How to Get a Scorpio Woman to Chase You

Co-authored by Julianne Cantarella and Madeleine Criglow

Last Updated: September 13, 2024 References

A Scorpio woman can be wild one minute and cool, calm, and collected the next. Mysterious and unpredictable, this sign is one of the most alluring out there. If you want to make a Scorpio woman chase you, you'll have to intrigue her just as much as she intrigues you. Read on for some tips to make the Scorpio woman you like want you with a passion.

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Be mysterious to keep her guessing.

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A Scorpio woman doesn't want to know everything about you too soon. Instead, she wants to be enticed to learn more. When you're spending time together, reveal things incrementally and avoid oversharing.^{[1]
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Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.} She'll be super intrigued and will probably start reaching out more. Here are some ideas for ways you can be a little mysterious:^{[2]
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- If you've got big vacation plans next week, don't tell her the full itinerary. Tell her where you're going and let her ask questions like, "What're you going to do there?" or "Got any fun plans lined up?"
- Be the first to end a text conversation sometimes, even if it's going really well. Say something like, "It's been so fun catching up but I've got to head out. I'm off to the movies :)" She'll wonder what movie you're going to see and be excited to talk again.
- Scorpio women are pretty mysterious themselves. You'll really catch her attention if you're just as elusive as she is in your conversations.
- Being mysterious doesn't mean being fake, though! You should always be your genuine and authentic self when you start dating.^{[3]
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Flaunt your independence.

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Be as fiercely independent as she is. Wanting to hang out too much too soon may turn her off. Especially at first, save plans with her for special occasions and keep up with your own hobbies, interests, and goals. A Scorpio woman usually has many potential love interests chasing after her. Set yourself apart by being a little less available.^{[4]
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- Make plans with your friends and family throughout the week and schedule fun adventures that will add to your life. Check out that hot new restaurant in your city or go mountain biking on a new trail.
- Keep making moves towards your goals. Even if you'd rather hang out with the Scorpio you like, don't neglect prepping for work each week or keeping up with your side projects.
- Try not to text her too much while you're busy. Wait until you get home or fill her in next time you see each other in person. It'll add to the mystery and make her wonder what you're up to.

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Be true to yourself.

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Scorpios are drawn to real and honest people. Avoid pretending to be something that you're not, even if you're just trying to impress her.^{[5]
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Expert Interview. 6 August 2021.} As a highly intuitive sign (Scorpios are often considered the psychics of the Zodiac), she'll see right through what you're doing. Show her who you truly are and she'll be super intrigued by your unique qualities and genuine nature.^{[6]
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- If you're on a museum date and she asks what you think of a painting, be honest if you're not a big fan. Say something like, "I usually really like landscapes, but I wish this one had more vibrant colors."
- Tell her about your true passions, even if you think they're a little embarrassing. Maybe you're obsessed with tending to your apartment plants. That's exactly the kind of thing that will make you stand out and charm her.

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Look your best when she's around.

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Scorpios are attracted to great fashion sense and signature scents. When you're spending time together, put in the extra effort to look and feel your best. Wear clothes that always make you feel confident and sexy. Wear perfume or cologne to appear extra attractive. The Scorpio you've got your eye on will be impressed by your stylish and put-together appearance, and she'll likely want to see you again soon.^{[7]
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- There's no right or wrong way to dress. If fashion isn't really your thing, wear something that makes you feel good.
- Before your dates, take a shower, brush your hair, and spritz on your favorite scent. If you don't have one, try a scented lotion or even just some nice-smelling deodorant.

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Embrace your sexuality.

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Scorpios are known for their passionate sexual desire. Though everyone is different, it's likely that the Scorpio woman you like will value your physical connection. As you get to know her, be confident in your own sexuality and, if you're comfortable, be willing to experiment. To strengthen your connection, ask questions and be attentive to her needs in the bedroom. Have fun while you're away from each other by sending occasional flirty, sexy text messages.^{[8]
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- After a fun date night, text her something like, "Last night was amazing. I'm still thinking about kissing you."
- Remember that a Scorpio woman, like all signs, needs to be respected. Avoid objectifying her or making her feel like you only like her for her sexual side. Scorpio women want to connect with you emotionally, too.

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Plan romantic and intimate dates.

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Choose locations that give you plenty of time to relate one-on-one. Scorpios are intensely private, and she may feel exposed if you take her out to a crowded restaurant or bar. Opt for more secluded locations to make her feel comfortable and interested in getting to know you.^{[9]
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- Make a reservation at a restaurant with an intimate back patio.
- Go to a park with a beautiful and secluded nature trail.
- Scorpios are interested in making deep connections with the people they like. Environments like this can give you the chance to get to know each other on a more intimate level.

