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BDE, otherwise known as “Big Dick Energy,” means to be calm, cool, collected, and self-assured—sort of like Anthony Bourdain or Pete Davidson, both of whom are alleged to have inspired the term’s coinage. People with BDE are chill and easygoing, and problems just sort of roll off their back. Everyone wants to have BDE! So…how do you know if you have it (or don’t)? There are a few surefire ways to tell if someone has BDE, and we’ve compiled them for you below. To find out if you’ve got what it takes to be the next Pete Davidson, keep reading!
Things You Should Know
- Someone with BDE is easygoing and exudes confidence. They know who they are and what they believe, so they’re not easily shaken by other people’s opinions.
- Anyone can have BDE, regardless of gender or genitalia size! All you need is to be self-assured and relaxed.
- People with Big Dick Energy tend to be very influential and inspirational to other people. These folks are natural leaders.
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Signs You Have Big Dick Energy
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You influence other people. Your casual confidence and easy-breezy attitude mean you’ve probably got a few admirers. Real leaders don’t set out to become leaders: they become leaders by living their truth and not giving a rat’s behind what anyone else thinks of them. Who wouldn't want to follow that person?[3]
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Your actions speak for you. One of the key tenets of creative writing is “show, don’t tell,” and it’s the exact same with BDE. When you’ve got BDE, you don’t go around yammering “I’ve got BDE! I’ve got BDE!” People know you have it by observing your actions. You don’t have to say a darn thing.[4]
- People with BDE aren’t concerned with whether anyone knows they have it. They’re just living their life, doing their thing, and if other people notice, cool! If not, they’re still gonna keep on keeping on.
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You’re proud, but not arrogant. False pride belongs to the LDE-ers. For you BDE people, real self-confidence hinges on a thorough understanding of yourself and your worth. If you’ve got BDE, you likely think pretty highly of yourself—and with good reason! You’ve got a lot to offer the world, and you know it, buddy.[5]
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You’re not easily shaken by other people’s opinions of you. Because you know yourself so thoroughly, you’re not afraid that someone else may have a bad perception of you—or even that they’ll spread those opinions behind your back. Some rando’s negative energy can’t bring you down, so why worry about it? You’re rocking a sticks-and-stones mindset, bucko. You’re rubber, not glue.[6]
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You take everything in stride. Life is full of disappointments, big and little. If you've got BDE, you don't sweat the small stuff, preferring to go with the flow, to make lemonade from lemons. Big Dick Energy means nothing fazes you too much.[7]
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- ↑ https://www.huffpost.com/entry/what-is-bde-and-why-is-everyone-talking-about-it_n_5b34f837e4b0b745f17bfa42
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-upside-things/202009/10-ways-boost-your-self-esteem
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