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When you’re trying to attract a guy, it can sometimes feel like a puzzle that’s impossible to solve. However, it doesn’t have to be hard! Getting any guy you want is easy when you know how to do it. Keep reading to learn how you can broaden your horizons and master the dating world.

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Maintain your confidence.

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  1. Guys love someone who can live their own life without them, but they also appreciate it if you aren’t a snob. As you talk to guys in your life, hold your head high and get the message across that you can handle anything.[1]
    • For example, let’s say your car breaks down. A confident person might handle it all on their own and then relay the story to a guy the next day. You’re showing that you can take care of yourself without bragging about it.
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Show off your intelligence.

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  1. Show the guys around you that you can hold your own in any conversation topic they throw at you. You don’t have to be a rocket scientist, but don’t be afraid to talk about things you know a lot about.
    • You might have heard that guys don’t like it when people are too smart. While this might be the case for some guys, you shouldn’t dumb yourself down for the sake of attracting someone.
    • Ask him questions about himself and talk less about yourself. Make it a real conversation about something you guys have in common.[2]
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Act indifferent toward him.

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  1. Instead of fawning all over him, act like you just think he’s okay. If he texts you, wait a few hours before you respond. If he flirts with you, act like you don’t notice. Many guys like the “chase,” even if they won’t admit it.
    • This can be a tricky thing to balance out—you want to show a little interest so he doesn’t give up, but you don’t want to go too far and scare him off.[7] For instance, if he wants to take you out on a Saturday, you could tell him that you’re busy that night but free on Sunday.
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Hang out where guys are.

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  1. If you’re trying to get a guy, you probably want to head to a bar or a club on a Saturday night. There will probably be lots of dudes to choose from, and you’re more likely to stumble across someone you like.[11]
    • Clubs and bars are usually your best bet since people are more likely to approach you for a conversation there.
    • If bars or clubs aren’t really your scene, try going to a coffee shop or a bookstore instead.
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    Try using activities you love to meet guys. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and share new experiences with guys in a way that's meaningful to you. Investing energy into these new experiences can really pay off!




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Judith Gottesman, MSW
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This article was co-authored by Judith Gottesman, MSW and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Judith Gottesman is a Matchmaker, Dating Coach, and the Founder of Soul Mates Unlimited™️ Date Coaching and Matchmaking. With more than 20 years of experience, she specializes in using psychology, attention to detail, and her intuition to create lasting matches. She is known as The West Coast Jewish Community’s Matchmaker, but her dating advice works for everyone. Her work has been featured in numerous national media outlets, such as The New York Times, NPR, and Fox News. Judith is also an author of two books, Your Soul Mate Awaits! and The Lost Art of Dating. She holds a BA in Psychology from The University of California, Berkeley and an MA in Social Work from Yeshiva University. This article has been viewed 143,324 times.
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