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Engage in meaningful conversations.

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Passionate and intense, Scorpios are interested in deep connections. Talk about things that matter, to both you and the world, in order to really get a Scorpio woman chasing after you. Avoid shallow small talk and always be honest. She'll keep coming back to talk to you if she sees you as a genuine person with interesting things to say.^{[10]
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- Talk about philosophy, politics, art, or any other subject that's intellectually stimulating. Be sure to ask her what she thinks and really listen to what she has to say. It'll likely be profound.
- Take her on dates that encourage interesting discussions. Visit a museum, go to a play, or attend a book reading at a local book store. Get coffee or drinks afterward so you can talk about what you thought of the experience.
- Don't be afraid to disagree. A Scorpio's fiery personality is able to shine in a good (respectful) debate. Plus, she'll be super impressed if you can keep up with her.

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Give her genuine and supportive compliments.

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A Scorpio needs some encouragement sometimes. Though they may not reveal it on the outside, their emotional and highly intelligent minds can lead them to doubt themselves sometimes.^{[11]
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- Maybe you love her sense of humor. Say something like, "You make the funniest observations. I could people watch with you all day."
- Perhaps you appreciate her unique insight in conversations. Try, "You always make me see things from a different perspective. I want to hear your opinion on everything."

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Treat her with respect.

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A Scorpio has no time for someone who doesn't treat her like an equal. Respect her point of view, listen to what she has to say, and be mindful of how you flirt with her so she doesn't feel objectified. If she's confident that you value her as a person, she'll want to get to know you more. You'll also stand out among her many admirers.^{[12]
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- When she expresses her opinion in conversation, praise her intellect. Say, "That's an amazing point. I've never thought of it that way" or "You always ask the important questions." A Scorpio wants to know that you respect and value her intelligence.
- Compliment her personality, fashion sense, or sense of humor when you flirt with her. Say something like, "I love that leopard print dress. You're always the most fashionable person in the room."
- A Scorpio woman wants to be sure that you like her for more than just her looks. Surface-level flattery may bore her and cause her to lose interest in the chase.

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Prove that you're dependable.

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A Scorpio won't bother chasing after someone who's flaky. She'll need to know that she can trust you before she lets herself fall for you. Show that you're worthy by following through on your promises and being there for her. Your loyalty will encourage her to let her guard down and go after you.^{[13]
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- When you make dinner plans, make sure you're there on time. If you must reschedule, let her know with plenty of time in advance and be sure to set a new date. Otherwise, she may feel disrespected.
- If you offer to do something for her, like dropping off a gift for her or doing her a favor, make sure you follow through.
- Pay attention to her and stay by her side when you're out and about together. Most of the time, Scorpios won't stick around if they realize their partner is disloyal or interested in someone else.
- Reader Poll: We asked 333 wikiHow readers who are Scorpios what they value most in a relationship, and 70% of them agreed that loyalty is most important to them. [Take Poll]

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Practice patience as you get to know each other.

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It takes a little while for a Scorpio to open up to a new person. At first, she may even play hard to get. If you notice that she takes some extra time to respond (but always does) or seems like she's testing you, she's likely just trying to determine if you're worthy of her trust. Keep seeking her out and make regular plans with her. As time goes on and she sees that you're not going anywhere, that's when she'll feel comfortable enough to start chasing you.^{[14]
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- If she doesn't seem interested in talking when you see her or she doesn't want to make plans, she's likely not interested. If that's the case, it's best to respect her space.

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How much should you share on a first date?

Julianne Cantarella
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Julianne Cantarella is a Dating Coach, Certified Life Coach, Licensed Social Worker, and the CEO and President of New Jersey's Matchmaker. With over a decade of experience, she specializes in helping women heal from a heartbreak and create healthy long-term relationships. Julianne created a comprehensive transformational date coaching program From First Date to Soulmate™ that has helped hundreds of women find love. She holds a Bachelor of Social Work (BSW) from Ramapo College of New Jersey and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from Fordham University. Julianne has contributed to numerous media such as Your Tango Online Magazine, 24Seven Wellness Magazine, and Talk of The Town Magazine. She has also been featured as a relationship expert on CBS, iHeartRadio, and PBS “This Emotional Life Project.”

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It's not how much you share that matters as much as how you share it. Whenever you're on a date, you should always be as genuine and true to yourself as possible so your date can get to know the real you. With that in mind, don't feel like you have to them everything about yourself—it's okay to keep some details private, especially on a first date!

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