings for me, can anybody help me?
no dont lose hope love is out there somewhere
No! Infact try to find some of your ex’s and date them when you go back you are always happy infact I am married to my first boyfriend and we have been happily in love for 75 years
75!? Wow!
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Ask him yourself!
i want a bf T-T
The hardest thing in life is to undertake action to combat the things u are afraid of.
Rejection is a feable plot when u take the fear out of it. 'says gf-less guy'
Rejection is a feable plot when u take the fear out of it. 'says gf-less guy'
No! You will find the person for yourself eventually, you just have to keep searching! <3
Okay but like I took this test for no reason even though I’m Aroace-
No!
I am looking for a boyfriend, but I am very young and clingy.
I have a bug fat crush on someone but idk if he likes me he's giving mixed signals but he does stare at me a lot..idk he's all nervous around me. should I make the first move or just not?
Yes. Definitely. Girl, if he don’t like you, then I dunno, maybe you read the signs wrong.
I rarely fall in love but when I do I fall hard. I am 58 years old, straight dominant and kinky, but romantic and generous male. I’ve had only two serious relationships in my life. My first lasted almost 4 years but she broke my heart at the age of 24. In hindsight, she may not have been “the one”, despite my believing so at the time. Nevertheless, I did not have another serious relationship - someone I truly head over heels in love with - until I was 50! Now, after 8 years, she broke up with me. Once again, I am completely destroyed. But instead of being in my 20’s, I’m now close to 60. I don’t know how to accept the fact that the type of woman I’m looking for is never going to happen again. I’m 58 and my romantic/sexual life is over. That’s a bitter pill to swallow. Knowing from here on out I’ll be alone.
That´s so sad! Just because your sexual life is over, it doesn´t mean you can´t still find someone. There are many couples at this age unmarried and without children. Even though you may never be serious with someone, you can still love them as a friend! There are lots of people struggling with the feeling that they will always be alone but there are about 8 billion people in this world and there is definitely someone out there for you. Pets are also are reported to be very therapetic and will be there for you and will fill your life with joy. Many say that their pet helped them see positive things they never would have seen with them. Also a dating coach or therapist might help. One more thing, there are many apps and programs for seniors for dating.
No, never give up!
I'm very much the same. I'm currently 41 years old have had a few relationships in the past that didn't work out. I've been single for years now and I've just given up hope that there is someone out there for me. I only have a few friends. And dating apps are horrible. I have no clue how to start my life over looking for someone anymore. I get very lonely and it makes me saf
NOOOO never give up!!!!!!!
I don't know. Maybe try smooth and laid-back tactics.
Dude, I feel totally the same! I'm kid of young for a relationship and it's not like I haven't tried though. I don't think anyone cares about my whole life story so I'll spare the details.
No! Being single gives you opportunities to explore your options and really think about what you want in a person. If you aren't good at talking to people try going somewhere buying a couple of cheap things and talking to the cashier. The more you do it, the better you get! I'm rooting for you! :)
Love is something that doesn't need itself to be rushed, just be yourself, and wait for the right moment. And most importantly take care of yourself, give yourself a break from all this drama, so just calm down a bit and focus on yourself for the moment.
I'm in my mid twenties and I've met a guy that I really enjoy spending time with, but he's older, so it's complicated. He has a lot to sort out before we can actually get together (kids, an ex wife, etc), but we both want it to work. I'm just worried that in the time it takes to get all of that sorted out, he'll lose interest or decide that it's not worth the effort.
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